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Old Aug 18th, 2011, 09:41 AM   1
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first iui...dr suckedddd


Just had my first iui.hard to ever get excited but it would be nice.didn't have a good experience.my clinic also does Preg women so I waited forever as usual listening to baby heartbeat thru the wall.I was nervous anyway.my Dr just walked in the room said hi and stuck the speculum in.I normally need a child sized cause I'm small and it hurt so bad.he was like um you need to relax or I can't do this.ok....like I'm trying not to? Then the put in the catheter and I started cramping and he was like you need nonstop tensing! Youve had iuis before.and I said um no I haven't. Then he was like ok come backing two weeks and left.

I'm so mad! It hurt and it still hurts and he was in such a hurry.no empathy at all. If this time doesn't work im switching drs. As if this isnt emotional enough.sry this is all grammaticaly wrong..I'm on my phone lol



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2011, 10:04 AM   2
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That's terrible! You should definitely switch to another doctor. It also helps to go to a clinic that specializes in only infertility so there are no pregnant women and babies everywhere. Next time, you also might want to have your DH or a friend come with you for moral support. But FX'd for you that you won't need another IUI!



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2011, 14:10 PM   3
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Yeah, I just moved and my old clinic was very small, only infertility. This place is big, I wait forever and ever, and I feel like an afterthought--like "Oh an infertile person". It's hard to find clinics around here, and if I do switch I'm afraid I'll miss even more time and another cycle, so I don't know what to do. But I really don't want him to ever do another procedure on me.

I REALLY wanted to bring my DH but he couldn't get off work. We moved 5 hours away from friends and family so I was on my own.

I feel like, you're supposed to get pregnant alone, in a romantic setting basically right? So it's hard enough, without being basically manhandled and told it's your fault it hurt. It isn't supposed to hurt! Like, I really want to get pregnant but I can't say I'd have fond memories of how it happened.



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2011, 16:40 PM   4
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That sounds awful! I am so sorry that you had to have such a *&%$! of a Dr.!

A sympathetic Dr. can make all the difference. It would be great if they at least recognised the fact that we are finding this whole process extremely emotional!



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2011, 21:21 PM   5
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I know. He could have stepped back and thought for a moment about what he was doing. It isn't like this is how I wanted it. Or even if he'd been like "ok, I'm sorry that hurts, let's try to relax" instead of yelling at me. It was ridiculous.



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2011, 01:26 AM   6
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OMG that's terrible. I'd find a new Dr and then I'd write and file a complaint against this one. Doctors are supposed to have a good patient manner and this one obviously doesn't.

FX that it works and you don't have to go through it again x



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2011, 11:11 AM   7
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Well, hopefully you can find a new place to go if this cycle doesn't work. You shouldn't have to put up with that!!



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2011, 12:55 PM   8
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I would actually file a complaint. This is absurd. You're trying to make a baby, wouldn't hurt them to be nice!



 
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Old Aug 19th, 2011, 13:11 PM   9
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not cool at all I would definitely switch. I truly hope you get your so that you don't have to go back to him...

I had my first IUI this cycle and it was uncomfortable too but that's bcuz I have a high cervix and my doc was having trouble getting to it but he spoke to me and said things like, I know it hurts, or almost there, and he mentioned that I would cramp once the sperm was inserted.... he's a God send, thank you God! luckily hubby was there with me too holding my hand and rubbing my arm...



 
Old Aug 19th, 2011, 20:32 PM   10
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Yeah I definately want to switch, I just have to get in somewhere else. I have a high cervix too so things hurt more because it takes a while to find everything I guess..

I just feel like he could have thought....I'm trying to get pregant...have some compassion. If I DO get pregnant, I want to find a new doctor anyway..don't want him delivering the baby

I'm also afraid he screwed up anyway..he had me do the IUI 17 hours after trigger..I feel that's way too soon. Never explained it to me and I was too upset after the IUI to ask and he just ran out anyway



 
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