I lost my baby at 18 weeks - Page 2

Krippy · Mar 13th, 2012, 09:38 AM

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful child.

Miss Mitch · Mar 13th, 2012, 09:58 AM

So sorry for your loss, we are all here for you if you want to talk xx

Cracker · Mar 18th, 2012, 14:57 PM

Oh my goodness Wilsmum I haven't been on here since I lost our baby at 15 weeks, but we were only a few days different for due date. I am so incredibly sorry when I read this.

I suddenly lost my baby in the A&E toilet 240 miles from home and like you was just sat there holding it. I had to have an op to remove the placenta though. We are waiting for the results of the postmortem and placental analysis - but they have said it is unlikely to show anything, but we will wait and see.

We chose not to name the baby but we did find out the sex which was initially really hard as then you can imagine your life with the baby even more but I am glad 4 weeks down the line that we did.

You will have very teary moments that come upon you for no real reason, just embrace them and it is all part of the grieving process. I feel for you I really do and if you ever want to chat with someone going through something very similar, feel free to message me xx

WILSMUM · Mar 19th, 2012, 06:03 AM

thank you cracker, i was 18 weeks but the baby measured around 15 weeks and they couldn't tell us the sex at the hospital. The same as you we're waiting on the chromosone analysis but because I passed the placenta in the shower cubicle at home they couldn't send that away as it would have been contaminated, even before that happened they said the likelihood of actually gettign any answers would be slim so I guess now with only the baby and my blood the likelihood will be even less. I do wonder tho if they will be able to tell the sex from the chromosone analysis.

Did they say how long it would be before you get the results? They told us it could be 3 months before we get an appointment at the clinic to go over everything and get the results!

jojo23 · Mar 19th, 2012, 10:12 AM

im so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience hun! i lost my little girl last year at 22 weeks but i was in the hospital at the time i cant imagine how scared you must have been at home! the ladies here are amazing and really got me through some hard times so dont be afraid to ask all the questions you need and know that we are always here for you! xoxoxox

**calm** · Mar 19th, 2012, 11:31 AM

So sorry

heatherlyne90 · Mar 20th, 2012, 01:11 AM

i am soooo sorry, i lost my son at 15 weeks and i delivered at home as well... theres no pain that goes deeper than that and i will send up a prayer for you and your little angel.

keep your head up, though the pain never leaves completely it does get better and youll make it through i promise.

WILSMUM · Mar 20th, 2012, 03:21 AM

thank you all, it just doesn't quite seem real now, almost like it happened to someone else and not me.

Cracker · Mar 20th, 2012, 13:09 PM

My GP said to contact him in a month but I haven't been offered any sort of meeting to discuss it - he said if he hadn't for the results in a month he will chase them up.
I would love the opportunity to discuss it with a specialist but haven't
Been offered it, has anyone else?

I think in my case the continual heavy bleeding ruptured my waters and triggered labour.

I completely agree, it feels incredibly surreal

WILSMUM · Mar 20th, 2012, 14:24 PM

we were told we'd get an appointment at the clinic at the hospital within 3 months to get the results and follow up, I'm guessing it will be wiht a doctor/consultant that works in gyne/labour ward but don't know.

I have no idea what caused it - the babys heart just stopped beating at around 15 weeks and then 3 weeks later i started spotting and then my body just went into labour by itself.

The not knowing why is horrible but the probability is that the analysis results won't show anything and we will never know. All the health professinals have stressed that there is no reason for us to wait physically and if we do want to try again we can as soon as we feel we want to.

Mar 13th, 2012, 09:38 AM	#11
Krippy Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 2,772	I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful child.

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Mar 13th, 2012, 09:58 AM	#12
Miss Mitch Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Kent, England Posts: 539	So sorry for your loss, we are all here for you if you want to talk xx

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Mar 18th, 2012, 14:57 PM	#13
Cracker Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 712	Oh my goodness Wilsmum I haven't been on here since I lost our baby at 15 weeks, but we were only a few days different for due date. I am so incredibly sorry when I read this. I suddenly lost my baby in the A&E toilet 240 miles from home and like you was just sat there holding it. I had to have an op to remove the placenta though. We are waiting for the results of the postmortem and placental analysis - but they have said it is unlikely to show anything, but we will wait and see. We chose not to name the baby but we did find out the sex which was initially really hard as then you can imagine your life with the baby even more but I am glad 4 weeks down the line that we did. You will have very teary moments that come upon you for no real reason, just embrace them and it is all part of the grieving process. I feel for you I really do and if you ever want to chat with someone going through something very similar, feel free to message me xx

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Mar 19th, 2012, 06:03 AM	#14
WILSMUM Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 2,274	thank you cracker, i was 18 weeks but the baby measured around 15 weeks and they couldn't tell us the sex at the hospital. The same as you we're waiting on the chromosone analysis but because I passed the placenta in the shower cubicle at home they couldn't send that away as it would have been contaminated, even before that happened they said the likelihood of actually gettign any answers would be slim so I guess now with only the baby and my blood the likelihood will be even less. I do wonder tho if they will be able to tell the sex from the chromosone analysis. Did they say how long it would be before you get the results? They told us it could be 3 months before we get an appointment at the clinic to go over everything and get the results!

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Mar 19th, 2012, 10:12 AM	#15
jojo23 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: ireland Posts: 1,627	im so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience hun! i lost my little girl last year at 22 weeks but i was in the hospital at the time i cant imagine how scared you must have been at home! the ladies here are amazing and really got me through some hard times so dont be afraid to ask all the questions you need and know that we are always here for you! xoxoxox

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Mar 19th, 2012, 11:31 AM	#16
calm Trying to conceive (TTC) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Spain Posts: 6,191	So sorry

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Mar 20th, 2012, 01:11 AM	#17
heatherlyne90 Other New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Mass Posts: 7	i am soooo sorry, i lost my son at 15 weeks and i delivered at home as well... theres no pain that goes deeper than that and i will send up a prayer for you and your little angel. keep your head up, though the pain never leaves completely it does get better and youll make it through i promise.

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Mar 20th, 2012, 03:21 AM	#18
WILSMUM Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 2,274	thank you all, it just doesn't quite seem real now, almost like it happened to someone else and not me.

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Mar 20th, 2012, 13:09 PM	#19
Cracker Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 712	My GP said to contact him in a month but I haven't been offered any sort of meeting to discuss it - he said if he hadn't for the results in a month he will chase them up. I would love the opportunity to discuss it with a specialist but haven't Been offered it, has anyone else? I think in my case the continual heavy bleeding ruptured my waters and triggered labour. I completely agree, it feels incredibly surreal

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Mar 20th, 2012, 14:24 PM	#20
WILSMUM Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 2,274	we were told we'd get an appointment at the clinic at the hospital within 3 months to get the results and follow up, I'm guessing it will be wiht a doctor/consultant that works in gyne/labour ward but don't know. I have no idea what caused it - the babys heart just stopped beating at around 15 weeks and then 3 weeks later i started spotting and then my body just went into labour by itself. The not knowing why is horrible but the probability is that the analysis results won't show anything and we will never know. All the health professinals have stressed that there is no reason for us to wait physically and if we do want to try again we can as soon as we feel we want to.

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