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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:41 PM   41
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I was wondering the same thing too and still feel a fraud being here when I read others stories - been TTC for about 14/15 months now. We've had one BFP but MC in Oct 2010 at 6 & 1/2 weeks. We hadn't told family we were trying didn't want to say we were trying , although think they all expect. I had to tell a couple of friends about the MC and although they have been great- they have said at least I can concieve- i know that this must be true (although not sure) but its still frustrating. The month I got my BFP we had just been at Dr to start asking for help, I had just had an Ovulation test and I had been on a short course of Antibiotics to try and clear up spots/ boils which I do get regulary. For some reason my husband didn't cancel his fertility test and it was the week or so after I MC so he just went for it. When he eventually went to get results they said he would need to go back with another sample and they did not explain why or what was wrong so he is due to give another sample next week. Its time consuming this TTC isn't it?!!



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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:52 PM   42
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Your all making me feel bad only TTC for 6 months, we had sort of ntnp 2 months before that but that still only makes it 8 months....



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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 16:04 PM   43
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Leopard - That's how I felt too, but then almost everyone in the ttc threads had normal cycles. Plus, it was difficult seeing new girls come in and get their BFPs straight away. I just lurked in here before being referred to a FS, and started posting after being diagnosed with PCOS. I still feel that I haven't really been ttc for that long when I see others who have been trying far longer than me.
It makes me a little mad when you get the ones on TTC who recon they've tried everything and are complaining its taking forever when they've only been trying a month or two.

At the same time I worry there's someone reading this thinking
"huh just a year??? I've been trying a lot longer!"

I have a lot of respect for the women who never give up hope and spend years trying until they get their baby, it must take a lot of strength.

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I know what you mean. I like it here because I feel I relate better and can get great advice on the FS process. I don't think I would be in here if I had a regular cycle though unless I had been trying longer (this is just me). I really respect every woman in here...it does take a lot of strength. I've already decided that we'll just keep trying naturally if we end up being told we need IVF, but that's still a long way down the road for us (at least 6-9 months).

There was one gal in ttc (though I know she meant well) that posted this big long thing about her ttc journey and how she finally got that BFP (3 whole whopping months). I was like, that's not long at all, in fact, completely fertile couples can take up to a year to conceive and that's completely normal. I knew when we first started that it would take us awhile and thought it would take at least a year, but I still felt disappointed after each cycle (which I think is normal too)

I have found ttc easier/less frustrating now that all my pregnant friends have had their babies (or are no longer than 2 months from due date), and so far no one else has announced their pregnancy.

I am curious about how those who have been ttc 2+ years feel about us 1 yearers (is that even a word ) joining in here. I guess my biggest fear about coming over here is if I do fall preg within the next couple months because I didn't want to seem like I was just being impatient with the whole process before giving it more time. I hope that makes sense.



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2011, 09:04 AM   44
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I am curious about how those who have been ttc 2+ years feel about us 1 yearers (is that even a word ) joining in here. I guess my biggest fear about coming over here is if I do fall preg within the next couple months because I didn't want to seem like I was just being impatient with the whole process before giving it more time. I hope that makes sense.
Well i think if its over a year then you have been ttc for a long time, some just take longer than others and i know when i was a year it marks the sort of normal deadline and you realise there is possibly a problem so i just view everyone whether trying for 1 year or 10 years in the same boat although i think each year that passes the pain heightens but we have all been at a year so know how bad it feels so don't worry yourself but just think each cycle that passes is a cycle closer to your bfp!


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Old Jan 7th, 2011, 18:12 PM   45
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What a wonderful way to view it, thank you

How is the soy and EPO seem to be helping you? I had just started those when I was told to stop using them by our RE...they're just sitting in my cupboard.



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2011, 06:39 AM   46
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What a wonderful way to view it, thank you

How is the soy and EPO seem to be helping you? I had just started those when I was told to stop using them by our RE...they're just sitting in my cupboard.
EPO has definitely improved CM and this is my second cycle on soy but its shortened my cycle length (from 34 days to 28) and its made my LP 12 days instead of 10 so thats pretty good! Except i'm not sure if i will be using soy again next cycle or giving it a break because i'm not wholly convinced its that good for you ... They would have told you to stop taking them because they are like natural supplements and not been properly tested i assume?


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Old Jan 8th, 2011, 08:43 AM   47
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I have been trying for over 2 years now. However, I moved over pretty sharpish after a few months as it was so obvious I was going to get nowhere and the ladies here had loads of experience and advice for me. I had loads of people help me then which I really appreciated. TTC is bloody awful (in my experience) and I would personally like to think that anyone who is having problems is welcome xxxxxxxxxxx



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2011, 15:56 PM   48
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What a wonderful way to view it, thank you

How is the soy and EPO seem to be helping you? I had just started those when I was told to stop using them by our RE...they're just sitting in my cupboard.
EPO has definitely improved CM and this is my second cycle on soy but its shortened my cycle length (from 34 days to 28) and its made my LP 12 days instead of 10 so thats pretty good! Except i'm not sure if i will be using soy again next cycle or giving it a break because i'm not wholly convinced its that good for you ... They would have told you to stop taking them because they are like natural supplements and not been properly tested i assume?


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Yep, that's pretty much why. Plus, they don't want anything that might interfere with the treatment. But if the clomid cycles don't work and they want to move to IUI, then I might just go ahead and try the EPO and soy. I'd like to try "naturally" a bit longer before moving to assisted. We are both fairly young still (me-28, DH-33) and are willing to ttc longer before moving to IUI.

There are so many mixed reports on everything, that it's impossible to keep up with everything! First it's like don't eat/take this, then it's do eat/take this, and then don't...



 
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