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Old Jun 14th, 2012, 11:44 AM   1
Becktoria
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So Hurt and upset just need some1 to listen


Not sure where to post I belong in so many different sections. My supposedly best friend posted on fbook today her scan pictures and how excited she was to b havin a girl. She didn't even txt me to just let me know that she's put it on. When she first told me she was pregnant she promised me that she wudnt mention her pregnancy to me unless I asked and certainly rub my nose in it on Facebook. I lost my daughter at 36 weeks last year due to placenta abruption she was born sleeping, had miscarriage in feb and now been told tubes are blocked. It's extremely difficult for me to see pregnant women or newborn babies, then I go to have a quick nose on Facebook and it's all over there about her scan and that's it's a girl. I was secretly hoping that she would have a boy so I would feel a bit better. I can't believe she never even dropped me a txt. I've cried all day, maybe extra sensitive because of what happened and over reacting but I feel so hurt and utter jealousy. I dont want to feel like this, I hate this bitterness, will it ever get better. I'm desperate for a baby but seems so out of reach at the minute. Does anyone else feel hurt or jealous of friends that out pregnant. I want to run away from it all. Am I ever guna feel happy again. When I think I'm doing ok something happens an I take 20 steps back.xxxxxx



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2012, 01:31 AM   2
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Im so sorry for your loss

When I read this it made me so angry, I wanted to tell your so called best friend how incredible insensitive she is being.....clueless she is!!!!

I dont know what to say to make your hurt go away, and if I could I would give you the biggest hug.......I understand how you feel, when friends of mine announce their pregnancies and get together to have baby days....I feel hurt, sad, disappointed, angry, pissed off and every emotion in between.

Sorry again hun xx



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2012, 04:58 AM   3
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no words at the moment but i can cry with you ...



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2012, 06:23 AM   4
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i am really sorry for you loss and i truly feel your pain.
it is so normal to be angry and jealous, i feel like that all the time and i can not help it
i lost few friends after my son died, true colours were shinning through them
not bothered about that , if they can not be there for us , they were never good friend.
what that woman did was heartless- horrible and evil
you dont need that at the momnent.
try not to get upset over that, just think you are better person and you will rise above it.
if you ever need to talk just pm me.
(just so you know, i feel really low all day every day, lost my boy 4 months ago and it gets worse ,live no longer makes sence and never will)
i truly feel your pain
lots of love darling



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2012, 15:29 PM   5
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sorry for your lose hun



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2012, 14:39 PM   6
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What a bitch!!!
Sorry I know She is your friend and she is happy to be pregnant too!! BUT not everybody needs to post info about their pregnancies on FB. Only attention seekers.
I am going through something similiar
I am sorry for your loss. Hope you are ok! xxxxxx



 
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Old Jun 24th, 2012, 13:58 PM   7
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Thanks for your replies ladies and listening. Calmed down a bit now but the odd insensitive thing still keeps going on Facebook, think I'm just going to deactivate my account. I'm currently now going through a suspected ectopic pregnancy didn't even expect to get pregnant after being told tubes are blocked. So frustrated this now puts me back 6 months to start ivf, i will not be trying naturally in the future for this to happen, looks like I will always have ectopics due to scar tissue so ivf only option. So angry right now plus baby daughters anniversary coming up in few weeks hot a whole load of emotions going on right now xxx



 
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Old Jun 26th, 2012, 16:18 PM   8
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ive never been on here for a long time but i can totally sympathise with how u feel hun. its my little girls 1 year anniversary since i lost her tomorrow and i thought my life couldnt get any worse and it did....i have no children since losing leyla i had a mc at 6 weeks in november and then fell pregnant again in jan and lost a lil boy last month at 17 weeks im more depressed now than i ever have been in my whole life!!! I have removed myself from facebook i only have a one for angel mums as my best friend has recently had a lil girl and i cant bare to keep reminding myself of what i havent got also my sil had had a lil boy. so jst to say i know how u are feeling and i know how hard this all is x x x



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2012, 05:03 AM   9
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Dani86 I think I've spoke to you before when I lost my little girl too.My daughters anniversary is on 24th July. just can't believe you lost again so into the pregnancy too. It's utterly heartbreaking. Are they going to do any tests on you? Did they find out why you lost your last baby? Life is so unfair, why do these cruel things keep happening. I totally understand about your sister, when I lost my daughter my older sister was due a few weeks after, she had a little boy, I was relieved it was a boy but still found it extremely difficult. It's his christening at wkend I'm not sure how I'm going to be, I love him to bits but it hurts much that this is what I should of been doing instead of havin a blessing at the hospital. I'm finding it do hard with my best friend especially because she's having a girl, not sure how I'm going to react when she is born. One minute she is so supportive then the next I feel as tho I'm havin my nose rubbed in it.
I've currently going through another loss suspected ectopic and had methotrexade shot yesterday. I now have to go through ivf but can't for 3 months. All I want is my rainbow I can't heal until I'm holding my baby. Sending you a big hug hun, if you ever want to chat I'm always here. I'm so sad to hear your news I'm thinking of you today xxxx



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2012, 10:40 AM   10
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i lost my lil boy to a cord accident wrapped around his neck 6 times as cord was a bit long for his gestation. i was relieved it wasnt me when they told me why it happened but its still utterly heartbreaking. i know the only thing that will make me feel better is holding a baby (my own baby) in my arms? i also go on baby centre there is a ttc after loss thread which is really good support as well im on there more than im on here. im also on facebook (but its in a fake name so none of my friends can finds me) i jst add angel mummies on it x x x



 
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