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Old Dec 30th, 2014, 13:47 PM   1
LaceFace88
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new pregnancy after losing my son at 20w please help


Im not sure where to post. I have posted about my loss on here and i have found out im pregnant again. I am now 15 weeks and terrified of losing this baby. I want to be happy about it but when i start to get a little excited i get the worst feeling of guilt because i feel awful to be happy when my little man is gone. I guess i can relate to you guys more than with other pregnant women because you guys understand what its like to lose a baby further along. Are there any other women pregnant now after a second trimester loss, or those who have have babies after the loss really need some words of comfort and success stories for hope and to know if the guilt i feel is normal any responses would be greatly appreciated



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2015, 05:24 AM   2
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I can only imagine how you feel..
I lost my Ava at 22 weeks on March 3, 2011 ( I cannot even believe it's almost 4 years) .. I was 40 and already had 3 boys, much older. She was a perfect surprise .. After I lost her I did want to try right away, but I slowly changed my mind. It was definitely cause of my age, I was almost 41 when I lost her and I just gave up.

I do regret it and to me you are brave and I think everything with you will be just fine.. I often wonder what would have happened if I actively pursued getting pregnant, I know I would have in time..So to me I think it's wonderful that your pregnant again and I know your scared , terrified, but give everything time and I know it will go smoothly..

All The Best For A H&H 9 months.. XOXOXOOX



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2015, 08:37 AM   3
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Thank you so much. I am trying not to stress out over it too much but it is hard. Especially as the weeks go by and the time comes closer to when i lost my son. I cant really talk to my husband about it because when i do he says not to worry n he doesnt want to talk about our son. I still havnt been able to have a conversation with himabout losing our son. I know it bothers him and he worries too but i guess he feels like he needs to be strong for me. I just hope these next months go by quickly and hope everything goes ok because i dont know what i would do if it happened again. Thank you for your response i FEEL a little better knowing what im feeling is normal. I am sorry about Ava. I know the heartbreak of losing a baby but i think if my son was a girl it would have been even harder for me ( i have four living boys) you are a very strong woman and i have kept up with your story since i joined nine months ago and you are such an inspiration to me and im sure alot of other women also. Knowing what you been through and how now four years later you are stronger. Your words truely mean alot thank you 😀



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2015, 09:39 AM   4
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I lost my daughter at 9 days old. I had her by emergency cection at 29 weeks on the 1st February 2014. I'm now 15 weeks pregnant and I'm terrified. It's very frightening but kinda thinking what will be will be. If any happens to this baby I'll get through it cos I have too. I will then no longer try for anymore. But still trying to think positive. Everything looks good upto now and that makes me happy xx



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2015, 11:32 AM   5
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I am fifteen weeks also due on june 24th what is your due date



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2015, 16:34 PM   6
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Thank you so much. I am trying not to stress out over it too much but it is hard. Especially as the weeks go by and the time comes closer to when i lost my son. I cant really talk to my husband about it because when i do he says not to worry n he doesnt want to talk about our son. I still havnt been able to have a conversation with himabout losing our son. I know it bothers him and he worries too but i guess he feels like he needs to be strong for me. I just hope these next months go by quickly and hope everything goes ok because i dont know what i would do if it happened again. Thank you for your response i FEEL a little better knowing what im feeling is normal. I am sorry about Ava. I know the heartbreak of losing a baby but i think if my son was a girl it would have been even harder for me ( i have four living boys) you are a very strong woman and i have kept up with your story since i joined nine months ago and you are such an inspiration to me and im sure alot of other women also. Knowing what you been through and how now four years later you are stronger. Your words truely mean alot thank you 😀
WOW!! Thank you so much.. That means so much to me..I wish you all the best XOXO



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2015, 15:12 PM   7
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I went on monday to my big ultrasound sound and found out after havin 5 boys and losing my Elijah i am finally having a little girl. I want to be so excited because i have prayed snd prayed for a daughter but i am so scared its too good to be true the fear of losing this baby is filling my head constantly i am just so scared.



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2015, 15:41 PM   8
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Sorry for your loss and I've never experienced a second trimester loss so can't relate.

But I just wanted to say, the chances of this pregnancy being successful is in your favour. Just get through getting through each week, when you hit 24 weeks you have reached viability, think about reaching 24 first and then the next week and so on!

I'm hoping you have an easy pregnancy and I'm sure it will be successful x



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Old Jan 31st, 2015, 03:55 AM   9
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I went on monday to my big ultrasound sound and found out after havin 5 boys and losing my Elijah i am finally having a little girl. I want to be so excited because i have prayed snd prayed for a daughter but i am so scared its too good to be true the fear of losing this baby is filling my head constantly i am just so scared.
I am SOooo happy for you. I had 3 boys and knowing I was having a girl for my fourth (Ava) was just, I can't even explain what I felt

It will be ok and you will have a great pregnancy, i know it.. I know you are not gonna relax, I wouldn't either so I wont tell you to either. Just get through each appt. and with good news at each appt. your fear will get less, I promise..I am so excited for you...Congrats XOXOXOXO



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2015, 10:22 AM   10
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Everyday that passes i am just grateful to have made it another day. I just wish it would go faster i know that i need to try and not worry im hoping as time.goes by itwill get eaiser. Thank you all for your kind words it means alot ��



 
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