FOB is soo annoying!!

TinkCee · Feb 5th, 2013, 21:36 PM

Im 26 weeks pregnant

Such a good thing for me. I feel blessed.

But the FOB is beyond a jerk!!!!
We tried staying together for the baby but he showed no motivation with this pregnancy so why would I waste time trying to force him to make it work.

Well this past week a lot of things happened with the pregnancy. I feel very nervous with a baby on the way now. After he expressed how much he wanted to become more apart with things now... These past few days he has cut down to low low communication.
I feel so disappointed!! I fell for the act!!

What do I do... Or how do I handle this?!

How can I ignore him without having to start an arguement?

Please help before I cry!!

Strawberrymum · Feb 6th, 2013, 05:54 AM

I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will be ok
Just try to enjoy the last half of your Pregnancy.He may come round soon or when you have the baby but if he doesn't you're better off without him.

PM me if you want someone to chat with

Dezireey · Feb 6th, 2013, 06:56 AM

From experience sweetie, just leave it until after the baby is born. it's a waste of time and energy and the more you push / contact / tell off an FOB that doesn't want to know
or who makes no effort, the more he will run away. then, like my FOB they will justify their actions by making out you are a stalker / harassing them / crazy ex etc and it will break your heart.

At least when the baby is born you HAVE to get in touch to tell him he is a father and to get child support. you have a reason to contact him then and he can't argue with that.

I wouldn't bother contacting him if he is not bothering contacting you.

TinkCee · Feb 6th, 2013, 09:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dezireey

From experience sweetie, just leave it until after the baby is born. it's a waste of time and energy and the more you push / contact / tell off an FOB that doesn't want to know
or who makes no effort, the more he will run away. then, like my FOB they will justify their actions by making out you are a stalker / harassing them / crazy ex etc and it will break your heart.

At least when the baby is born you HAVE to get in touch to tell him he is a father and to get child support. you have a reason to contact him then and he can't argue with that.

I wouldn't bother contacting him if he is not bothering contacting you.

You do have a very good point.
I didnt think of it that way.
I know he wants to be apart of my babys life but maybe thats the point I am missing. I have to wait till the baby gets here. For now this pregnancy is all mother stuff.

Thank u!!

Feb 5th, 2013, 21:36 PM	#1
TinkCee Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: NM Posts: 42	FOB is soo annoying!! Im 26 weeks pregnant Such a good thing for me. I feel blessed. But the FOB is beyond a jerk!!!! We tried staying together for the baby but he showed no motivation with this pregnancy so why would I waste time trying to force him to make it work. Well this past week a lot of things happened with the pregnancy. I feel very nervous with a baby on the way now. After he expressed how much he wanted to become more apart with things now... These past few days he has cut down to low low communication. I feel so disappointed!! I fell for the act!! What do I do... Or how do I handle this?! How can I ignore him without having to start an arguement? Please help before I cry!!

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Feb 6th, 2013, 05:54 AM	#2
Strawberrymum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 1,202	I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will be ok Just try to enjoy the last half of your Pregnancy.He may come round soon or when you have the baby but if he doesn't you're better off without him. PM me if you want someone to chat with

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Feb 6th, 2013, 06:56 AM	#3
Dezireey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 990	From experience sweetie, just leave it until after the baby is born. it's a waste of time and energy and the more you push / contact / tell off an FOB that doesn't want to know or who makes no effort, the more he will run away. then, like my FOB they will justify their actions by making out you are a stalker / harassing them / crazy ex etc and it will break your heart. At least when the baby is born you HAVE to get in touch to tell him he is a father and to get child support. you have a reason to contact him then and he can't argue with that. I wouldn't bother contacting him if he is not bothering contacting you.

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