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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 17:23 PM   31
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Sorry for this sounding silly, when you give birth do you have to push or does it just all come away?

I dont want to make things worse like bleeding if i push and im not ment to.

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Nothing silly in that at all! Ask anything, honestly hon, one of us will have been there or thought it, no matter how strange it may seem to you. Just ask anything.

I think it depends, usually your body will just take over and do it, I was trying like hell not to and my body just took over and pushed them out anyway (but my case was a wee bit different as I knew at least one of them was still alive so I was fighting it, like I said, try not to fight it). If you relax as much as possible you will make it easier for yourself, I know that's hard though. They are skinny wee things at this gestation so they do slip out pretty easily, it's nothing like a full term birth. When I was on bed rest hoping they would stay my cervix was slightly dilated and my Ob told me that if it went even to 4cm the babies could drop out, so you don't have to dilate far. I also had a previous C/Section but did labour to nearly the end so can compare a bit. I'm not sure if you experienced labour before with your other two but it's nothing like it, please try not to worry. My previous C/S made no difference to labouring and delivering this time, as I was asking them that as I had a tear to my uterus last time. Please try not to worry about the technicalities, the medical staff will be with you helping you every step of the way hon. I hope it goes smoothly for you hon, I'll be thinking of you. I would check out the SANDS website too, it is of great help.

All the best, hope to hear from you soon. xxx



I did go through labour with both of my other children but only managed to get to 9cm with both and ended up both times having a section. With my son they induced me at 37 weeks and he just didnt want to come out. labour lasted 18 hours before the section. With my daughter it happened faster and within 3 hours i got to 9 cm but it didnt progress, so another section.

The doctor was a bit worried about my scar, which in turn has now me worry.
As i hadnt thought about it to tell you the truth. I would assume it would only become a problem if i got to 10cm which shouldnt be an issue.

Ive asked about an injection to deliver and they said they dont think they will do this as its something that they do later in pregnancy not this early. So slightly worried about that.











Can i ask also afterwards did you bleed alot like you had a bad miscarriage or was it like a period. I was ment to be going to kent this weekend but i dont know if im going to be able to travel. My partner doesnt want me to go.

thanks once again.

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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 18:37 PM   32
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I bled about the same as I did after having DD, it's lochia rather than like a period, so a bit mucousy (sorry TMI) but quite constant and I had cramps as my uterus shrunk back to size but it had 2 in there so wuold have been a lot more distended.

I got to 9cm as well before being sectioned, this time was nothing like it honey. I was in transition before the pain got to me at all and I'm no martyr. Gas and air was sufficient, but I was glad of it and as soon as they were born the pain was over, except for the emotional pain, obviously.

I think they have to keep a bit of an eye on your scar as they are inducing you, but I'm sure they will keep a close eye on you. The lower segment of your uterus (where the scar is, unless you had a classical, vertical C/S?) isn't well developed this early in pregnancy, so wont be contractile anyway, so it shouldn't put any strain on your scar. They weren't worried about mine as I asked the same thing, for this reason, though I wasn't induced. There are lots of women who are able to have full term vaginal births after 2 C/S's as well, please try not to worry hon. xx



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2011, 18:39 PM   33
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P.S you do what feels right for you but I doubt very much you'll feel like travelling to Kent, I would keep my options open regarding that one. xxx



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2011, 03:08 AM   34
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My bleeding wasn't too bad, it lasted 2 weeks and was just a bit like a period. I was fine to do things slowly straight away although I got a bit frustrated that I was to sore to do things like housework etc. I ended up buying a lightweight hoover as I was so peed off!

If you feel up to travelling mentally then you certainly should be ok to go physically. I forced myself to do things instantly straight after loss. I was scared of allowing myself to get depressed as I have suffered from depression before. I therefore just got on with life, got a haircut, went shopping and did everything to meet every single person I knew so I didn't ever have to face someone who would feel awkward.

It is a very personal thing though, I have a friend who barely left the house after her loss and that worked for her.

As others have said, you shouldn't need to dliate that much. I loved giving birth to Evelyn, it was a wonderful experience.



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Old Dec 13th, 2011, 03:17 AM   35
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Just wanted to show my support like the other ladies. This was my first pregnancy so I had no idea of what labour was going to be like and I didnt have time to think about it really as everything happened so suddenly. All I will say is that its not put me off having more children & having Bertie has given me strength to go on and not be fearful of child birth. I know he was small so it was easy to push him out (only very slight pushes) and also small pushes for the placenta. I dont know much about c-sections, but others on here have some experience.

With regards to the bleeding mine was heavy for at least a week. Its now much lighter (2 weeks on). I felt very light headed and very weak for at least a week afterwards. I still feel very tired. If you feel like travelling then go for it, but dont expect much from yourself as your feelings might change.

Hope all goes as well as it can tomorrow, will be thinking of you.xx



 
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Old Dec 14th, 2011, 03:23 AM   36
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Just thinking of you just now, I know you may already be on your way to hospital but I wanted to wish you well and let you know I'm thinking of you. xxx



 
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I didn;t bleed too badly after but it went on for a long time. Quite a few weeks.



 
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Old Dec 14th, 2011, 04:22 AM   38
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I am so sorry about your loss.

I had the tablet a couple of days before as you have done, and pesseries to kick start contractions. I delivered Samuel at 15/16 weeks, and it was nothing like the pain of delivering full term. I hardly felt the contractions, although I knew they were happening. However, I failed to deliver the placenta so had to go for the D & C, but to be honest, I was ready for that, after everything else it wasn't a big thing. (And I am a bit of a scaredy when it comes to yukky stuff).

My thoughts are with you

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Thinking of you today hun xxx



 
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Old Dec 14th, 2011, 05:08 AM   40
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I had Ava on March 3rd I bled for about 2 weeks and got my AF on April 10th, it was heavy but short, only 3 days . Just know you are in my prayers and I am thinking of you. I am just so deeply sorry this is happening



 
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