Thanks for inviting me over to this thread Deb, I really don't know how this site works, but I love reading others stories and know that I am not alone with the stress of dealing with donor.
I am 27, my husband is 30. He has had two SA that each showed no sperm. He saw urologist who told us we could try SSR but all the testing and process could cost hundreds of thousands of dollars. Know we didn't have that income in our life situation right now, we have tried IUI twice using anonymous donor sperm that was frozen. Each time was unsuccessful, but Dr. said we should try two more times.
They have put me on clomid pill (50), which has greatly increased my progesterone level(which was only a 9) up to 118. Hoping to try IUI again this next cycle if our vacations don't get in the way.
I look forward to chatting with you all and sharing stories and advice!
Oops... they checked his fructose level and found that there is no block as we were hoping for. They have given us no reason for his no sperm results. They never really labeled it azoospermia, but since there is no sperm I suppose that is what he has. We can't remember any injury or anything that could have caused it. He has everything he is suppose to have and nothing is abnormal down there.
He often tells me that he feels like less of a man and that the one thing wants to give me, he can't. I cry every time he tells me this. I have to constantly remind him that I am so in love with him and still grateful everyday that I married him.
We can't afford IVF... I don't know how people pay for that. Hopefully one day when we have more money saved we can have more tests done on him and possibly find some sign of sperm and try IVF with his sperm.
For now we are trying sperm donor and I am so grateful that he ok with that.
I asked our clinic about testing for fructose but they said it's not something they test for!!?!?!
Also found this info - not sure if you are aware of it -
"Lastly, your husband should ejaculate and then have the urine following ejaculation tested for the presence of sperm. If there is sperm in his urine, this could indicate that the entry to the bladder isn't closing properly, and is therefore allowing the semen to flow into the bladder."
Again - it's not somehing our clinic investigate. They say the only way to really know is to do the SSR - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that hubby wont be going through it all for nothing.
Someone recommended a book to me - which I haven't got round to getting yet, but may be some interest to you
"Helping The Stork, the choices and challenges of donor insemination by Carol Frost Vercollone M.S.W, Heidi Moss M.S.W and Robert Moss P.H.D."
Deb, thank you so much for referring that book. I have looked it up and ordered it. I was in tears as I read the little pieces of the book available online (introduction and first chapter) and can't wait to read it.
Thank you and I will keep you posted on it as I read it and when I finish it!
Thanks Deb, have been meaning to update on here also.
So E/C and SSR scheduled for tomorrow at 9am, not sure how it will work, I think i'm going down to theatre at 9.30, not sure if ben will go down at the same time or not. It's all very exciting but nerve wracking, hoping for a miracle and that they will find some sperm but not counting on it. Either way tomorrow at this time we should be done and hopefully the eggies will be fertilising!
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