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MrsEngland Jan 28th, 2013 10:48 AM

looking into fostering
 
Hi,
Me and my husband have recently discussed looking into fostering so I wanted to ask a few questions really.

How long does the process to become approved take?

Can you foster if you already have your own children?

How much choice do you get in the kinds of children you foster?

Thanks

sophxx Feb 3rd, 2013 10:58 AM

Here they like your children to be over 2 but prefer the youngest to be 5.
It takes about a year here but every la. And va. Are different. Best thing to do is go to one of the open evenings/events they have and see what they say.

Steffyclaire1 Mar 12th, 2013 17:37 PM

Fostering is an excellent way to help children in crisis, as well as give back to society. There are many children in foster care, who need nurturing and caring homes. Many of the children have been abused and/or neglected. Because of the need, agency are always recruiting for foster parents. In general, it takes about six to eight weeks to be approved. Foster parents, in many states, must go through the training process to learn about the requirements and how to parent the children in care. You can have children in your home; however, you must remember that parenting children, who have been abused or neglected requires additional skills. Most agencies require references and background checks to determine that you are appropriate to parent. Foster parents must be able to meet their own financial needs. The requirements vary from state to state, so read your state's legislation on foster care or call a local agency. If you are approved to become a foster parent, you will have a say in the type child you parent. Agencies try to match children with families when possible. There will be times; however, when the agency may ask you to accept a child for a couple of days until a longer term more appropriate foster home is identified.

Annie77 Apr 14th, 2013 17:34 PM

My DH and I were approved foster carers for Barnardos but since finding out we were expecting again, our file has been closed as they do not use foster families with birth children under 5, despite us only planning to provide respite for special needs kids.

Each council has their own fostering department so the best thing is to make contact or check out their website. It is not the quickest process but not tedious either - be prepared to attend preparation groups with other wannabe foster parents.

Also there are different types of fostering;
Emergency - middle of the night arrivals, traumatised children and stays of anything between 24 hours and 6 weeks - one of you need to be stay at home.
Short term - just as it says
Long-term/permanency - you have the child staying with you until they are ready to leave the foster care system but adoption is not possible.
Respite - providing short breaks for birth or foster parents, usually one weekend in four and 1-2 weeks during holidays.
Special needs - again someone has to be at home full time. Fees are higher due to this.

Some areas also have new initiatives looking at fostering teenagers and preparing them for life outside the system & also schemes for teenage mums.

You can foster when you have children but they will try to place a child younger than your youngest. With exception of emergency (to a degree) you will be given information about the child, age, background and specific needs etc prior to agreeing to a placement.

LolaM Jul 28th, 2013 13:05 PM

my husband and I just began fostering at the end of May, we have an almost 6 month old boy and it looks like he will become ours because CPS is moving to terminate parental rights!!!!:baby::happydance:

TTC First Jul 30th, 2013 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by LolaM (Post 28671141)
my husband and I just began fostering at the end of May, we have an almost 6 month old boy and it looks like he will become ours because CPS is moving to terminate parental rights!!!!:baby::happydance:


That's wonderful LolaM. Just don't get too excited yet. If your system is anything like the one in Canada, it can take a loooooooong time. If the parents want the child it can be quite the battle.

I really hope that everything works out for you, you are so lucky to have a baby so young. You will have a long future ahead of you.

LolaM Jul 30th, 2013 20:40 PM

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Originally Posted by TTC First (Post 28707425)
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Originally Posted by LolaM (Post 28671141)
my husband and I just began fostering at the end of May, we have an almost 6 month old boy and it looks like he will become ours because CPS is moving to terminate parental rights!!!!:baby::happydance:


That's wonderful LolaM. Just don't get too excited yet. If your system is anything like the one in Canada, it can take a loooooooong time. If the parents want the child it can be quite the battle.

I really hope that everything works out for you, you are so lucky to have a baby so young. You will have a long future ahead of you.

unfortunatly, its all bad news as far as mom is concerned. We have had baby boy for 2 months, mom has made NO attempts to visit with him, she is on the other side of the state with no intensions to move back here with her kids and she was in town for 2 WEEEEKS and never once contacted SW to make a plan for a visit. :growlmad::nope:

By the way, i love the pic in your sig, i often feel the same way "oh yeah? screw you AND your stupid fetus!"

TTC First Jul 31st, 2013 11:11 AM

That's great LolaM!!! I am a foster parent so I hear lots other foster parents really hoping to keep their kids and it doesn't work out for them. Sometimes it even comes down to cultural match. I know in Canada their priority is matching a child culturally and we are EXTREMELY culturally diverse here.

Yup, I am really frustrated over all the babies. Someone in my family just had one this week and to make it worse they used the name that I wanted for my child.

LolaM Jul 31st, 2013 23:58 PM

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Originally Posted by TTC First (Post 28730263)
That's great LolaM!!! I am a foster parent so I hear lots other foster parents really hoping to keep their kids and it doesn't work out for them. Sometimes it even comes down to cultural match. I know in Canada their priority is matching a child culturally and we are EXTREMELY culturally diverse here.

Yup, I am really frustrated over all the babies. Someone in my family just had one this week and to make it worse they used the name that I wanted for my child.

Yup. Several are preg or working on it. We have baby boy with us now but it's still upsetting

TTC First Aug 1st, 2013 07:19 AM

Yup. Several are preg or working on it. We have baby boy with us now but it's still upsetting[/QUOTE]


Isn't it so hard when you foster infants? Its the ultimate tease for someone looking for a child. I am still trying to have my own. I foster infants so I have everything I need for my own baby...except the actual baby of my own.


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