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Old Dec 11th, 2011, 04:01 AM   21
rossyrozela
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Had to terminate at 20 weeks and 5 days as baby had chromosomes abnormality


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I have two children a girl 12 and a boy 7.
After trying for more children, for 4 years I was pleased to find I was pregnant, but last week at 21 weeks and 4 day pregnant I gave birth to my little boy. Because I was under 23 weeks medical staff would not help me keep the baby, and if he was born alive they would let him die.
I feel I was treated very poor by medical staff and to bad to go into but have been left with lots of questions about trying for more children. I now its early to think of this, I am not trying to replace my baby but fill the void left in my heart.
Is there anyone out there who has had a simliar experance.
hiya sorry to hear about your lost,i had to go through asurgical abortion to terminate my baby at 20 weeks and 5 days,like you i was treated very badly by the hospital,they basically told me to go online and look up Maristopes then book ,they never referred me there and didnt even give me aptint out of my scan (the 20 weeks one)i have put in acomplain and it has been over 25days and still no reponse,they had written to me to say they will get back to me not longer than 25 days.its been over 35days



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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 11:26 AM   22
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I gave birth to a baby boy, whom I named Michael yesterday. I was 18 weeks along. The nurse I had was wonderful. The doctor tried to say I couldnt know if it was a boy or girl because at that stage in pregnancy it doesnt count. I was very upset by this. Michael was a very real part of our family by that point. I had felt him kick many times and thought that was a terrible thing to say. When the doctor left, the nurse allowed me to look over my sons little body and name him and grieve over him. Without her, it would have been much worse. I know I will have another baby when im feeling better, but I feel so empty. This is not the way its supposed to go. When your tummy is empty, your arms are supposed to be full. I dont know how to feel. My husband is also grieving and is having a hard time knowing what to do for me. Any comments will help. I know i am not the only woman to go through this, but I do feel very alone right now.



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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 13:35 PM   23
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Seralyn- Left you a message on your other thread, I'm so glad you came over here.
I am so sorry for what has happened, it's just horrible and something nobody should have to go through.
I can't believe the doctor said it didn't matter what sex your baby was, of course it does, he is your son and always will be.
I remember the first few days being so so hard. It's been 9 months for me now but I still remember the pain all too well.
There's lots of lovely ladies in here who will be here for you. It may be worth you starting a new thread down below in the main bit, I dont think many people look in this thread and I don't want you to miss out on the support you need.

If you have any questions about what happens next / funeral / anything to do with your baby or ideas to make some memories of him please don't be scared to ask, either in the forum, or pm me.
Thinking of you xx



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2012, 14:36 PM   24
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thank you so much, i dont know how to start a new thread.....Perhaps you could walk me thru it...



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Old Mar 22nd, 2012, 15:15 PM   25
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if you are posting from a PC...

if you look under this message, you will see
BabyandBump>Loss Support Forums>Second Trimester Losses.

Click on 'Second Trimester Losses'.

This will take you into the main second tri losses forum.

Then, look for a box somewhere near the top of the page that says 'New Thread'. this will open one up for you to write in.

if you can't get it to work let me know, and I can start one for you, to reply to.

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Old Mar 30th, 2012, 09:19 AM   26
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9 Days late...AHHHH



 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 09:28 AM   27
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I lost my baby yesterday at 19 weeks, it's still inside me and I'm waiting for things to progress. I feel like I'm going crazy as haven't really stopped crying and can't sleep/eat. As if loosing a baby wasn't hard enough I'm now waiting to deliver it, I'm so scared. Wish they could just knock me out, this is the cruelest thing I have ever experienced. I don't now how I'm still breathing, I feel numb and even with a supportive husband so alone.



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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 14:34 PM   28
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I lost my baby yesterday at 19 weeks, it's still inside me and I'm waiting for things to progress. I feel like I'm going crazy as haven't really stopped crying and can't sleep/eat. As if loosing a baby wasn't hard enough I'm now waiting to deliver it, I'm so scared. Wish they could just knock me out, this is the cruelest thing I have ever experienced. I don't now how I'm still breathing, I feel numb and even with a supportive husband so alone.
I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to you. I lost twins at 23 weeks, almost ten months ago and it was the hardest thing I have ever been through. For me, they were still alive when I was in labour, so i didn't have to deal with still carrying them when they had passed away. It is scary, but you will find a way through it.
You might get more replies to your message if you post a thread in the main part of the forum, not many people check this thread, I left instructions in the post above for someone else if you are struggling to find it. There's a good thread somewhere that describes things you can do, to make some memories of your baby, if you want to (I'll find the link and post it). I wouldn't have thought of doing any of this, so, if you feel strong enough, maybe you can read it before you go into hospital. thankfully my hospital were great and took photos, footprints and supplied a blanket / hats / toy but not everyone is so lucky. have you been told anything about what will happen next? xxx



 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 14:38 PM   29
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http://www.babyandbump.com/stillbirt...your-baby.html

how to make some memories of your baby xxx



 
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Old Aug 1st, 2012, 08:00 AM   30
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I lost my baby 8 days ago at nearly 18 weeks..we are having him cremated today, my son Henry David Lopez...The whole things doesnt feel real..we had to do IVF to conceieve I dont understand what has happened...



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