"Relax" grrrr

fairy1984 · Mar 5th, 2009, 06:04 AM

hi,

basically, anyone that I have told about us TTC has advised me to "relax". everyone from the dr to my mum to someone at work (who I had to tell for employment reasons).

anyway this annoys me and if anything, makes me less relaxed. grrr!

but I have been trying to make more time for myself and cut down on some hectic social plans to relax a bit more. i'm going to reflexology and taking baths with candles and relaxing music at night etc

just wondered what everyone else was doing to try and relax a bit more?

My OH doesnt want us to start the Clomid until i'm chilled out a bit more as he thinks we'll "waste" a month if i'm all het up about it....I see his point but I want to use these tablets NOW!

HAYS · Mar 5th, 2009, 06:11 AM

OH DEAR GOD, seriously the next person to tell me to relax will get headbutted!!!!!!!
that is the worse thing to be told isnt it???

fairy1984 · Mar 5th, 2009, 10:11 AM

it absolutly is the worst thing.

It's like they think I can just switch a button inside me that says "Relax" and i'll get pregnant without needing the drugs etc.

Tracie87 · Mar 5th, 2009, 10:13 AM

that has to be the worst saying along with your time will come.. it should be banned from saying..

Plus2 · Mar 5th, 2009, 10:25 AM

Its so hard to relax!!!!
I used to hate it when people used to tell me to relax- how do you relax?!?
On my first cycle of clomid, i was on holiday - hey presto!

Puddleduck · Mar 5th, 2009, 13:27 PM

Oh crumbs I am with Hays on this one. It is soooo dam irritating when people say 'just relax it will happen'...... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. No no it wont happen cause we weren't even trying (OPKs, Clomid etc) for the first year and said we will let nature take it's course and nothing happend..... so relaxing is not the answer for everyone. I am proof of that.

Good luck though. If I were you I would just get cracking with the Clomid.

chefamy1122 · Mar 5th, 2009, 13:34 PM

I have gotten to be a real smartass when people tell me stupid stuff like that. I usually respond with something really sarcastic, like "Wow I never thought of that. Guess I spent all this money on fertility treatments for nothing!"

Steph63 · Mar 5th, 2009, 13:43 PM

Totally agree with you ladies, being told to relax about ttc just makes me want to

One colleague said to me last week "it'll happen when the time's right", like what??!!

Cos we'd really have been trying for nearly two years if the timing was wrong for us!!!

Starfish · Mar 5th, 2009, 16:17 PM

Yep, I've had those moments! I try to ignore it but I've had to resist the urge to snap a few times. The worst is my mum, who is such a kind and caring person, but when she says "just relax and it will happen" I have to bite my tongue. We started otu with the 'let's see what happens' method, and now it's looking likely we have problems, I don't think any degree of relaxing will help!!!!

to all you long-term TTCer's

Bexy · Mar 6th, 2009, 05:24 AM

Agree agree agree!!!!!! I reckon I am actually a pretty chilled out relaxed kinda person 8) and spent one year of ttc just going with the flow and enjoying lots of

but by the second year, you can't help but think about it constantly...I reckon all them "relax and it will happen" people should walk a mile in our shoes and then see how they feel!!!! relax my arse!

Mar 5th, 2009, 06:04 AM	#1
fairy1984 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: UK Posts: 1,678	"Relax" grrrr hi, basically, anyone that I have told about us TTC has advised me to "relax". everyone from the dr to my mum to someone at work (who I had to tell for employment reasons). anyway this annoys me and if anything, makes me less relaxed. grrr! but I have been trying to make more time for myself and cut down on some hectic social plans to relax a bit more. i'm going to reflexology and taking baths with candles and relaxing music at night etc just wondered what everyone else was doing to try and relax a bit more? My OH doesnt want us to start the Clomid until i'm chilled out a bit more as he thinks we'll "waste" a month if i'm all het up about it....I see his point but I want to use these tablets NOW!

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HAYS Other Inactive Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: East Sussex Posts: 5,264	OH DEAR GOD, seriously the next person to tell me to relax will get headbutted!!!!!!! that is the worse thing to be told isnt it???

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fairy1984 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: UK Posts: 1,678	it absolutly is the worst thing. It's like they think I can just switch a button inside me that says "Relax" and i'll get pregnant without needing the drugs etc.

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Tracie87 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: In a pineapple Posts: 11,521	that has to be the worst saying along with your time will come.. it should be banned from saying..

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Plus2 AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 702	Its so hard to relax!!!! I used to hate it when people used to tell me to relax- how do you relax?!? On my first cycle of clomid, i was on holiday - hey presto!

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Puddleduck Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: UK, West Midlands Posts: 380	Oh crumbs I am with Hays on this one. It is soooo dam irritating when people say 'just relax it will happen'...... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. No no it wont happen cause we weren't even trying (OPKs, Clomid etc) for the first year and said we will let nature take it's course and nothing happend..... so relaxing is not the answer for everyone. I am proof of that. Good luck though. If I were you I would just get cracking with the Clomid.

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Mar 5th, 2009, 13:34 PM	#7
chefamy1122 Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New Orleans, LA... USA Posts: 2,429	I have gotten to be a real smartass when people tell me stupid stuff like that. I usually respond with something really sarcastic, like "Wow I never thought of that. Guess I spent all this money on fertility treatments for nothing!"

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Mar 5th, 2009, 13:43 PM	#8
Steph63 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 641	Totally agree with you ladies, being told to relax about ttc just makes me want to One colleague said to me last week "it'll happen when the time's right", like what??!! Cos we'd really have been trying for nearly two years if the timing was wrong for us!!!

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Mar 5th, 2009, 16:17 PM	#9
Starfish Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 645	Yep, I've had those moments! I try to ignore it but I've had to resist the urge to snap a few times. The worst is my mum, who is such a kind and caring person, but when she says "just relax and it will happen" I have to bite my tongue. We started otu with the 'let's see what happens' method, and now it's looking likely we have problems, I don't think any degree of relaxing will help!!!! to all you long-term TTCer's

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Mar 6th, 2009, 05:24 AM	#10
Bexy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: London Posts: 360	Agree agree agree!!!!!! I reckon I am actually a pretty chilled out relaxed kinda person 8) and spent one year of ttc just going with the flow and enjoying lots of but by the second year, you can't help but think about it constantly...I reckon all them "relax and it will happen" people should walk a mile in our shoes and then see how they feel!!!! relax my arse!

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