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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 13:45 PM   21
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Hello all, ive been to hospital today i had my scan which confirmed everything. I had bloods taken to show i was ok. Then i was given my first tablet as well as me taking my antibiotics. I dont feel as bad today as yesterday, i do feel more calm. I feel quite tired at the moment but i dont think i could go to sleep. I filled in all my forms and was told of all the risks and yes im still worrying about them. At the scan i asked the size of the baby as its something ive got to pass.

So tomorrow im at home resting and im back in Wednesday morning for things to start.

Im sure on Wednesday im going to be a nervous wreck but reading all your messages have helped me understand more about whats going to happen.

They said they will do hand prints, foot prints and take a photo.

thank you for your time.

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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 13:59 PM   22
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I am glad you feel a little bit calmer. I am also so pleased that they are going to do hand and footprints for you. Sands have a great website which gives some ideas of things you might like to happen when you meet your baby. It is well worth a look.

If you can get some rest, it will help although I know how hard that will be as I didn't sleep at all.

Try not to worry, you are in the safest possible place and they will look after you. Make sure you get the pain relief you need, you do not need to be brave.

If you want to ask anything at all, no matter how silly it may sound, ask away, someone in here will know the answer.

Hope the next couple of days are kind to you. I will be thinking of you on Wednesday as I am also in hospital having my d and c that day :'(



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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 14:38 PM   23
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

Thanks xx



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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 14:43 PM   24
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

Thanks xx
No question is silly ask away...

I was told just to push when I felt the need. This was my first birth but as far as I know it was just going through the same motions as any other. For me the pushing part didn't take long because the babies were much smaller than full term and came out easily xx



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 14:50 PM   25
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

Thanks xx

I know everyone seems to have different experiences but i did have to push my little boy out, and then i suppose if everything goes ok you'll push you placenta out too they usually give that injection in your thigh. And obviously you'll be offered all the usually methods of pain relief, as you dont know how long it will take. On the day i went in, i started contractions around 1 in the afternoon and went in to proper labour at about 10 at night and gave birth at 1.50 in the morning, but everyones different i didnt react well to the medication or the pain relief, which is why they had to keep giving me the meds to dilate your cervix.

I hope that helps.

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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 14:51 PM   26
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I was told exactly the same. They didn't examine me at all, I just did everything totally naturally and listened to my body. When baby was about to come it felt a bit like when you are desparate for a number 2 (sorry if TMI) You naturally want to push so that's what you do.

Paul was really worried when we went in as we hadn't done any ante natal classes so he asked the midwife how we were supposed to breathe. She replied "in and out"!



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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 14:51 PM   27
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

Thanks xx
Nothing silly in that at all! Ask anything, honestly hon, one of us will have been there or thought it, no matter how strange it may seem to you. Just ask anything.

I think it depends, usually your body will just take over and do it, I was trying like hell not to and my body just took over and pushed them out anyway (but my case was a wee bit different as I knew at least one of them was still alive so I was fighting it, like I said, try not to fight it). If you relax as much as possible you will make it easier for yourself, I know that's hard though. They are skinny wee things at this gestation so they do slip out pretty easily, it's nothing like a full term birth. When I was on bed rest hoping they would stay my cervix was slightly dilated and my Ob told me that if it went even to 4cm the babies could drop out, so you don't have to dilate far. I also had a previous C/Section but did labour to nearly the end so can compare a bit. I'm not sure if you experienced labour before with your other two but it's nothing like it, please try not to worry. My previous C/S made no difference to labouring and delivering this time, as I was asking them that as I had a tear to my uterus last time. Please try not to worry about the technicalities, the medical staff will be with you helping you every step of the way hon. I hope it goes smoothly for you hon, I'll be thinking of you. I would check out the SANDS website too, it is of great help.

All the best, hope to hear from you soon. xxx



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 15:12 PM   28
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So sorry to hear you are going through this

I lost my baby boy at 22 weeks - he just stopped moving so I went to get checked out and a scan showed he had died. I was induced a couple of days later and was dreading going back into hospital to deliver him a few days after that. By the time I went back in, I actually felt quite calm and strong enough to deal with it. Like I'd got over the initial shock and horror and was ready for that next step. Its amazing where you get your strength from- even now I don't know how on earth we got through it. The contractions did hurt and I wish I'd asked for pain relief earlier, but once my waters broke it was all very quick and just took one small push - like the other ladies said, babies at this stage are so small. Even though it is like a normal delivery in some ways, it is usually quicker and things don't have to stretch as much.

The hospital were great for us and gave us lots of choices about what we wanted after the birth. We chose to see our baby, named him, held him and took lots of pictures of him, including pictures of us holding him. I was expecting to feel horrified by the whole process, but I just felt proud and protective of my little boy.

Just do what is right for you, although you might not know what this is going to be until the time comes. You will get through it. I wish you lots of love and strength at this difficult time



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 16:15 PM   29
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

Thanks xx
My heart is breaking for you, hun, it really is.

For me, I wasn't pushing, but just breathing through contractions, which were just like my previous labours, but smaller, because it was such a little bump this time around. I felt something start to emerge and called the nurses, who looked and told me to bear down, and in one small push he was out. They clamped the cord, and I delivered the placenta about an hour later, although that was a little harder to push out.

I'm thinking of you



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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 16:40 PM   30
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I am guessing I amtoo late replying if you went in today butwanted to add my support anyway.

There is an increased risk that the placenta will be retained afterwards and this happened for me. I ended up in theatre for a d&c to deliver the placenta but tbh I didn't care by then. I had delivered and seen my little girl and that's all I cared about. The recovery from the D&C was fine

I am so very sorry for your loss. It's not something that any of us should go through



 
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