Really struggling today ladies. 1wk on :( - Page 2

Imalia · Feb 14th, 2011, 14:35 PM

Losing our angel was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with in my life, and yes, you're right, it's going to hurt for a long time. But it does get easier. I still think about him everyday, and it hurts everyday that he isn't here with me. I'm not going to say you'll get over it, because you won't, I won't, not now, and not ever. But you will learn to live with it.

I think we can all understand the want or need to have another baby. I would have done anything to be pregnant again right away, in fact the first time I got my period, I was literally floored, reduced to a sobbing heap on the bathroom floor. I'm pretty sure everything you're feeling is normal.

It's ok to feel the way you do, you're dealing with something no parent should ever have to.

RobenR · Feb 14th, 2011, 19:19 PM

I understand the guilt you feel for wanting another baby, and it will always be a catch-22 bittersweet joy when another one comes. This is normal.

I know your pain and I empathize with you. The pain will fade in time, trite but true. Madison will always live in a special place in your heart and eventually there won't be as much hurt on a day to day basis. It's been 2 years for me and I find anniversaries the hardest to get through.

Everyone is here for you. Spill out all you need to on this site if you have to. I did and it helped me stay sane.

Message me if you ever need someone who has been in your position.

Bless.

Barbiegirl90 · Feb 15th, 2011, 04:17 AM

You are an AMAZING person, a very very strong and beautiful woman. Madsion is resting with the angels now and yes you will miss her everday, why shouldnt you?! But you shouldnt feel any guilt ive told u this u couldnt of done any more for that beuatiful little girl hun !!! Yes her Dad is a twat (know u in person and can confirm u should NOT go back there, I think id have to slap u babe haha) well u know were I am if u need me and if u feel it right to have a baby do it for you, why should you worry about what other people are saying or critisising you. You need to do things for YOU now!! Take some time and think about yourself! Love you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

faun · Feb 15th, 2011, 04:24 AM

It will still feel so raw as it was only a week ago hun, Madison will be so proud of how you are coping you are showing amazing strength x

chrissy5 · Feb 15th, 2011, 05:47 AM

hunni. already spoken to you but thought i'd pop here and see how you are. Its a natural reaction to want to be pregnant again, nobody should judge or criticise you. I really feel for you hunni and feel free to pm me here or messgae me on facebook or even text. my number is on my fb profile xxx big

babes xxx

CeeCee2010 · Feb 15th, 2011, 08:08 AM

Aww hun, wish I could give you a hug and take your pain away. Stay strong sweetie and remember how proud Madison is of you for always giving her everything and for always being you XXX

BexyD · Feb 15th, 2011, 10:25 AM

Been thinking of you ma darlin xxx

Think everything you are going through and thinking is natural

It's not the same and cannot be compared, but i had 3 m/c between my 2nd and 3rd babies and each time to urge to try again immediately was overwhelming. Not exactly to replace the babies but to replace the feeling i was missing something and to prove i 'could' do it.

It also helped me move on and deal with life by having something to plan/look forward to. But we are all diferent. A friend who m/c over a year ago still cannot face trying again. xx

It's still early days and there are still lots of emotions to go through until it begins to feel better. Just dont bottle it up, and you mightfind some 'friends' think you are better because you are trying to go out and take yr mind off it, so they may need to be reminded of the gravity of the situation xx

xxx

USAF_WIFE · Feb 15th, 2011, 12:51 PM

Came in to see how you were doing hun and send you loads of

Ladybugbaba · Feb 18th, 2011, 15:29 PM

come to see how you were, thinking of you x x x

Feb 14th, 2011, 14:35 PM	#11
Imalia Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 211	Losing our angel was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with in my life, and yes, you're right, it's going to hurt for a long time. But it does get easier. I still think about him everyday, and it hurts everyday that he isn't here with me. I'm not going to say you'll get over it, because you won't, I won't, not now, and not ever. But you will learn to live with it. I think we can all understand the want or need to have another baby. I would have done anything to be pregnant again right away, in fact the first time I got my period, I was literally floored, reduced to a sobbing heap on the bathroom floor. I'm pretty sure everything you're feeling is normal. It's ok to feel the way you do, you're dealing with something no parent should ever have to.

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Feb 14th, 2011, 19:19 PM	#12
RobenR Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Cold Lake, Alberta Posts: 587	I understand the guilt you feel for wanting another baby, and it will always be a catch-22 bittersweet joy when another one comes. This is normal. I know your pain and I empathize with you. The pain will fade in time, trite but true. Madison will always live in a special place in your heart and eventually there won't be as much hurt on a day to day basis. It's been 2 years for me and I find anniversaries the hardest to get through. Everyone is here for you. Spill out all you need to on this site if you have to. I did and it helped me stay sane. Message me if you ever need someone who has been in your position. Bless.

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Feb 15th, 2011, 04:17 AM	#13
Barbiegirl90 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 75	You are an AMAZING person, a very very strong and beautiful woman. Madsion is resting with the angels now and yes you will miss her everday, why shouldnt you?! But you shouldnt feel any guilt ive told u this u couldnt of done any more for that beuatiful little girl hun !!! Yes her Dad is a twat (know u in person and can confirm u should NOT go back there, I think id have to slap u babe haha) well u know were I am if u need me and if u feel it right to have a baby do it for you, why should you worry about what other people are saying or critisising you. You need to do things for YOU now!! Take some time and think about yourself! Love you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Feb 15th, 2011, 04:24 AM	#14
faun Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Norwich, Norfolk Posts: 2,841	It will still feel so raw as it was only a week ago hun, Madison will be so proud of how you are coping you are showing amazing strength x

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Feb 15th, 2011, 05:47 AM	#15
chrissy5 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 289	hunni. already spoken to you but thought i'd pop here and see how you are. Its a natural reaction to want to be pregnant again, nobody should judge or criticise you. I really feel for you hunni and feel free to pm me here or messgae me on facebook or even text. my number is on my fb profile xxx big babes xxx

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Feb 15th, 2011, 08:08 AM	#16
CeeCee2010 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,987	Aww hun, wish I could give you a hug and take your pain away. Stay strong sweetie and remember how proud Madison is of you for always giving her everything and for always being you XXX

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Feb 15th, 2011, 10:25 AM	#17
BexyD Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Herts Posts: 674	Been thinking of you ma darlin xxx Think everything you are going through and thinking is natural It's not the same and cannot be compared, but i had 3 m/c between my 2nd and 3rd babies and each time to urge to try again immediately was overwhelming. Not exactly to replace the babies but to replace the feeling i was missing something and to prove i 'could' do it. It also helped me move on and deal with life by having something to plan/look forward to. But we are all diferent. A friend who m/c over a year ago still cannot face trying again. xx It's still early days and there are still lots of emotions to go through until it begins to feel better. Just dont bottle it up, and you mightfind some 'friends' think you are better because you are trying to go out and take yr mind off it, so they may need to be reminded of the gravity of the situation xx xxx

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USAF_WIFE Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: VA Posts: 1,331	Came in to see how you were doing hun and send you loads of

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Ladybugbaba Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: lichfield England Posts: 761	come to see how you were, thinking of you x x x

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