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Old Aug 27th, 2013, 16:57 PM   21
IsaacRalph
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Calidreaming the prices for fertility treatment are insane here in the UK if you haven't got a child already you can have up to 4 iui and between 1-3 ivf's and all testing free depending where you live all on the nhs! Ww have to pay for private treatment as thankgod already have a gorgeous son! Hoping to save up the cash for October but I pray that it happens before that then we can have a nice family holiday with the cash to chill out! Ha what a dream!
Defo think you should go for testing ms jasmine they will probably start with blood tests! Are your cycles regular and do you have ov symptoms?
Whiteorchid we never thought we'd go to extremes of paying for help but we decided few months ago if we can find money for new cars and hols etc we can find it also for fertility treatment! We may need to ask our parents for help but hopefully we'll raise the cash. Let's hope neither of us get that far down the line!



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2013, 19:12 PM   22
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I know, it's so hard and I wish it wasn't so expensive! I totally agree with you wanting to try everything so one day if the question arises you can tell your DS that you literally tried everything you could to try and have a brother or sister for him - I feel the exact same way. I think it's my DH that perhaps doesn't....I know he is so delighted with our son (as am I obviously) and one of his best friends has only 1 child and so I think at times he feels that although he would like another one, if it doesn't happen he is very happy/content with our family of 3. While I feel the same way I would go further to try and have one more. I got so mad the other day because he is desperate to buy a boat and is wanting to put money aside for that for next summer. I made a comment how it's not my priority and in my opinion we might need it for fertility treatment to which he responded "I'm not spending $10k on fertility treatment"!!! I was so frustrated but hoping that it was just an initial response and if need be and we can't get pregnant naturally he'll think about it more rather than just responding like that! Anyway we're still hopeful it will happen naturally so for his sake (and his boat fund!) I hope we don't need fertility treatment!!!

Would love to keep this thread going! I find it so hard to find ppl to talk to who understand and keep in touch....most threads seem to last a couple of days then run their course.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 06:36 AM   23
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Whiteorchid, my hubby feels the same as yours. He has made it pretty clear that he is very happy with our family of three and would rather not have anymore. But he sees how unhappy I have been these past few months so he cooperates in all the treatments. I wish I could make myself not want another child, because dh and dd seem so happy as we are.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 12:08 PM   24
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Whiteorchid, my hubby feels the same as yours. He has made it pretty clear that he is very happy with our family of three and would rather not have anymore. But he sees how unhappy I have been these past few months so he cooperates in all the treatments. I wish I could make myself not want another child, because dh and dd seem so happy as we are.
Yeah it's so tough. My DH does really want another child, I just think he feels if it doesn't happen naturally he's not that into going down the fertility route since we are so lucky with what we already have and can't really afford it. I get so torn at times between feeling the same as him - everything is great, DS is fantastic, I get to sleep etc(!!) and our little family is perfect - to aching because I so badly just want 1 more baby to add to our family and I'm not ready to give up on that dream yet. I never for a moment dreamt I would only have 1 child so when I had my DS I always thought I would have another and I think with my 2nd I'd appreciate things so much more knowing I won't be having any other babies.... so tough. I feel your pain.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 12:36 PM   25
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Oh, so your hubby's stance is a little different than mine. Since he really does want a child, it will probably be easier to convince him to spend a little. Since he was able to get you pregnant the first time around chances are really good those supplements will work.

I never envisioned myself having just one either and you described perfectly why it is so hard. I also get sad when I think about how happy I was when I was pregnant and buying all the stuff for dd, the utrasounds, etc. Sometimes I get sad because I don't know if I'll ever in my life be as happy as I was then. I wonder if it's easier to accept if you start TTC #2 knowing that your odds of success are slim.

I had envisioned myself having three, but I think I could feel complete with two.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 21:27 PM   26
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I'm 35 been trying for just a little over a year. My partner has a very low sperm count so the odds of us having a baby naturally are low. Every month I get my hopes high & then they are dashed. Every month has different symptoms.... This month I have had horrid cramps the last few days. AF is due Fri-Sunday. It usually hits hours before. Last Oct I had sore boobs as a PMS symptom for the first time. Over a year ago I had metallic taste in my mouth. Still not prego. Every month cycle is different. It drives me crazy.



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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 22:33 PM   27
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Oh, so your hubby's stance is a little different than mine. Since he really does want a child, it will probably be easier to convince him to spend a little. Since he was able to get you pregnant the first time around chances are really good those supplements will work.

I never envisioned myself having just one either and you described perfectly why it is so hard. I also get sad when I think about how happy I was when I was pregnant and buying all the stuff for dd, the utrasounds, etc. Sometimes I get sad because I don't know if I'll ever in my life be as happy as I was then. I wonder if it's easier to accept if you start TTC #2 knowing that your odds of success are slim.

I had envisioned myself having three, but I think I could feel complete with two.
I hope so although I feel so hopeless and so frustrated that 4 years ago we got pregnant and now nothing. Of course I have no idea if conceiving DS was a complete fluke or whether his sperm situation has just deteriorated over the last 4 years.

I too always wanted to have 3 but I was the opposite of you and had a bad pregnancy followed by a bad labour so I decided 2 would be good rather than 3, ANYWAY despite all of that I am still willing to go through it all again and just wish it could happen.

I'm also feeling super emotional just now as my sister is in the early stages of labour (waters broken but nothing else) with her first and I am so excited for her but hating being so far away - its torture



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2013, 22:38 PM   28
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I'm 35 been trying for just a little over a year. My partner has a very low sperm count so the odds of us having a baby naturally are low. Every month I get my hopes high & then they are dashed. Every month has different symptoms.... This month I have had horrid cramps the last few days. AF is due Fri-Sunday. It usually hits hours before. Last Oct I had sore boobs as a PMS symptom for the first time. Over a year ago I had metallic taste in my mouth. Still not prego. Every month cycle is different. It drives me crazy.
Hello 35andttc2!
Isn't it so unfair how our body does that to trick us into thinking we might have a chance only to have that tiny bit of optimism slapped back in our face with the arrival of AF! Even though most months I know before the arrival of AF that I'm out I can't help but just wonder "maybe" but AF always rears her ugly head. A few months ago I was even 3 days late and hadn't really had the sore boobs I always get so for the first time in a while I actually bought some tests and POAS but of course it was negative. So depressing. Thankfully we are all in the situation so we can try and help each other through. I'm currently 5dpo for this month which is the first month that we've passed the 90 day mark since trying to make changes to hubby's sperm...guess only time will tell.



 
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Old Aug 29th, 2013, 01:52 AM   29
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Welcome 35andttc2 I totallty understand how you feel it really is soul destroying in the early days I was so convinced I was pregnant with sore boobs and nausea as symptoms and bam bfn after bfn! Had some nasty evap lines convincing me I was in with a chance too! Hopefully you'll get your bfp within the next year they say 90% of couples should fall preggers within this time frame!

Yeah when pregnant with ds I never once held my bump thinking it would've been the last time! I though we'd have at least 2 possibly 3. Now I'd be happy for just one more child either sex! Dh feels exactly the same as me and willing to try everything possible but we will be sensible if it doesn't work then we'll probably have to throw in the towel!



 
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Old Aug 29th, 2013, 08:53 AM   30
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I really hate it when AF plays games. This last cycle, my AF was 3 days late. I had tested early on so I knew I wasn't pregnant, but the longer it drug on I couldn't help but get hopeful. It was a monitored cycle with Clomid and a trigger, so I knew exactly when I ovulated, which made it even harder not to get hopeful. But then right before I took the test I noticed spotting so that took the sting of the bfn away a bit.

Now that we're focused on improving hubby's sperm I'm finding I'm much more relaxed about TTC. I know that it can take several months to improve so I know not to expect anything.



 
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