One of my friends said, "Maybe God isn't answering your prayer because you're conflicted about it." I asked her whatever in the world gave her the impression that I wasn't 100% sure I wanted another! Of course I want it or I wouldn't continue to TRY month after month! She also said the usual "Don't stress so much about it, then it will happen." So I told her that I don't stress until I'm in the 2ww, and by that time what's done is done. When I told that I had prayed that if it's God's will for us to have another, please help us conceive. She responded, "That's the problem, you aren't believing that He'll answer your prayer. You must believe He will answer it...and not say 'if it's your will.'"
I don't think I'm going to talk to her again until I get pregnant. LOL
And this one is minor, but I hate when people who know we're ttc ask me, "Any news yet?" So now I must continually tell people that I'm still not pregnant. I always tell them that as soon as I get my bfp, they will know about it! I have one friend that will ask several times a month. I keep explaining that I only get ONE shot a month! So irritating!
"I don't know, but I just have a good feeling about this time..." (This friend has said this 3x!...and she's been wrong every time but still says it)
"The timing has to be just right..." (Really? Timing of what?)
"God is in control!" (Yes, I know He is, but is that really the best thing to say to me?)
"You don't want to go through labor anyway....just adopt and let someone else go through that." (Said by a family member)
OMG! Someone actually said the last one! I think I would have smacked them. That why I liked our devious plan...we told his parents that we were ttc when I had to get my laparoscopy. But seeing as though my MIL is part of the 'cuban herald' she obviously told people, but then she tells them not to tell, so they don't talk to us about it . Of course that's out the window now cause we're not lying about why we had to move back into the in-laws...to save money for fertility treatments. But they still seem not to ask.
"You just need to go on a vacation, then it will happen." Oh, is that all it is? Because we have been on a few vacas since starting TTC. Are we missing some magic vacation baby making dust or something? Now vacations are a distant memory because we need the money in case we will be facing infertility treatments. Would you like to shell out the money and the magic dust?
"Don't you get tired of waiting?" Nope, not at all...I'm having the time of my life
I also hate when people complain about their kids, how tiring being a mother is, and how terrible being pregnant is...I wish I could go through that "misery"
REALLY!! So that would me all the people who beat, neglect or throw their kids in the trash are meant to be "mothers"??? I don't think so.
Of course the classic, "You're trying to hard."
I actually finally responded to this one with, "I don't ovulate on my own, so no matter what I need help from a doctor."
"You do know how a baby is made, right?"
Nope don't have a clue....we hold hands all the time.
"Don't be upset if you don't get a positive test this month."
Oh yes and when I talk about how I can't wait to be a mother I hear things like. "A month of no sleep and you will pass that baby off on whoever you can!"
Probably not! I've waited to long for a baby and I will cherish every moment! I have a friend who also had difficulty TTC. She ended up adopting for other reasons and said I didn't let him go for a long time. Even if I was tired.
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