I woke up early this morning and couldn't get back to sleep -- for some reason I had an urge to go the cemetery. I was literally there for them opening the gates. I sat by Emily for a while and tidied her things whilst talking to her. I then decided to take a walk around as I was crying a bit (and had an accident the last time I decided to drive straight away whilst crying) - I walked away up to the back of the cemetery next to the very old graves when I heard someone sobbing - I looked over and seen a little old lady kneeling on the wet grass by a large stone next to the trees. It wasnt a grave but from far away looked like a statue. She sounded very upset so as I walked by I stopped and asked her if she was ok.
We ended up chatting for a while and I took her round to see Emilys grave. Her name is Elsie and she lost her twins at 26 weeks, 60 years ago. She is 84 and told me she doesnt know where her babies are buried but her friend told her about the baby section of the cemetery near to her and so she visits every year on their birthday to leave them a single white rose each (she was never told if they were boys or girls, she never got to see them or hold them or find out what happened to them).
She told me she had never actually managed to find the baby graves at the cemetery (she was looking in the wrong part) but had found this marker amongst the trees and has used it ever since as 'her place'. I think its beautiful I'm sure you'll agree
Such a sad story
RIP little babies, I hope you are looking down on your mummy and know how much she loves you
OMG that is absolutely heartbreaking. I am so glad times have changed and women are given the option of seeing their babies, holding them, kissing them etc compared to years ago were babies were snatched away and it was a dirty little secret. (This happened to my MIL also) I am glad that lady now has somewhere to go. I'm glad you were there for her and she was given the chance to talk about it.
You never really forget ever! poor mama, I am so glad mothers have a chance to hold and kiss their little ones, I am sure her babies are there every time she visits. thanks for sharing your story and i am sorry for your loss also
Awwww That sounds kind of weird....How come she couldnt Hold her Babies Sounds like a LifeTime Movie so sad...She doesnt have any Closure...
It wasn't how things were done then. Babies were wrapped up in the sheet and taken away never to be spoken of again.
I am forever thankful that I lost Isabella in the time that I did. That she was treated with dignity, brought to me in a beautiful basket with a warm blanket and we were given as much time as we wanted to make memories. xxx
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