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Old Oct 10th, 2017, 22:06 PM   1331
BelleNuit
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Oh man Lar do I ever understand. My younger brother just announced they're pregnancy over Thanksgiving dinner. I proceeded to get stinking drunk. They don't know we're dealing with infertility so it must have looked weird lol. To top it all off they're due date is my damn Birthday. And ya.. first cycle trying. Ugh.



 
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Old Oct 10th, 2017, 22:22 PM   1332
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Oh I am so sorry Belle.... That totally sucks. I couldn't wait to get off the phone to cry, but being told in person would have been even worse because then I wouldn't have really been able to get away. I would have gotten drunk too probably. And for the due date to be your birthday! That's awful. I hope it doesn't actually land on your birthday. When is Thanksgiving in Canada? In the US it is in November. Didn't your brother's wife recently get pregnant and miscarry? This is a different brother? Also... wait... who the heck gets pregnant on the first cycle trying?!?!? Not fair!



 
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Old Oct 10th, 2017, 23:08 PM   1333
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I’m sorry LAR. That’s so tough. My step sister who is 6 years younger than me announced her second pregnancy on Facebook a few days ago. I immediately unfollowed her (after giving a half-assed congratulations). Her twin sister gave birth in August to her first - she was married the same month as DH and I and was pregnant 4 months later and announced last Christmas Eve and I was so upset because we started trying when we got engaged. I refused to go to her baby shower (made up an excuse) and declined the invite to the other step-sister’s daughter’s 2nd birthday party next weekend - actually we are going away to celebrate a belated birthday for me since I was recovering from egg retrieval on mine! But I wouldn’t go anyway. I’m not close with them but it makes me sad that my mom will have 3 grandchildren from her step-daughters (who she refers to as her “daughters” and it always makes me feel like crap) before having any from her ONLY REAL daughter. Oh well. Glad we have each other to vent to!



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2017, 03:13 AM   1334
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Sorry girlies! I was super sick with strep throat. Then DH caught a cold from work. So we were not in the mood during O. We BD 8 days before O. So I’ll be lucky if I get a Bfp. Catching up on your posts.



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2017, 03:24 AM   1335
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I have dealt with the depression of infertility. I will never forget. DH and we’re trying for 2 years. His druggie brother and girlfriend needed a place to crash for a night. They announced their pregnancy. Why them? They don’t have jobs? On drugs. No stability. I locked myself in the bathroom bawling why not me? I don’t think I moved for 2 hours. Well now 5 years later, he’s in prison and doesn’t even talk to his child. I just don’t understand some days.

I was not open about our infertility when ttc DS.. Because some people don’t understand. They think we are “trying” to hard. My MIL had 5 kids and she was always like, just relax and it will happen. No, it takes dr appts, fertility tests, being poked and stabbed with no hopeful results. I’m now open about my struggle in hopes it will bring light to others coping with or understanding infertility.



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2017, 03:38 AM   1336
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Sara you must be so relieved things are moving in the right direction now! Good luck!

Ask - I didn't know you could find out the sex before they were implanted! That's so interesting! It sounds like things are going so well for you.

Lar -I totally understand what you mean. I don't have Facebook anymore as I just don't want to see scan pictures and babies! Most of our friends are now on their 'second round' of children, and we started trying for the first at the same time they did, and before some of them! I have let friendships fizzle out a bit in some cases as I just can't deal! Although my sister in law recently announced at 7 weeks as she thought everything would be fine with the second, but then they found out there may be issues and were having to make decisions about possibly aborting. It was such a sad time for them, I would have given anything to help, and thank fully everything turned out okay.

Belle I'm so sorry AF got you, although I think it is so positive that things have changed so much using the supplements! It's been so quick and obviously is making a real difference!

Cali - that's such a shame you were so ill! It does feel like the universe is consipring against us sometimes! But perhaps you ovulated early or late - you never know. That's so awful about your brother in law. It isn't right or fair at all. But I'm sure we'll get there eventually:

No update from me - I've got spots (yeuk) which I only get incredibly rarely when I am super hormonal, but no AF and I've got no more tests and I'm not getting any as I'm sure I'm not pregnant this month. I'm sure the witch wil be here soon
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 06:14 AM   1337
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Thanks for the support everyone. I am feeling a little better about it now... it is just that the initial announcement gave me a jolt of emotion, but I cant let myself stay mad over it. I am trying to focus on myself and planning for my next steps in this fertility process. I still dont know if I want to see them for christmas. I feel like I should bc I rarely see them and they are moving to another country in a month and will be back in the US visiting for Christmas and wont be back again for a while.... but I am not sure yet if I want to put myself through that.



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2017, 08:07 AM   1338
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Hey Lar yes same brother. They miscarried in July at 6 weeks and got pregnant that first month trying as well. Then they took a break and got pregnant again first month. FML lol. Nothing quite like that to make you feel super infertile.

Maybe by Christmas you will be more used to the idea and it will be easier to see them. I hate to say it but I don't see a way out of it!

Red I sure hope things start to make sense soon!

I'm on day 4, AF will probably be a super light flow today



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2017, 14:58 PM   1339
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Finally got AF, that was forever. I'll give a proper update tonight.



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2017, 22:04 PM   1340
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yo


LAR83 - super sorry to hear that.

Calibeachbum- I actually went through the same scenario, same. scenario. they didn't even want to be together either and it torn me in half.

Belle- sorry to hear af got you.

smurphy90- update on last scan?

Red - caught the tail end of your journal, any more tests or spotting?



AFM - I am CD2 now. a 66 day cycle has finally come to an end and I will start my clomid tomorrow. my BFF is also ttc and I think her cycle is what set mine to sinc as she is CD3. I 100% am uncomfortable with us both trying at the same time as she is competitive, and isn't aware I was going to start clomid.
DD had also pulled out an unopened FRER out of my purse at football game in front of her and my mother, I was mortified!!! I like to keep my ttc struggles to myself. I tried to play it off like it was a tampon but pretty clear no one bought it. It hasn't been brought up but I just feel really insecure about it now.



 
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