muncho, fertility specialist will tell you that it very much depends on the results of your FHS levels.
I'm 39 today, and have been referred to a specialist last week (appt not before Feb). I am having my blood tests this cycle and like you, I worry about egg quality and the rest, but in the end, even if statistics are against us, it doesn't mean that it can't happen. My mum was 42 when she had my sister and her mum 45 when she had her, that after 2 miscarriage. Her eggs can't have been too fresh, but hey, no HSG test and all in 1947!
How long have you been ttc? Have you been referred to a specialist yet? One sure thing, don't let the specialist kill your pma. Some clinics are reluctant to treat older women, especially with poor fhs because they don't want their statistics to be affected. The younger the patients you treat, the more likely to have high success rate and the more likely to attract business. Yes, chances go down with age, but that doesn't mean it can't happen.
i had a lap last week privately the cons was very good. we have been trying for 5 months - no luck. just went for a scan by chance and was diagnosed the above, i have had NO symptoms at all and have been told its severe
i have done the fhs test but he didnt have the results with him at the time..reason why im a bit pesimistsic is 6 years ago i donated eggs for my sis. 1st time i was 33. she got pg with a lovely girls. last time i was 35, the follicles took ages for grow and i harddly had any doc put me on max doasge and at the end the follicles were not great in their size. A miracle happened and she got pg and had a boy..
so im thinking my egg quality went down form 33 years old to 35 , now im 39 so surely it wuld be even worse now. but you are right i need those fhs results to get the real picture
next appt is on 12the when we will discusss IVf and wnat to go to the same clincic as my sister..its one of the best i london..
great news about your mum...unfortunately nowadays our lives are too stress ful and this can cause loadsa problems
oh I remember reading about you and donating to your sister. What a loving thing to do, so glad it was successful for your sister.
I can totally understand your concerns about your results because of what happened at the last donation, but at the same time, it is so easy to draw conclusion from events that actually might not have a link to our chances of becoming pg.
I fell pg with my first after 4 months ntnp, so when we tried for baby 2, we thought it would happen easily, yet it took 6 months ntnp and 4 months ttc before it happened. When I started ttc with my new partner last April, I expected it to take some time as 6 years had elapse since my last baby, but we fell pg first time. I m/c the following month, everyone said it would happen again quickly, but now on cycle 6 since m/c...
I too am really concerned about my fsh for different reasons. Since the m/c, AF has been extremely light, only 2 days of light flow, with a lot of it watery. I also ovulate early, at cd11. I have read that these are two signs of POF. So this month, when AF didn't show up on time, I became paranoid that it was it, my first missed AF, so when she showed up yesterday, and the heaviest one since the m/c, with some cramps etc, I was delighted. ha ha, I get a bad AF for my birthday and I consider it a gift!
It took me some time to face the decision to start investigations. I was just going to ask for blood tests, but my GP decided to refer me too and I am now pleased as it gets the ball rolling.
I'm sorry that you've found out about your twisted tube. Did the test showed the other one was fine? 5 months ttc is not long (even though it certainly feels like it), especially at our age, but if you can get IVF, then the better. I would certainly go for it too.
bodies are so amazingly wierd arent they?
i htink its good that u are having your investigations , at least you know what the issue will be - a bit like me. upset at what i have been told but at least i can get on and deal with it
5 months isnt a long time - esp compared to people in this site, but i had a niggling feeling that somehting wasnt right..
glad AF showed..even if its on your bday and lots of luck for the referral, keep us posted
would love to hear how you got on
p.s the othe tube is perfect. showed me a pic of the two and they were so different !
it feels starnge that i have moved from TCC to LTTC..weird x
hi ladies, I thought I'd join in since I'm in the same situation- I just turned 39, trying to conceive my first for about 14 months. I've had all the tests done, and like you, I was terrified that fsh or amh would come back really bad. But, they are all fine- I'm sure they were once better, but according to the doctor, they are 'normal.' I was also freaking out because my cycle is shorter than it was even a few years ago- it went from about 30-31 days to 26 days on the dot. Now that's definitely age related, but apparently it doesn't mean for me that my egg reserve is bad- but I take it as a sign that I have to do this whole IVF thing soon.
I live in new york, and it seems like every other person here is doing IVF at 39 or 40, and so that helps me to keep my pma...I have two friends who have had babies or are pregnant at 39 with IVF. But, I have really bad days when I feel like IVF won't work for ME...
I hope all of your tests are great, and fingers crossed that we'll all be knocked up in the new year!
Thanks brooklyn for this. You are really reassuring me that a shortening cycle (mine used to be 28-30 and has gone down over the years too) doesn't have to mean a depleted reserve.
It is so easy to focus on the negatives and forget the positives. I had my first AF exactly 28 days after stopping the pill, fell pg the cycle afterwards, m/c, but again, AF showed exactly 28 days after and since has been 25-26 days so regular. I know I ovulate since I get peaks on cbfm and clear temp shift every time, yet I am focussed on the things that I think could be a problem. Any way, not long to go now until I know for sure.
Have they identify anything that could be wrong or have they offering IVF just to up your chances? I've just noticed that we are starting our new cycle together (put cd1 today, but started yesterday afternoon).
muncho, I can understand your apprehension of moving from ttc to lttc. Still, if one of your tube is fine, your chances are still good that it could happen naturally if all else is fine. When will you get your results? When do you think you will be able to start IVF?
IVF would only be a last resort for us as we wouldn't be entitled to NHS funding (have two children from pervious relationship). I'm not given up yet, I've decided that as long as I ovulate, it can happen.
Good luck Brooklyn anf muncho. Keep in touch and cross fingers that we will all celebrate our 40th with our beautiful baby in our arms
hi there- yes it is good to hear other people going through the same thing. I think it's very common for your cycle length to decrease as you get older, it's just that people don't talk about it all that much. I overheard two women talking about it at a restaurant (yes, I admit, I love to eavesdrop, and when I heard them say cycle length I couldn't resist), and it was a revelation- I realized that this is something that happens to lots of us in our late 30's...
Anyway, we'll be doing IVF in January after trying clomid and IUI for three rounds July-October, and then three months natural with acupuncture. The tests haven't come up with anything wrong with either of us, so we're in the unexplained category. We're doing IVF because I don't want to wait too long- even though my egg reserve is fine, I worry that it could decrease this year, so I think it would be better to do IVF sooner rather than later. But I do wonder a lot about my chances of conceiving naturally, and of course I'm hoping and praying that it will happen in these next two months while we're going natural. I don't see why not, but then again it hasn't happened already.
im sorry i dont have ajournal..i should do the amount of posts i keep writing..
so annoying when its 'unexplained' at least i know my prob..dont like it but i can cope better knowing what it is
i really hope you concive naturally before Jan
Ill be starting in Jan too
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