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Old Jul 15th, 2013, 12:09 PM   1
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IVF journey starts here...


Hello everyone!

I've been meaning to start this thread for ages. Its an idiots guide to IVF. Basically this is our story so far...

We started insemination at home around 18 months or 2 years ago ish. No luck for us unfortunately. We didn't do it every month but it still feels like we've been trying for so long.

Totally fed up with the failures we approached our GP. He then sent us to someone in the hospital who we had to wait months to see... annoying! When we got there the lady told us that our GP shouldn't have sent us in the first place. Not because we're a same sex couple but cos were were too fat!!! Shocking lol. We we're told that we needed a BMI of 30 or below to even get tests. The way our PCT works is that same sex couples are funded but only if there is a fertility issue. If they test you and you're all clear then we get no help NHS wise. Mean!

So off we went to loose weight but whilst doing that we also lost patience! Bored of waiting and just getting older. We are 33 and 34 right now and we would love to have more than one baby so time is short. We decided to look into private IVF

We only came up with one clinic where we felt comfortable and with good reviews. London Womens Clinic. Luckily my wife works in London so its pretty convenient for us. We went to one of their inseminars. Totally free you just have to book. They give you loads of information and give you the opportunity to book for a fertility MOT at the end, which we did.

A short time passed and we went in for that appointment. You get a discussion with the Dr about what sort of things you are hoping to go for and then they give you an internal ultrasound to see what is going on in you ovaries. We also opted for an extra blood test that checks your ovarian reserves. We found out that H has one polycystic looking ovary but the Dr put that down to the weight and that should clear up, sort of, with weight loss. He wasn't too worried. The bloods came back with good levels for our age bracket so yay! That appointment and bloods set us back 210 which makes me want to cry. They've got you over a barrel really. They have amazing ways with eggs and sperm which we need in our life.

All we needed to do was loose the little bit of weight. Actually it was about 2.5 stone, so not that little. About time though really. No fun being a fattie. Other than being able to eat all the pies. That was always nice

So we went on a low carb diet which saw the weight drop off Got to a BMI of 31 and called the clinic up to say we're ready! Can we start with 31 and not 30?? They said yes. Obviously not governed by strict rules like the NHS but still lower weight is better for your chances so we continued on the diet, and are still doing the diet now. The pounds are going ))

So OK here we go! We had already filled out forms and done everything we needed so the Dr gave us a treatment plan. Long Protocol (if that means anything to anyone - it doesn't me!) I have to say. There are a few technical bits and bobs to this process but we are not going to get too bogged down with it all. we take the positive bits and hold on to those, do what the Dr tells us to do, turn up at the clinic when we are booked in and just do everything we can health wise to make our chances the best.

First thing we did was order injections. Well all the drugs we needed. I think you can get them cheaper if the clinic writes you a prescription and you shop around. Asda pharmacy was mentioned a few times. We opted for the clinic sorting it out for us and delivering the drugs to the house. Super convenient! The pack had a load of burselin, Gonal F, progesterone pessaries and pregnal trigger shot meds to. Oh and all the needles etc that you need. You're totally sorted, need nothing else. The drug package cost us 1200.

Now we needed sperm. Not something that fills me with joy but in actual fact it could if it all goes to plan. Some very generous chap will have helped us start a family all out of the goodness of his heart. Yay
We went with London Sperm Bank. They are actually downstairs in the basement of London Womens Clinic. The sperm isn't kept there, I don't think but still ever so convenient, we thought. There is an online catalogue which is good. We picked a donor that was similar to both of us in different ways, apart from, tall. We are short, which is tough when you really want something from the top shelf. We are secretly hoping for tall children that can reach everything that we never could. Sperm has cost us 850.

Next step was wait until you ovulate. We had loads of test from TTC at home so waited on that. Some people who have very regular cycles just start injections on day 21 but H is a bit longer than the norm but basically you start injections 7 days before your period. So that's what we did.

I'm a bit funny about the needles. So so so glad i'm not injecting myself. I can't even offer to help H with any of it. Not that I needed to as she has that down! The first injection was pretty painless. There have been a couple of sore ones since. Trick there is to try and avoid old injection sites, but it gets crowded pretty quick. We've been injecting for 12 days now. Ouch.

H got her period which is great as that's the next step. Call the clinic and book in for the baseline scan. That is where we're at. We are booked in for this Wednesday. I guess they will be taking a good look around and seeing how the ovaries look and from then on just monitor how the eggs grow. It's exciting! )) I know we have to pay the bulk of the treatment when we go on Wednesday. Can't remember, (or perhaps I've blocked it out), how much it is. It's loads anyway. What we thought we would do was make a day of it. We both booked a day off work. Our appointment is in the morning so we have all afternoon. It's going to be so warm! No not warm, HOT! So we're off to the zoo! Yes London Zoo here we come. A nice outside light hearted activity for the day. I won't be going to London for every scan after this one, so it will be a nice day for us just being together and both feeling a part of the whole thing. We are only in Bedfordshire, so not miles away. I'm planning on being there for the retrieval and implantation and any other that's deemed very important, but i hear that there can be many appointments/scans leading up to those which H can do in her lunch hour or just before/after work. She is 10 minutes away by Barclays bike.

That's it. So far... Much more to come, and in shorter posts! Sorry about that.

Keep everything crossed for us



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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 10:25 AM   2
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Wednesday came and went. Went to the appointment for a baseline scan and have to say, have mixed feelings about it.

Firstly we were called into the room by the woman who was doing our ultrasound. She got a bit mixed up with where abouts we were in our treatment. I think this is a common thing at this clinic. Don't get me wrong, they are all very pleasant and accommodating but no one seems to talk to one another so everyone gets a bit confused, and asks us questions which we shouldn't be being asked at this stage.

Anyway, the scan goes along pretty quick. She counts about 24 follicles. Takes a few pictures and then asks us to wait in the waiting room and the nurse will be along shortly to have a chat. We did feel a bit weird at this stage like something wasn't right but she didn't say anything so off we went.

The nurse walked passed us and said she was just going to have a chat with the Dr and will be right back. That got us a bit more worried... She took her sweet time coming back, to! Most likely felt longer because we nervous. When she did get back and we sat down with her we just went right in with have you brought your consent forms with you? No, we already filled them out, we thing? She says they're not there so we have to do more. It turns out that we hadn't filled these ones out just a bunch of other ones. Why you ask? Because no one gave them to us! More miscommunication among the staff. A little bit irritated but in the grand scheme of things no big deal. Once that was out of the way we talk about changing the buserelin down to a smaller dose and starting the Gonalf. Good good. We also get booked in for scans next Mon, Weds and Friday. Feels like a lot of scans, probabaly a lot more to follow in the week after to. Then that was it...

but wait, no mention of any issues? We had that weird feeling that something wasn't right and now no one wanted to mention it... We asked.

Apparently there could be a polyp in H's uterus. What! The nurse was very matter of fact about it. They will check again on Mondays scan and then decide what to do. Again, a little bit annoyed at this stage that they aren't very forthcoming with information. I wish they would explain more without the asking. If this wasn't out first try obviously we would be a bit more clued up but currently we are novice and all we know is what we've learnt from Google.

Plan is - get scanned and Dr will decide if we carry on or cancel this cycle. Or maybe carry on, collect eggs - freeze eggs... Pop off to have possible polyp removed and return in due course for a frozen cycle. Don't like the sound of that but that's our situation and it is what it is. No changing it so we will deal with however it turns out.

Paid loads of money on the way out 3725 which made us feel even more deflated on top of pretty emotional. Eek. We ran out off to Regents Park found a cafe and stuffed a bowl of strawberries between us. Much better! Off to the Zoo we went...

Now, I can't decide if the Zoo has gone downhill or not. The animals are not very visible a lot of the time. So unless you want to hang about for feeding times you miss out. Also it's looking a bit rough around the edges. Maybe we were just bummed out, or maybe I'm just not a 10 year old girl anymore. Zoo is defo for the kids. Was lovely to be out and about in the sun though. No sunburn today either which is very good news.

Wish us luck for Monday. Hoping that it's nothing to worry about, and the cycle can go ahead as planed



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Old Jul 19th, 2013, 15:38 PM   3
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Nothing I say will stop you from worrying, just wanted to say we have genuinely been there and thankfully for us, all worked out in the end. My partner and I went through IVF (well, she did although it genuinely felt like both of us!) We got lucky first time which was fantastic but I TOTALLY understand the whole scan anxieties, whether something is or isn't wrong and all of that crap. The whole thing was incredibly stressful and cost so much money. I can't offer loads of advice, but there aren't many same sex couples on here who opted for private IVF (we went through BMI Birmingham) so anything that either of us can help with, we are genuinely keen to offer. HUGE good luck. Our incredibly lucky, miracle boy is now 16 months old. Sometimes I liked people talking about their baby, sometimes I was just insanely jealous. But he was worth every anxiety ridden, stress filled penny in the world. There are few people on here who I genuinely relate to and you are one. So I really really have everything crossed for you. Let us know how it goes xxx



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Old Jul 22nd, 2013, 05:30 AM   4
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Nothing I say will stop you from worrying, just wanted to say we have genuinely been there and thankfully for us, all worked out in the end. My partner and I went through IVF (well, she did although it genuinely felt like both of us!) We got lucky first time which was fantastic but I TOTALLY understand the whole scan anxieties, whether something is or isn't wrong and all of that crap. The whole thing was incredibly stressful and cost so much money. I can't offer loads of advice, but there aren't many same sex couples on here who opted for private IVF (we went through BMI Birmingham) so anything that either of us can help with, we are genuinely keen to offer. HUGE good luck. Our incredibly lucky, miracle boy is now 16 months old. Sometimes I liked people talking about their baby, sometimes I was just insanely jealous. But he was worth every anxiety ridden, stress filled penny in the world. There are few people on here who I genuinely relate to and you are one. So I really really have everything crossed for you. Let us know how it goes xxx
Thank you for your support It's so good to know that we are not the only ones! I mean, obviously we're not, but it can be a very daunting experience and it feels like it sometimes.

Congratulations on your little guy. Aww! I just know it must be the best feeling to have done all of this and succeeded in the end. I will admit I feel a bit jealous. I'm jealous of everyones babies! More so after the scan this morning.

Not great news. We do have a polyp in the uterus. Or.. it could just be a fold in the lining. Either way I'm totally bummed now. The Dr started by saying that if this was NHS treatment they would carry on as they don't stop for anything smaller than 1cm. He said we could carry on if we wanted. Then he said but... he would advise we freeze our eggs, which look to be in good supply! Then get it investigated/removed, and come back for frozen transfer after a break. Which feels like the worst thing in the world right now.

So much waiting already, and now more waiting.

The key issue I believe is higher risk of miscarriage. Obviously we don't want that to happen, but we are torn. I wish I could hear about other peoples experiences etc so i can make a better informed decision. Good news is the Clinic said we don't have to decide until on the day of potential transfer.



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Old Jul 22nd, 2013, 06:05 AM   5
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Hi girls! its such a journey. The waiting is the worst and blood tests. We went down the NHS route and were told we would have to have IVF if it didn't work after the first two tries. Its a mind field with lots of meetings, blood tests scans etc. I remember being told I had one working fallopian tube. at the time I thought that's it, Its not going to work. Don't loose faith I then ended up falling pregnant first time. Have faith x



 
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Old Jul 22nd, 2013, 06:55 AM   6
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You're right. A little faith could go a long way. I've been googling my way through and getting armed with all the information possible. I don't think this is the worst thing that could have happened. Some people do go on to have successful pregnancies with polyps and take them to term. We are totally undecided which way we are going to go but we are looking into getting a better scan done this week so we can get a better picture of whats going on. Still booked in for normal scan at the clinic Wednesday this week. I believe sometimes these things can grow as you take more and more drugs.



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Old Jul 23rd, 2013, 09:46 AM   7
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I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Whatever you decide to do right now as far as continuing vs freezing, I'm sure you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy. We've been trying for awhile now, and I always have to remind myself, "its not a matter of IF, its a matter of WHEN".



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Old Jul 26th, 2013, 14:28 PM   8
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So many scans!

Wednesday we had a 3D scan to try and confirm that the polyp was defo a polyp. The Drs are saying they are 90% sure that it is one. It had grown! So where are we now... Apart from pulling our hair out with stress.

Well, we had another scan today. Our follicles aren't growing fast enough so they upped our gonalf from 200 to 275. I'm trying to relax about it all, seeing as there isn't much we can do about it really. We're still unsure about if we will freeze everything, and have the polyp removed or try one egg and take one day at a time. That's going to be a last minute decision.

Next scan Monday... Hopefully more forward planning



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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 10:42 AM   9
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Another scan today! One follicle has passed the line and is big enough but all the others are dragging their heels!

Had to buy more drugs today. A 900 GonalF pen 360. That will give us another 3 days of stimming. I'm hoping that's all we will need as I'm going crazy with all the waiting. The Dr is totally happy with the progress though. I guess some people are quicker than others. I think they started us on a lower dose of GonalF as when H went in for the first ever scan at the clinic one of her ovaries has a polycystic look to it. So they are playing it safe, even though her ovaries both looked fine now she lost some weight.

Next scan is booked in for Wednesday morning. Hoping for positive signs then and maybe... don't want to jinx it but just maybe it will be time for the trigger shot?...



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Old Aug 1st, 2013, 18:30 PM   10
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Very interesting hearing about your journey ladies. I have everything crossed this cycle works out for you and the polyp doesn't cause any problems x



 
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