Cant get the hand of these kegels! Im doing it all wrong
 

Im having trouble with these. In the book it says that if your stomach or butt clenches/tenses then you're doing it wrong. Well Im doing it wrong. Both butt and belly are tensing. How on earth are you meant to do it properly??

When you butt and stomach does that it means your trying to hard. I know this soudns weird but next time your going pee pinch your pee off using your muscles. That is a kegel. :) Thats how i learned to do it properly. :)

Thank you so much. I was actually starting to ache doing it right, that sounds much more managable :) x

When I do it my butt does clench too. My stomach doesnt move though. Can you do them sitting down? I havent been doing them at all but I was out with a friend for lunch today who deals with prolapses and he (unintentionally) scared the shit out of me!!

Lol, prolapses, nice, ha ha. I just tried during a pee, sorry tmi, and think i have got it. Need to work on it a bit more off the loo though! Find im tensing more when sitting so maybe standing is a stating point. X

:)

Once you get the hang of it you could try this routine, it's what I do and I can really tell the difference in my kegel muscles.

beginner kegels: 20 kegels in a sets of 3, morning, noon and night
intermediate: 10 kegels held for 20 seconds each in sets of 3, morning, noon and night
advanced: same as intermediate but with each kegel you should be able to make the kegel start light, then medium, then strong intensity(grip) if that makes sense.

Ooo, thanks for that. I will definately do that. Im finding holding hard at the mo, it just sort of lets go without me even realising it. Im a bit late in starting so must catch up :) x

It's hard to hold them for any amount of time until they are strong enough. When I first started trying to hold them I'd count soo fast to try and get to 20 seconds lol

Ha ha, righto, need to stregnthen them a bit first then :)
I keep trying when Im peeing cos its the only way I know Im doing it right lol :) x