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Old Nov 2nd, 2012, 13:33 PM   51
NellyVille
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Dear people that live near me. Yes, I have been married 2 years and yes, I am now in my 30's and yes I have gained a little weight (comfort eating through 2 and a half years of ttc hell if you must know!!) but could you please, please, PLEASE stop assuming that I'm getting fat because I'm pregnant? Or even worse, asking when I'm going to get pregnant? I'm sure most of you would feel pretty awful if I was to turn around and tell you what was really going on but I don't want to broadcast it because I don't want you all feeling sorry for me. Just use your flippin' brain for a second and think that I might possibly be doing all I can and failing miserably



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Old Nov 6th, 2012, 13:42 PM   52
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Dear Friend,

You are sadly mistaken; I don't want to help you come up with excuses as to why you cannot drink at the Christmas party.



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 04:08 AM   53
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I'm sick of being asked each and every time I see in-laws when I will be having a baby. I feel I have to pretend I don't want one in order to stop questioning glances as to why it's taken so long to get pregnant. Doesn't help when friends 'accidentally' get pregnant and then all say 'your turn next'.

Also, does not help that DH has a job which takes him away from home sometimes and those days he is away usually always coincide with ovulation.

TTC is actually driving me bananas. I wish it were easier.



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 04:19 AM   54
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Dear friend will you please just open your ears please and really listen to me. I think its amazing that you would be there if i need someone to carry a baby for me, but the fs said I CAN get pregnant so please stop talking as if i cant already. Its starting to PIS* ME OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!



 
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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 05:04 AM   55
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Why does it have to almost never fail at seeing at least 1 bump each time I go grocery shopping and it's usually from either a teen, someone who is clearly using drugs (eyes diallated, underweight and very fidgity) or smoking. So far I've seen maybe a handful max of bumps that are from legit women who take care of themselves in the past 3 years. So not fair!



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 05:46 AM   56
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Why does it have to almost never fail at seeing at least 1 bump each time I go grocery shopping and it's usually from either a teen, someone who is clearly using drugs (eyes diallated, underweight and very fidgity) or smoking. So far I've seen maybe a handful max of bumps that are from legit women who take care of themselves in the past 3 years. So not fair!
I know what you mean! I am always amazed at how many 'accidents' seem to happen and how many unplanned babies come along. My sister-in-law had a baby boy (now 6 years old) and she has never been that interested in looking after either him or herself. She has moved in with her boyfriend and left her little boy living with his grandparents. She brags about how she lives off pot noodles and microwave meals and hasn't even used the oven yet. Boggles the brain, it really does!



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 15:33 PM   57
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Why does it have to almost never fail at seeing at least 1 bump each time I go grocery shopping and it's usually from either a teen, someone who is clearly using drugs (eyes diallated, underweight and very fidgity) or smoking. So far I've seen maybe a handful max of bumps that are from legit women who take care of themselves in the past 3 years. So not fair!
I know what you mean! I am always amazed at how many 'accidents' seem to happen and how many unplanned babies come along. My sister-in-law had a baby boy (now 6 years old) and she has never been that interested in looking after either him or herself. She has moved in with her boyfriend and left her little boy living with his grandparents. She brags about how she lives off pot noodles and microwave meals and hasn't even used the oven yet. Boggles the brain, it really does!
At this point I don't understand how it is physically possible to get accidently pregnant let alone if you don't look after yourself!



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 17:41 PM   58
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Why does it have to almost never fail at seeing at least 1 bump each time I go grocery shopping and it's usually from either a teen, someone who is clearly using drugs (eyes diallated, underweight and very fidgity) or smoking. So far I've seen maybe a handful max of bumps that are from legit women who take care of themselves in the past 3 years. So not fair!
I know what you mean! I am always amazed at how many 'accidents' seem to happen and how many unplanned babies come along. My sister-in-law had a baby boy (now 6 years old) and she has never been that interested in looking after either him or herself. She has moved in with her boyfriend and left her little boy living with his grandparents. She brags about how she lives off pot noodles and microwave meals and hasn't even used the oven yet. Boggles the brain, it really does!
At this point I don't understand how it is physically possible to get accidently pregnant let alone if you don't look after yourself!
So true eh? How can they have such rich reproductive organs if they don't take care of themselves..makes no biological sense, mother nature is twisted in many ways lol



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Old Nov 7th, 2012, 20:14 PM   59
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At this point I don't understand how it is physically possible to get accidently pregnant let alone if you don't look after yourself!
So freaking true!! I'm like - oh man I better buy the organic milk and maybe I shouldn't have that half glass of wine... meanwhile people are smoking all kinds of things and eating garbage and it's like they can't not get pregnant!



 
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Old Nov 8th, 2012, 12:30 PM   60
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Dear Mother-in-law,

I get that you expected your 41 year old son to have children by now. I get that the idea of me working after baby is foreign to you. I understand that you feel that since you are 65 that your best "doting grandma" years are fading fast. And, I even get that since the youngest son has twins - according to you, we should have no problem having our own.

Now, let me give you a reality check - I did not come into your son's life until 4 years ago, we only got married 2 years ago. You are not very modern in the baby before marriage dept. If you wanted your son to meet a nice girl and settle down sooner, maybe you shouldn't have tried interfering so much! Also, your other son has been married for 10 years and had the twins through IVF - why do you conveniently forget that??? Oh, and while I have no plans to quit my job, I also have no plans to, as you put it, "put you out and make you drive halfway across the county to babysit". Trust me, I don't feel the need to be indebted to you, nor do I want to deal with the constant "advice" I currently see you give my brother-in-law.

Please, BUTT OUT! I am not soliciting you for fertility, parenting, or any other advice. We are not sharing our struggles, we have no plans to, and if you keep pushing me I will STOP playing nice. So, this Thanksgiving, DO NOT TEST ME - AF is due right around there and you do NOT want to mess with me then!

- Your ever-loving daughter-in-law.



 
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