First of all wanna say im gutted for everyone in the same situation and those of you who have unfortunately experienced this too..
Went for anomoly scan today (early because she was disgnosed with a few issues at 12wk scan.)
Today is 16wk2d, and was worried about not hearing LO heartbeat yesterday on doppler, after hearing every day from 12wks.
Thought it was nothing and refused to try again last night until scan today.
Went for scan, baby was measured for various sizing up they need, and was informed there was no heartbeat and she had gone to sleep
Had a second Dr come and check, and got referred to my local hospital for tomorrow.
Im absolutely terrified tbh, and hoping that if its not too painful you may be able to share your "experiences" with me with this?
Im going tomorrow morning for the tablets to stop the hormones (as Dr said?), and then will be induced on Sunday/Monday.
Ive never had this before, ive never been in "labour", im petrified.
I dunno what to expect, im looking forward to seeing her, and cuddling her, and have already wrote things i want to be done (like her photos & prints if i can) but i still dont know what to expect other than a teeny baby
Oh hunny, big I'm sorry I'm not so good with my words tonight, but just wanted to send you love and strength xx
A year ago on Sunday I gave birth to my beautiful sleeping angel, she too was my first baby and labour, I was absolutley terrified, I thought there was no way that I could go through it. But somehow I did find the strength with the support of my OH and mum, couldn't have done it without them by my side.
Do as much as you can/want to with her, take as many pictures as you can, they will become a treasured memory for you.
so sorry .
I left a message on your 2nd tri post ..
My baby died at around 17 weeks ..
instead of repeating it all as its pretty painful as its his due date today, i'll post the link to my pregnancy journal with him that tells u what i went thru ...
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.
You sound very brave and together.
We lost our baby 15 weeks ago today (at 20 weeks gestation).
It all happened very quickly for us - I was already having contractions when we found out there was no heartbeat, and the whole process from scan to giving birth took 6 hours.
We decided not to see or hold our baby - a decision I regret now, but I know it was right for me at the time.
We do have hand/foot prints, scan pictures and a few other mementoes - and we are going to plant a tree to remember our little one on our due date in March.
From what I have read by other mums who have lost little ones at this stage - your little baby girl will be perfectly formed but just very tiny. The size of our babies handprint could fit inside my thumbnail and that was at 20 weeks.
The physical pain will be easy to deal with and they will give you painkillers (even morphine I've heard) if you need it.
Do you have any inkling why this has happened? You mentioned issues at your 12 week scan - could it be related?
My advice is just do what feels right for you and be gentle on yourself over the coming weeks.
I would have days after when I felt fine, then the next day I would be very low again. I still get times now when I feel awful (and that sadness will always be with us) but it does get better and easier.
I really hope you have lots of support around you and everything goes as well as can be over the next few days.
Come and chat when you're ready, there's lots of us who have been through this and talking about it really does help.
I will be thinking of you xx
Blue - so sorry to hear hun, I'm glad it was quick for you.
Yeah she has turner syndrome, at her NT her level was 10.8mm, where the norm is less than 2. That fluid is around her whole body and she had hydrothorax so think the fluids compressed her too much, her heart sadly stopped yesterday
Just knew when I couldn't find it on the Doppler she was gone
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