Well ladies, EC went well and we got 10 eggs! Quite pleased with that, although a couple more would have been nice, i am greedy!
SSR went okay, ben feeling a bit sore but not as bad as he thought so far. Anyway against all odds they did actually find a reasonable number of sperm, however they were all pretty rubbish and not properly formed etc, she said they didn't know whether or not they would fertilise the eggs and they pretty much encouraged us to use the donor. I would have let my heart rule and tried ben's sperm, but ben was very sensible and asked them about odds etc and they said that the best chance of success would be to use the donor, so that is what he decided. He was so brave and strong, he said he wants us to get pregnant therefore that is what he felt was best. So it was all a bit shocking really as neither of us expected that they would find any - good or bad quality as they only gave a 25% chance, so we weren't actually having to expect making a decision!
So we've gone a head with the donor and we're both okay with that. And at the end of the day who knows, maybe in a few years time they would be able to do something with the dodgy sperm, by then though i'm sure it won't matter to us as i hope we will have our baby by then.
So we will find out between 8-10am in the morning how many have fertilised and whether we will be able to go to blast - either way it'll either be transfer on Saturday or Tuesday. Fingers crossed for us! xxx
Hey girls, we got 8 mature eggs and 6 have fertilised so the clinic are hoping for some blasts, transfer will be on Tuesday, they're gonna ring us on Sunday and update us as to how they're doing, so trying to relax now and rest up. Both still very sore today but were doing good!
Hi ladies, we had the scan yesterday, sorry I did mention the wrong date, we have the pre-op meeting on 18th. The scan was no good really - it showed nothing at all - no probems, no blockages, everything is doing what is should everything looks normal. So it is all a mystery. I am thinking that surely if there is nothing wrong, then this is pointing to him not producing the sperm. However the doctor who did the scan said that his balls have not shrunk, which normally shows that a man is not producing sperm. So that is a little hope.
The op is booked for the 1st September, but I am thinking we are heading towards a bad result, If he is producing them then surley the would be coming out?!?!
Unfortunately he can't get his head around a donor, but I think he might change if we do get a bad result, otherwise he is asking me never to have a baby, and I can't do that! I have looked after his son for the last ten years, so - how can I find the words without sounding horrible - so this would be like him looking after a baby that was mine, but of course it wouldn't be just mine it would be ours - his, even if not biologically! But of course this isn't the dream - I want his child no anyone elses!
It's so frustrating when nothing is showing up one way or the other. Have they checked his urine straight after he gives a semen sample? I read somewhere that there can be a problem with a valve I think and the sperm are released into the bowel instead.
I have to say I agree with you about raising your hubby's son. But the difference here would be that it was something you embarked on together. Ok it wouldn't biologically be his child, but he would be there from the minute you conceived, the scans, through the whole pregnancy, the birth, it's first smile, it's first words etc. It would grow up with both yours and your husbands values. I can't help but feel that has to be less of a challenge than someone bringing up someone else's child from part way through their lives
Sending you lots of hugs - we all know what a difficult time this is for you xx
Hi Deb, thanks for your comforting words, I know - as always, think positive and hope for the best.
Yes he has done all the blood tests etc. They have not checked the urine, but I read about that, but he gets - stuff - coming out, and there is a good amout, so I don't think it applies - but thanks for the idea
Ladies just read all the back posts and although i wouldnt wish what we are going through on anybody in the world it is a comfort having people out there going through the same thing!! i know that may sound so horrible and selfish!!
Well here is my story:
Me 25 W 27 we have been TTC for 2 years now. i had bloods, scans, HCG etc and everything was coming back ok. I broached the subject with W about getting his sperm tested something which i expected to be a lot harder then it was but he just went along with. I think we both knew there was going to be an issue with him because we were doing everything so right and i was fine and OVing really regular.
I think it was in june both SA came back with 0 sperm.
we had an appointment with the urologist end of july who felt around and took some bloods. he said everything felt normal as apparently testicles can sometimes have different textures! W has a thing that his 'balls' are small. (i have read about this online and what it can mean but havent told him) but the urologist said they were normal sized! but tbh honest i kind of dont know whether to belive him or not as he said he couldnt really tell us much just referred us for a scan and then told us to go back to GP to get refferred to Queens Marys fertility clinic in Manchester.
so this is where we are at at the moment: Ultrasound scan booked for fri 3rd Sept
then back to GP for joint referral to fertility clinic.
The only thing that i am annoyed about is the blood results will of gone back to the GP by now and W keeps saying he is too busy to phone up for them!! slightly annoying but not much we can do with what they say anyway not going to push him will just wait for scan results i think!!!
W has become very worried about my safety and what people are thinking about him. He has been getting very upset about not producing any sperm and also said he isnt a real man and just wants the chance to have 1 child. he gets really upset whenever his 4 month old nephew is around and most times has to leave the room when i am holding him.
Has anyone else gone from urologist to fertility clinic? i am wondering who will do the SSR? W had 1 undecended testicle he had pulled down when he was 7 but other then that nothing no mumps. no major groin injuries etc. urologist was interested in the fact he had been on a life support machine when he was about 13 after falling off a rope swing and was in a coma for a few days. but then didnt say anything about why he was interested?!
sorry rambled on for a long time there!! i just feel like we dont really know what is going on sometimes!!
Thanks for listening!!!! hope you are all well!!
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