Hello.
My friend was 5 months when she went to the hospital because she was in a lot of pain and was bleeding like crazy. She has just informed me that the hospital put her on morphine, did an ultrasound and when she asked to see it, they wouldn't let her. Apparently when she woke up the next morning she kept asking questions about the incident and she said she guesses they thought it was better that she didn't know? She keeps having these flashbacks of her waking up and seeing the fetus beside her. She says her last period was in May and she lost it in June. According to her she had the pregnancy confirmed a month before she lost her baby. She said she doesn't remember giving birth and she didn't have a c-section. She just says that she doesn't know what happened to the baby. When my cousin lost her twins at 5 months they induced her so she could deliver them, hold them, take pics with them, etc.

My question is, could she maybe be lying or not have known about how far along she was, or should I call the police? I am absolutely enraged and she says she doesn't want the police involved until she is ready... It's been over a year!

I don't think a hospital would do something like this, they would have a HUGE lawsuit. Could it be she is just so distraught I mean I just don't know, have you talked to her family? I would go to them . I am really lost what to tell you, but I mean i guess it can happen but I just don't see a hospital doing this..

I am so sorry

I agree.

I don't believe it either...

That's one wild story, I'd be very confused... Was she showing and did you see any ultrasound pictures? I'm not trying to point fingers or make any accusations but a girl I know came up with something similar... however we found out later she had made up the entire pregnancy and experience... I don't know what makes her do such things but she still does it today... she'll take ultrasound pictures and cut the information off and go around claiming they're her's, she'll even take her friend's children to parades, (mostly just the babies) and when she sees someone she knows looking at her, she'll hold them up and glare the person... she even once went around with pictures of children and wrote on the back fictional names... even more bizarre she used to go around saying her youngest 'sister' was her child and that her mother 'adopted' her from her...

That just sounds so bizarre, and knowing this girl that I know, I personally wouldn't believe it unless I saw proof of the pregnancy at all rather then just her word... but again I don't know her, and if it is all true, then I'd ask her to seek some kind of counseling. If she's that distraught and it's been over a year, she needs some serious help.

Oh yikes!! No, she wasn't showing, no ultrasound pics... she said her ultrasound was scheduled like the next day... she probably does need help. She's pregnant with and marrying a man who tried to kill her before so... I just don't know what to do...

Very very odd. I'm a nurse and no hospital would do something like that in the US and I can't imagine in any other country either. We lost our twin girls at 22weeks and I had to deliver them as I would've normally. I was given pain meds, but definitely not drugged up to where I have memory issues. The nurses and doctors were great. They answered all my questions, and gave me a little box with suggestions on taking photos, and making memories, etc, as well as what to do about putting them to rest. I was in shock for sure because everything happened so fast, but I remember all of it. Regardless, it's no one's business but her own and her OH. Sounds like she needs to see a counselor to work through some issues.

AerisandAlex- That's very scary. It's actually why I do NOT usually post u/s pics, pics of myself, my kids, or any family on public forums. Although I'm sure even with privacy settings FB isn't all that private, but at least it's better. It REALLY creeps me out to think people could be taking pics of my kids and passing them off as their own through the photos. That enrages me actually. There's a reason they tell people not to put photos online though. Sorry...rant over.

Well I too am in Canada and lost my daughter at 17 weeks. I was completely informed and well aware of everything going on. Even when they thought it was better I didnt look... and I said I wanted too... they let me. Because she was my daughter. No hospital would "stage" something like this... I think she is dillusional!

Yeah we are from Calgary... I told her she may not have been that far along but she was positive of it! I sort of question that because she would have another miscarriage like every month. I'm like Sweetheart, that's your period!! Haha

Oh my... she actually believes she's miscarrying each month?

It sounds like she's desperate for a pregnancy... and the fact that she's saying such things would either hint to me she's not very smart, or she's DESPERATE for attention that she'll say anything...

In either case, I give you props! Like I said, I knew a girl like that, I avoid her at all costs now because she is nothing but drama drama drama... her and a few other girls... they would claim they were pregnant or 'possibly' pregnant for as long as they could to keep their boyfriends around wondering.... it was always a cry for attention and desperation... I stay clear of girls like that because I don't want to bring that sort of chaos into my own home.

Good luck to you dear!