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Old Aug 31st, 2012, 17:59 PM   11
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Wow what a negative thread! Don't give up ladies, a chance is still a chance and there are other options if you can't get pregnant naturally x



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2012, 18:57 PM   12
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all of these numbers are rubbish, no one actually knows the chances..everyone is different, you can't make a general number like that. I'd say those types of statistics are only stress factors that will only make you psycologically even more down in the dumps then we already are. Ignore those types of ideas, it will only do more harm than good. We already have bucket loads of stress from TTC, no need to add in another. to you all ladies



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Old Sep 1st, 2012, 19:05 PM   13
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Thanks tami, stats like that are the last thing I want to see on these boards, when i come on here looking for like minded ttcers and a bit of hope and positivity. You are totally right, we are all different and you hear of ladies who have been ttc longer than this and still reach their goal. Thanks for putting a positive spin on a really negative statement! X



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2012, 22:16 PM   14
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Exaaaaactly. We're not statistics, we're all individuals with our own circumstances. It doesn't do any good to defeat yourself with some number.




 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2012, 18:39 PM   15
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jeez im 17yrs ttc what are my %'s... i figure after a embryo is put back we all have as much chance of a bfp as if its the 1st time or the 10th time,



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Old Sep 2nd, 2012, 19:28 PM   16
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jeez im 17yrs ttc what are my %'s... i figure after a embryo is put back we all have as much chance of a bfp as if its the 1st time or the 10th time,
I think the op meant trying naturally, i think you are right about once an embryo is put back, plus if for example you try ivf after 1 year or 20 years it would be the same chances the time in between certainly wouldn't lower your chance. Plus if you tried clomid etc your chance would be the same as to whenever you tried clomid along your ttc journey.
Really sorry if I'm not explaining very well, but nobody can give us a def % and nor should we want one, we just need to keep hoping and follow whatever route our ttc journey takes us on to have a baby x



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2012, 01:01 AM   17
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Kinda wishing I hadn't read this. I have only had one goal, be a parent before I am 30.



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2012, 06:35 AM   18
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Love the way OP starts a thread like this and then doesn't come back on the thread and reply to comments left! You've really annoyed me OP with your negativity and stupid statistics wish I'd never read it either but couldn't miss it from it's title on main boards, so thanks for nothing!



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2012, 13:47 PM   19
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Please don't blame the OP - she's entitled to post about something that upsets her. Even if the stats aren't true, and I'm not convinced they are since most sites seem to quote 10-15%, i think it is important to be realistic. There are a number of us on this board who will never have their own child. And while some people prefer positivity, I prefer the truth and the truth is that it will be a ****ing miracle if I get a child.

I'm not having a go at anyone, I just want to present the view that some on the board prefer a less positive point of view.



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Old Sep 4th, 2012, 13:50 PM   20
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Love the way OP starts a thread like this and then doesn't come back on the thread and reply to comments left! You've really annoyed me OP with your negativity and stupid statistics wish I'd never read it either but couldn't miss it from it's title on main boards, so thanks for nothing!
There's no reason to be upset with the OP.
It's not her job to cheer everyone up about their circumstances and if you are having a down day, pick and choose your threads more carefully. The title was pretty specific about what the thread contained.

Personally, I like to know the reality of my circumstances. If I only have a 5% chance of conceiving, (and that's WITH meds/IUI), then I want to know so that I can prepare to be more aggressive, (save money for IVF etc) or perhaps find some acceptance with my life the way it is. I have no room for blind optimism and false hope so I appreciated the thread. The reality of the circumstance that I am in really sucks and my hope is basically gone so seeing someone acknowledge it helps me.

Face forward, make a plan, and move on.



 
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