I know my cervix is closed, they checked the other day and my bleeding is minimal so that wouldn't bother me either, though I just started doing sit ups again so it may pick up for a bit. I don't want to wait for 6 weeks. The nurse at the hospital told me I could around 2 weeks after or when I felt like it. After having my son it took 3 attempts due to the pain of an episiotomy and 7 weeks later we finally managed it but I found I had to kind of suck it up and do it. Maybe we'll give it a go after it's been two weeks. I don't think it will hurt but it might and I guess I'm more worried about that. I know my husband won't push me into anything which is nice. Not meaning to share to much but I had my first orgasm the other day and it was mentally tough to achieve and I had some cramping and weird sensations but I assume thats cause my uterus is still a little bigger then it should be.

Gemma-I agree, last month I never got a positive opk but AF was on time so I most likely did ovulate. This month, who even knows. I'm trying to just temp, record it, and not worry about it (althought, last night I just had this feeling that I'm pregnant with a girl). We'll see what happens at the end of the month. I'm going to try really hard to not test unless AF is late.

Kelly9-I would recommend waiting until the cervix as closed. If you have sex before that you can open yourself up to infection. Don't be hard on yourself if even when you feel ready, the actual sex just doesn't feel quite right. I remember one time when OH and I were having sex for some reason something he did seemed to give me the exact same feeling as it felt when Mateo was being born and it just totally ruined everything for me, I started crying, it was awful. It is okay if things aren't perfect right away.

Nikki-I think you're right, you do just kind of finally feel like having sex is okay again. For me the urge definitely just came back on it's own after a period of time. I was actually quite frisky.

My cervix is closed. They did an internal when I went in for a scan to
Check for placental remains.

I didn't see your other response before I replied

If the doctor has given you the go ahead, I would say whenever you feel ready! My doctor had told us to wait 6 weeks, but we waited 3 (I think, might have been 4). OH was very hesitant because he didn't want to hurt me or introduce infection but I was able to convince him it was okay

That's ok it's easy to miss stuff on here. I'll ask again when I have my scan tomorrow to double check that it's closed but I feel comfortable with what the doc told me when he did the internal. Im just worried emotionally that it will be tough. I Mean last time emotionally I was excited and ready but we had a healthy baby. I guess I should just give the dh a heads up I may go hormonal on him.

Yeah of course it's a good idea to talk to him about it, but there is no right or wrong time to start up again. You can wait until you feel ready and if you try and you're not ready yet you can keep waiting. It will all happen at the right time...as with most things, we just have to have patience (which I am NOT good at )

I am not a patient person by nature either, I tell my DH that in the 6 weeks we went through hell with Hannah's diagnosis I used up 10 years worth of patience.

Kelly, six weeks?! That had to be a horrific wait! Im waiting on my pathology report . Its hard because I want to know what went wrong.

we waited 12 weeks for our results...

very hard wait and i am so glad it came back as nothing to worry about for the next pregnancy. just one step closer to moving on a bit...

Ah thanks Britney, maybe it is just a cycle where I wont ovulate, I've not had this before (to my knowledge as before when using CBFM etc there was always OV peaks). Its better it happens this month & maybe a sign so I couldnt try this month, hopefully if AF arrives on time (cd 28 or cd 29 like it was before) then I'll relax. I'm so worried that my body isnt doing what its meant to, I'm just so desperate to get back to ttc & being successful without having to wait months!

About the sex thing, I didnt feel the urge but went along with it to see if I felt ok with it. I have to say I didnt and ended up quite tearful. I say just do things when your ready & dont feel you have to rush into anything x