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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 03:52 AM   1
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Anyone cheated on when pregnant?


I am 95% certain I was.

I just remembered one night we were at a friends house, I was about 30 weeks pregnant I think and he was drunkenly telling a story about a woman his 'mate' met at work but he had so much detail about it, basically they were door to door salesman and his 'mate' got invited in, they kissed then he went back later for sex, but ex was saying 'oh she was a right dirty bitch' and I questioned him then saying how do you know, and he said 'it was what he told me'.

I don't know why this is now on my mind but I am convinced he did it and not his mate. We didn't live together then so I wouldn't have known what he was up to.

I feel sick thinking about it. How do I deal with it and how do I block it out? How can a man do that to his pregnant gf?




 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 04:00 AM   2
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I was. With his ex girlfriend. Not to mention the girl he rang me and told me his friend had encouraged him to sleep with behind my back, and the 2 others he told me he was seeing that were ready to be step mum to my baby and couldn't wait - All whilst I was so ill I was in hospital every other week - While he was messing with my head wanting me to take him back - I ended it quite early on for soooo many reasons I needed space from him he was screwing my head up intentionally all the time (plus alot more than that) - I didn't get it I was harrassed for months on end.

The best thing to do is add it to the reasons you're lucky you're not with him anymore x



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 04:03 AM   3
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OMG sorry to hear what happened to you.

You are right, another reason to confirm I did the right thing leaving. x



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 04:11 AM   4
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You did I don't believe cheaters ever change, have you ever thought about counselling? Someone you can just tell everything running through your mind to and not feel judged? Maybe if you're able to get it all out you can finally start to move on and heal? If not maybe just writing it all down in like a personal blog or diary? I found holding everything in made everything 100% worse for me and it wasn't until I told people what had actually happened I started to feel strong enough to be me again x



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 04:22 AM   5
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That's a good idea. I don't really talk about him or the split to anyone because all my family and friends hate him and think it's fantastic that we are no longer together but they forget it still hurts - I do need to talk to someone who doesn't know him and can help.



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 04:29 AM   6
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I know your GP can refer you places but I think they only do that if abuse was involved but there's places like womens centres where you can self refer, I'm not sure whether or not they charge you so much per session though, I was told some of them have funding for it so it's free but with all the funding cuts no one knows whether they still get them or not. I do hope it helps though x



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 06:06 AM   7
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I'm almost certain I was, we moved in together when I was 5 months pregnant. He was always finishing work suspiciously late, going out for loads of different reasons like 'to pop to the shop' and would be gone hours. I was almost certain he was cheating. Then someone told me they'd seen him going to this girls house several times, but I refused to believe it, or I was just in denial. Like you said how can a man cheat on his pregnant gf? Anyway he left me when I was 7 months pregnant, and got with this same girl VERY soon after, like days.... That confirms it for me ... What a deadbeat.



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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 11:38 AM   8
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I was twice , once was with a 14 year old girl and he was almost 19 which made me absolutely sick .



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 14:59 PM   9
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I was and the woman was a older woman desperate to take my 'family' away, she completely harrased and stalked me... Hence y im a single mum and pregnant and hes living in a shit hole alone, begging for forgivness



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2012, 20:51 PM   10
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I was, several times over. He struck up a relationship with a lass (who looked just like me ) two weeks after we found out I was pg, that lasted until after Lucas was born. Granted, that probably wasn't the worst thing he did while I was pregnant - he seemed to punish me for daring to fall pregnant to him despite his assertions he was infertile. There were, by most accounts, many women over the course of 10 months or more (that I knew of), he also had dating profiles. I took him back a few times but after several chances he refused to acknowledge the fact he was seeing someone else, even though I knew her name, number and what she looked like. He wouldn't leave me for her because he didn't want to be the bad guy, so I had to either put up with it or leave. He's still with her AFAIK, and still denies she exists - despite Lucas picking her out in photographs and talking about her

I've gone back and forth since leaving him over whether it was the right thing to do, whether I should ask him to get back together for Lucas' sake - but ultimately, while he is a good Dad and Lucas adores him, I'm glad he's not here 24/7 because I don't want the influence of a man who could have so little respect for his partner and unborn child to rub off on my son.

I can't fathom why anyone would want to be out shagging around while their partner is at home, growing their baby. And it's a shame, because this wonderful life is offered to these men on a plate and they can throw it all away for a meaningless shag (or several, in my case).
If I ever found Lucas acting this way when he becomes a Dad, I'd honestly beat the living shit out of him. I just hope every day I'm raising him better than that.



 
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