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Old Mar 21st, 2013, 16:23 PM   1
Blackmoon
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Lesbian couples experience before and after child birth


So my partner and I are wondering what other lesbian couples experienced during pregnancy and after the child was born.

1. Did the baby recognize your partners voice after he/she were born?
2. Did the baby respond to your partner if she talked or sung to your belly while you were pregnant?
3. What does the child call each of you?

Anything really helps we just would like to know what other couples have experienced having a child together. Thank you bunches.





 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2013, 14:44 PM   2
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Awesome question! I'd like to know too-we are currently waiting to try still so i have no answers unfortunately.



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2013, 22:58 PM   3
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So my partner and I are wondering what other lesbian couples experienced during pregnancy and after the child was born.

1. Did the baby recognize your partners voice after he/she were born?
2. Did the baby respond to your partner if she talked or sung to your belly while you were pregnant?
3. What does the child call each of you?

Anything really helps we just would like to know what other couples have experienced having a child together. Thank you bunches.



Well for us he most definitely recognized my partners voice. He would kick a lot when he heard her. He is still pretty little so he isn't able to say each of our names Mommy and Mama, but he knows that we are his mom's. What is great is the way he lights up when he sees my partner.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 10:15 AM   4
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AWWWWW thats too cute. CONGRATS by the way.

My partner and him have such a cute bond already. She lays her head on my tummy and sings to him and he kicks her in the face and stuff. It's too adorable.

What was your experience giving birth? I don't know why I'm so scared about labor but I am. Did you do it natural or with an epi? How long were you in labor?

If this is too personal you can tell me to bug off lol.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 15:26 PM   5
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Hiya our dd responds to both of us. My partners the funny mummy and can make her laugh just by looking at her lol im more the one who she looks to for feeding etc lol. I wanted to have a natural waterbirth but as soon as that first contraction hit i was the 1st to be screaming for the epi lol. I was however 16 days over due and had been induced twice and was put on a drip lol. With the epi i think i was so relaxed i slept through to 10 cm ha ha . After all tht and two hours of pushing i had to go into theatre for forcep delivery as she got stuck. Big baby lol. I then had a third digree tear to be fair i didnt feel a thing and had a smile on my face. I think my partner was more trumatised. Great experiance and would do it again. Random i know lol x sorry tmi x



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 15:34 PM   6
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Ha ha blooming phone red your post quickly. Thought you were asking about the child birth lol sorry.. Embarresing. Answer to your question its working really well for us. Our lo has a special relationship with both of us. Congrats x



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2013, 16:34 PM   7
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Hi, not sure about recognising either of our voices if I'm being totally honest, but a year on it is fair to say that he has two mummies who are equally important to him. (Well, unless one of them happens to be eating chocolate so that one is then temporarily the best!) He doesn't call either of us anything yet - well, he says mumumumum but don't think it is in context yet. We haven't got names predecided, just waiting to see what he calls us (although as my partner is significantly thinner than I am, I am hoping that it won't be mummy fat and mummy thin!). Lots of people seem interested in who his birth mum is and the role of the other mummy. Its simple. He has two mums, both of whom wanted him more than anything and both of whom love him unconditionally. Who actually gave birth is irrelevant to us and to him.



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Old Mar 25th, 2013, 13:27 PM   8
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Hiya our dd responds to both of us. My partners the funny mummy and can make her laugh just by looking at her lol im more the one who she looks to for feeding etc lol. I wanted to have a natural waterbirth but as soon as that first contraction hit i was the 1st to be screaming for the epi lol. I was however 16 days over due and had been induced twice and was put on a drip lol. With the epi i think i was so relaxed i slept through to 10 cm ha ha . After all tht and two hours of pushing i had to go into theatre for forcep delivery as she got stuck. Big baby lol. I then had a third digree tear to be fair i didnt feel a thing and had a smile on my face. I think my partner was more trumatised. Great experiance and would do it again. Random i know lol x sorry tmi x

Lol Your fine. Im actually glad you told me about your experience giving birth lol. Thats actually what Im most scared of. Im thinking about doing it natural but at the same time I might want an epi. Lol I guess everything is going to depend on how I feel when the time comes. But thats awesome and CONGRATS. I have a feeling my partner is going to be the funny one. She is actually way more excited then I am I know that sounds bad but idk I talk to him and stuff and interact with him but not as much as she does. I hope that isn't a bad thing lol.



 
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Hi, not sure about recognising either of our voices if I'm being totally honest, but a year on it is fair to say that he has two mummies who are equally important to him. (Well, unless one of them happens to be eating chocolate so that one is then temporarily the best!) He doesn't call either of us anything yet - well, he says mumumumum but don't think it is in context yet. We haven't got names predecided, just waiting to see what he calls us (although as my partner is significantly thinner than I am, I am hoping that it won't be mummy fat and mummy thin!). Lots of people seem interested in who his birth mum is and the role of the other mummy. Its simple. He has two mums, both of whom wanted him more than anything and both of whom love him unconditionally. Who actually gave birth is irrelevant to us and to him.
About the voice thing I want to know because I watch a lot of shows on TLC and it seems that when the babies first come out they are crying and stuff but as soon as the mother or father starts talking to them they become relaxed and stop crying. Congrats by the way. lol @ mommy fat and mommy thin. I don't think that really matters to children because my mother is a big women and can't no one tell me nothing that women is beautiful lol and I'm a grown up. I honestly don't believe it matters who gives birth or whose blood the baby has, all that matters is we both love him equally and unconditionally. We planned him together went through this whole journey of pregnancy. Its a beautiful thing and not many people can say that they have experienced what we've been through so I feel blessed.



 
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Old Jun 19th, 2013, 14:27 PM   10
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Hi, we have a 6 day old baby son 💙💙 to answer ur question our baby used to kick and jump a lot whenever my wife spoke or touched my stomach, whenever he was having quiet days and i was worried about movement my wife just used to have to put her hand on my belly and he would start jumping, i think he absolutely recognises our voices, even though he is only 6 days old he follows us around the room and as soon as either of us talk he stares intently at us, when he is old enough both of us will be called mummy, because we both chose to make him together, we went through the process togethor, we both love him unconditionally and we will both always be his mummies xxxx



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