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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 08:49 AM   1
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Don't want to go to inlaws for Christmas :/


Every year on Christmas, we go to my inlaws house...and every year Christmas there is getting suckier! Last year was terrible...my husband insisted we get there ASAP to be there to open presents with his family. Well we got there at noon...and his family was still wrapping gifts! So whatever...I didn't care at that point. Well a few hours later gifts still weren't wrapped because his sisters are so lazy and were procrastinating. Finally at 7 they opened gifts...and I was excited because we hadn't eaten all day and I thought right after we would eat.

How wrong I was! Everything was done and was sitting there for hours getting cold...but oh no we couldn't eat it because the "special dish" hasn't been made yet! Finally at 9, I got p.o.ed and told my husband I was freaking starving! He told me I could just start eating the food that was done. So I went in the kitchen and started digging in...only to have his family come in and start yelling how I can't eat yet! Finally at 10:30 I put my foot down and told DH I want to leave ASAP. Our Christmas dinner ended up being burgers and fries from the only fast food restaurant in a 60 mile radius that was open! I went home almost crying because how bad Christmas was. And it didn't help that DH kept ditching me and leaving me sitting alone so he could watch tv with his dad. His sisters don't necessarily like me....they tolerate me but that is it so I ended up not being talked to most of the day.

Now I have a toddler this year and a newborn. I will be tired and not in the mood for the 2 hour drive...plus I couldn't imagine making my toddler sit there without food...they wouldn't even let us have snacks! I'm not in the mood for another ruined Christmas. DH makes a face when I even suggest not going. I told him he can go and take our kids but no...he refuses to go without me. Any ideas?



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 08:54 AM   2
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I would refuse to go..was this at the night time like 9:00 you still hadnt eaten ? If so thats disgraceful and i would explain to your DH what happened last time and you are not putting up with that again..even more so now you have a toddler and newborn
You could even say how you want your own little family dinner in your own home
Hope it works out for you



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 08:54 AM   3
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Let him sit there with a face on.. I would, no way should your xmas be ruined just because he's got mug on...

Put your foot down and tell him you want Xmas at home x



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:07 AM   4
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It's usually the same for us, except I told my OH that we are stopping at home this year whether he likes it or not.



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:10 AM   5
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What a horrible chrismas, I wouldnt go, send oh on his own lol.



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:11 AM   6
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Wow, my oh wanted us to go to his parents for Christmas! Don't think so! We're spending Christmas with my lo at home, I put my foot down as it wasn't fair x



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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:13 AM   7
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stand your ground! you and the kids shouldn't have to go and have a bad christmas - if OH is so desperate to go, tell him to go alone! x



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:37 AM   8
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That sounds like a horrible Christmas, you should put your foot down and tell him you are staying at home this year, maybe visit them on Christmas eve for a while x



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 09:39 AM   9
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I wouldnt go either, just stand your ground! I dont visit my in laws on xmas day anymore, I prefer to have that day to ourselves!



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2012, 10:01 AM   10
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I am shocked that you've put up with this at all! I point blank refuse to do anything other than have a family Christmas, just the three of us. Put your foot down now and insist you all stay home together and then hopefully he won't be expecting to go to his parents' house again next year. You can always go Christmas Eve or Boxing Day?



 
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