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Old Aug 3rd, 2017, 04:57 AM   1
Trying to conceive (TTC)
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22 long do you cope??

How do you cope? Whilst all this ttc is going on, our wedding is on hold, buying a flat is on hold and all because we need to save as much as we can incase we need help!

How do you manage ? I feel like my life is out of my control ...

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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 10:53 AM   2
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We're 4 years in. You just have to keep on going. We put things on hold at first but it just makes everything so much harder and more painful. You can't live like that, sadly waiting for something which may not happen (sorry if that's sounds harsh but it was said to me and I needed to hear it). I've just started clomid but I've also been offered a fantastic opportunity career wise which starts in exactly 9 months. When I applied (in March) I was pregnant so thought I'd be fine to start, but that wasn't meant to be. I've accepted the place, because life has to keep going. If we are lucky enough that this finally works then I will change things if and when that happens. But in terms of coping; not so well! I've had a full on break down at times. But that's why it's so important to have the distractions and normality outside this process.
Fingers crossed for you

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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 13:05 PM   3
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Hey we are at the 20 month mark and I also put my life on hold quite a bit so far. I didn't go on a hiking trip last summer because I just "knew" I would be pregnant by then, I've skipped out on several parties (because I didn't want to be around people who were pregnant), I've passed over job opportunities thinking that it would be best... just in case I got pregnant. Well I've come to realize that after 20 months, and 24 cycles of doing just that... waiting and planning and doing everything I can to get pregnant, and putting my life on hold while I'm at it, that I've got nothing to show for it.

I have no idea how long this will take, or if we will ever have a baby. But I'm done putting my life on hold in the meantime. So I've actually just taken the plunge and have applied on a new job! I know we will have to take a break from ttc for a few months if I get it, and I'm okay with that!

I'll say that the thing that has kept me sane, is taking a break every now and then. I'm on a break cycle right now. Its glorious!

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