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Old Apr 12th, 2013, 18:55 PM   1
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well ladies, i'm scared to death to be posting here but we just got the dreaded news our baby boy is most likely not going to survive... I had a missed miscarriage one month before I fell pregnant with this little guy! I have been soooo stressed...they ruled out trisomy and downs and turners....now they said that he has a hole in the back of his head and fluid all around him after my NT scan....the fluid is making his little body swell...now i'm in the waiting game...I have soo many questions and am hoping someone can tell me what to expect...how do they do a loss this far in??? i'm terrified I will have to have a c section as I did with my first son 1.5 years ago...will this affect future pregnancies...? I dont' want to go through a c section again, esp if I can't have a baby at the end...i'm soo sad, mad, angry...hurt, numb....and sorry for the rant, I have no one to go to at this point as they keep telling me to "keep the hope" though three different docs and genetic specialists pretty much told me he won't survive....



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 06:38 AM   2
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I am so, so sorry to hear what you are going through Your tickers not working so not sure how far you are exactly. But I'll answer how I delivered at my gestation just incase it's relevant

I was 15 weeks and was offered either to medically induce, a D and C (with misoprostal to dilate cervix beforehand) or wait for body to go into natural labour. I have also had 2 previous c-sections.

I chose the D and C but ended up delivering our daughter naturally before the op.



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 06:47 AM   3
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I lost Ava at 22 weeks and was supposed to get a D&E I was to far along for a D&C. I was set up for the D&E but I didn't want to go through with it, so i gave birth in my home. I am so sorry you are going through this, it is just devastating. What are they offering you to do? You do whatever you think is best for you. I am so sorry this is happening, it is a nightmare.
XOXOXOOX I am always here if you need a friend, Andrea



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 06:54 AM   4
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. Praying for a miracle



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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 07:00 AM   5
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thanks so much girls...right now I'm around 13 weeks. I'm going back at 16 weeks to see the heart and more examination of the hole on his little head....they say the fluid could decrease around him but probably not the fluid causing him to swell....
I'm terrified of this all right now and the wait is going to kill me...
Do you mind me asking the difference between a D and E and a D and C??? I'm just not wanting to go through another c section as I'm fearful this will harm chances I have to get pregnant again in the future...I really want another baby at some point in my life and just feel helpless like this may not be possible for us...



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 07:03 AM   6
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I *think* the D and C is more scraping the uterus lining, and the D and E is more suction. I could be wrong but that's what I thought the difference was.



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 10:57 AM   7
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For the D&E you have to go into the Dr. office they insert what they call SeaWeed sticks up into you, what this does is open the cervix so the operation is performed easier . The seaweed sticks are inserted a day before the procedure. You are then put under anesthesia and the baby is pulled out, not in one piece. I got the seaweed sticks a day before and was scheduled to go in the next day for the procedure. I didn't know what a D&E was really, when i googled it I could not do it, so when I was home I started to feel labor pains I went into the shower and pulled some of the sticks out of me, ( Would not recommend doing this to anyone, just telling my story)

I then went into labor and gave birth at home . I was never given the choice to give birth, not sure why, in the states they just want you to do the D&E.
I will not get into what the D&E was but I could not do it..
Whatever you decide is right for you that is what you do.. XOXOXO
I am so sorry you are going through this



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 12:36 PM   8
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Just wanted to add I was 22 weeks at the time. I think a D&C can be performed up till 15 weeks..



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 13:33 PM   9
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Oh Andy, my heart goes out to you



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Old Apr 13th, 2013, 14:27 PM   10
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Oh Andy, my heart goes out to you
Thanks. I just could not believe at the age of 40 i didn't know what a D&E was. I don't like to talk about it here, cause I don't want other women to think it is wrong, it just was not for me is all. Most women here have the procedure , I wanted Ava in one piece. She was coming into the world the way i wanted her to.. XOOXOX All My Love



 
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