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Old Apr 16th, 2012, 22:23 PM   51
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Good luck for your lap and as KC says its easy surgery and fast recovery as I have experienced but with great benefits.

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Sorry the witch got you. I understand how you feel when you say that you cannot give a family to DH, but I look at things in this way now- God is making it tough for us to get to that moment when we all shall hold our LOs only to make us the best moms in the world, we will probably enjoy motherhood more than anyone who have had it easy(no offense), we will understand its worth for every single moment and would never take a moment of motherhood for granted. I know it is tough for you when you find every body around you getting pregnant, but I truly and sincerely believe we all shall get that magical BFP.



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Old Apr 17th, 2012, 12:50 PM   52
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Awe, thanks for the words of encouragment, ladies.
Yesterday was a crappy day for me. Today, I booked a "Booze Cruise" for DH and I to go with all our friends end of September, so it would not be a good idea to get pregnant right before that..lol We both need to get away and escape the daily hustle & bustle of working, school, and stress of infertility. DH is depressed and it hurts to see him upset, sometimes I think he wants a baby more than I do.
We will all get what we wish for some day. And when we do, we certainly will appreciate what we have cause it took so long to get it! You are so right, Anne.

It is in God's hands whether or not we become parents at this point. I have faith he will not disappoint.



 
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Old Apr 17th, 2012, 12:58 PM   53
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Thanks Anne- Your post made me cry happy tears. I KNOW I will be a better mother than I would have been because of this journey.

LChick- I had issues with pain as well and through my lap they discovered Fibroids which were removed. Best of luck. I would be sure to let your lap surgeon know that if there are any other issues happening that he/she should clear them up then and there. I know girls who have had laps where they were diagnosed and then have to have another lap to take care of the problem because their sureon didn't take care of the first time. Although the lap was fairly easy compared with other surgeries- I would NOT want to have another one unnecessarily!

KC- Booze cruise sounds awesome. DH and I were going to plan a trip to wine country this summer (we have friends in Sonoma). I'm bummed we are putting it on hold for bubs making!



 
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Old Apr 17th, 2012, 22:42 PM   54
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KC Yayyyyyyyy for "booze cruise" I am always in for holidays, what we have under our control is the present and I believe in making the best of it so that I don't regret later. This will be a very good break for you I bet and you never know things happen when you expect it the least Good luck

Lilly Correct me if I am wrong but if you are done with your laproscopy and all follow-up appointments with your doc, then I think it would be okay to go for a holiday. DH and I started actively ttc-ing around sept/oct'10. Starting from then till Oct'11 we travelled so much for holidays. I was initially depressed that I wasnt getting a BFP and then DH started planning for these holidays. His plan was if I am supposed to get a BFP, then I will but we cannot wait for it and delay things that we can do now. Please do not get me wrong, I am sure you must be having other compulsions for not going for a holiday now.Now when I look back at the last two years all I have is fond memories from our holidays which kind of overshadows the underlying sadness of 'infertility'. We travelled across USA from New York and Niagara Falls to LA,Las Vegas,Grand Canyon,Colorado,Michigan and the likes Since November'11 we started actively diagnosing our problem and hence we cannot go for holidays now Though we are booked for one in May, we will have to cancel it for my hydrotubation sessions

My post became too long but I just want to lift all your spirits up ladies. I am in the same boat and I know how painful infertility can be. I used to be this depressed person about a year back but all my gloom was dispelled due to the super optimism of my DH. We all deserve a baby more than anybody else and we all shall reach to that point but we should not forget that before being a mom, we all have our own entity, our own needs, our own time and we all should utilise it to the fullest. Good luck ladies and keep the PMA



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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 14:07 PM   55
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Hello girls, room for a little one!!? I am due to have my second Lap on 21st of May this time to try and unblobck my left tube and to remove my right tube! Anyone had a salpingectomy? We also have male factor so will be doing IVF once I have had my surgery. Good Luck to all you girls xx



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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 14:26 PM   56
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Hi Howley!
Welcome! I had my right tube removed and they opened my left tube during my lap. Since we do not have male factor, I will be trying naturally for the next 6 months, after that we will move on to IVF since I am almost 37...time is of the essence for me!

Anne- Yeah we were going to plan a trip to wine country but we cancelled that because what good is wine country if you can't drink wine? haha. The other thing that is stopping us is the fact that if ttc doesn't work out we are moving on to ivf in 6 months which is a huge expense. All in all it will cost $30,000. (A package that includes 3 fresh and 3 frozen cycles). So we need to save our money for that!! If I get pregnant naturally we will go on a massive holiday to celebrate!



 
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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 14:38 PM   57
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Lilly how was your recovery from the salpingectomy, I had a Lap before and the recover was fine, just wondered if there would be a difference this time? also did you have it done Laparscopic and how many incisions did you have? or did you have to have a Laparotamy I am so worried they will have to cut me open? So many questions, I will have a pre-op this time so at least I will be able to get all my concerns out. X



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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 15:36 PM   58
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It was my first and only lap. Originally they were going in to unblock both tubes, as the hsg said both were blocked. Once they got in there they realized that my right tube was not worth saving so they removed it laparascopically. I had 4 incisions. 1 in belly button, 1 small on the right and left side (like by your ovaries), and one above the pubic bone. They also found a fibroid and ovarian cyst they removed. Originally my recovery was nly supposed to be one week, but due to the fibroid and cyst I was off work for 2 weeks.

I am now at the start of week 4 after my lap and I feel totally normal. My scars from the operation are virtually non-existant..like pencil tip marks. The one above pubic bone is more noticable.

You will be fine, and your recovery should take about a week. Double check with your doctor but I think that is right.



 
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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 15:38 PM   59
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Also, I was going to add that I didn't feel any pain from where they did the salpingectomy. All my pain and recovery was from the fibroid they removed. The will absolutely not have to cut you open and your recovery should be a breeze.



 
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Old Apr 18th, 2012, 21:57 PM   60
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Welcome and good luck for your lap.

Lilly

I am rooting for a natural bfp for you hun. 30k$ is so much money, is your insurance going to cover infertility? You will be in my prayers hun that you soon get a natural bfp and then go for this grand holiday to celebrate Think good things and they will happen and vice versa. I know its easier said than done considering the rough road we are all travelling, but it doesn't hurt to be optimistic eh? When can you start ttc again?

AFM Today's exactly 2 weeks after my lap and I am absolutely up and about now. Hopefully things will go well from here



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