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Old May 5th, 2017, 20:24 PM   491
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I'm so sorry for their loss. It just breaks my heart that so many people have to go through this.
I agree with MY that trying to say something 'helpful' is not what they want to hear because all they want is to have their babies with them as they should be. I think a card with a gift card is a great idea. A pan of lasagna or baked goods is good too. I ate my way through the pain for the first 2 weeks.



 
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Old May 5th, 2017, 20:47 PM   492
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Thanks for the advice!
I definitely would never say something along the lines of a deeper meaning in what happened or "gods plan" and especially nothing like "maybe next time" - it honestly breaks my heart and makes me mad that grieving parents actually get comments like that!

I will send her a card along with a gift card and will just write that I am extremely sorry for their loss. Thanks again for the advice ❤️



 
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You're a good friend!



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 06:19 AM   494
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In so gladthis thread is here.. I think I've needed somewhere to out all my thoughts and feelings down.

I lost my baby at 13 weeks... I had a 6 week NHS scan and a private 8 week one. I really wanted to book a 11 week private scan but everybody just told me to stop being impatient and wait for the 12 week scan that was actually going to be at 13 weeks (the day I lost the baby)

2 days before the scan was scheduled I started bleeding, I went to work and monitored it, told my mom and she told me to go straight to A&E to get checked. I went, waited, felt so sick had a terrible headache. The doctor said it was fine nothing to worry about women bleed and that I had a scan booked for 2 days time so they can check then. I begged again for a scan and was told I couldn't have one today. I went home scared and sad but I was feeling so weak I didn't put up a fight and just went home.

The next day the bleeding seemed to slow down, the blood was brown not red so I assumed it was stopping. Went to work felt slot better everything seemed ok. My work colleueges were all excited to see pictures from the scan I was due to have the next day over the weekend but as soon as I got home I felt a fish of liquid and if passed a massive blood clot. I was distraught. My mom called an ambulance and I was rushed to hospital. I was placed on an IV drip because of the amount of blood I had lost. I was praying it would be ok but deep down I knew what was happening.

5 hours later at 1.30am Friday 16th June they confrimmed my worse fears... I had miss carried my beautiful baby. I was due to have my "12 week scan" at 2.40pm that day. I couldn't even think straight...

It's been almost a week since I lost the baby and I feel like my life has fallen apart. I had a cot set up, the pushchair is on order for September we had everything ready for out little bundle of joy and it was taken away...

I just don't understand why this has to happen. There's peoole who abuse and mistreat children and they get to keep them, people who use drugs and there baby suvivies some born shaking duento withdrawal symptons and there's me (us) who wanted this baby so much, would have done anything for them. I wouldn't even take parocetomal for my heads aches during pregnancy as I was so worried.



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 17:17 PM   495
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So sorry for your loss . I had 3 myself, latest one at 10 weeks and had the D&C a few days before what would have been my 12 week scan. Life just isn't fair sometimes. Big hugs xxx



 
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