Single again nee to talk

Dream.dream · Feb 24th, 2013, 19:17 PM

So I'm officially single again. I had to kick my boyfriend of 2 year out of the house . He was becoming abusive and I felt I was in danger .

Doesn't make it hurt less tho. He's trying to hurt me financially he got my power cut off and trying to take away my dog and other things that I came into the relationship with .

It really sucks . I'm so use to the family life and being a single mom again sucks right now.

I know we'll get through but need some moms to talk to as I don't have a lot of friends left here

exoticsiren · Feb 24th, 2013, 21:24 PM

Hi.. If u wanna talk pm.. Im going through something similar...:-)

ravenmel · Mar 4th, 2013, 17:12 PM

Well done you for getting him out. I know it's hard, but you did the right thing and I wish more women had the courage to know when to leave an abusive relationship.

You've done the hard bit. He's just trying to get to you now coz you've taken his power away and just being a baby throwing his toys out of the pram. If he gets too nasty tho do report him to the police and note his silly behavior.

hugs mama

Dream.dream · Mar 4th, 2013, 19:10 PM

thanks , im actualy proud of myself to, its taken me time to get my self esteem back and this is a huge step for me because i did somehting that was good for me without feeling bad.

i love the analogy with the throwing the toys lol so true

bee1724 · Apr 10th, 2013, 05:27 AM

same situation 3 year relation 6 month old baby father was becoming abusive and i left him i feel soo lonely him not next to me feel like i wish i had someone to talk to who understands i miss him soo much cooking caring for him laughing cuddling and seeing him with our lo so many memories now hes not around at all i dont know wht to do i cry alot now

Dezireey · Apr 10th, 2013, 10:26 AM

It is hard when your other half leaves and/ or the relationship breaks down when there are kids involved. Family life always seems untouchable and strong, like nothing can touch it but sadly even if you are married, a relationship is not for life and can easily break down and then... its just gone. If two people are meant to be together they will be but if one person is unkind, selfish or abusive etc, there is no hope, it just wont work. Better to be on your own hun with your LO than be in a bad relationship. It affects kids, they sense everything and know when Mum and Dad don't get on. So best for your baby in the long run.

If he continues to be spiteful, send him a threat that you will call the police. If that doesn't stop him, then actually call them and say that you are being harrassed and threatened by your ex.

Dream.dream · Apr 10th, 2013, 16:24 PM

thanks I actualy found out i was expecting number 2 shortly after. Were doing counselling because regardless of what happens with us we have to be parents together.

tiggertiger · Apr 12th, 2013, 18:38 PM

sweetie get in touch with wowens aid they are a god send and will go outta there way to help

ellebelle · Apr 14th, 2013, 15:09 PM

Good for you! You should feel proud of yourself for doing a brave thing.
I know it sucks to feel lonely, but you're worth so much more. Stay strong

My ex is emotionally abusive and I'm hoping to do counselling with him because I want us to parent well together.

I second finding some women's aid or getting in touch with a shelter for some support. We have a shelter for abused women here and getting in contact with them was the best thing I ever did. Get empowered girl, don't let your ex knock you down.

Feb 24th, 2013, 19:17 PM	#1
Dream.dream Chat Happy BnB Member Mommy- Expecting #2 Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Country: Posts: 1,351 Thanked others: 18 Thanked 430 times in 370 posts	Single again nee to talk So I'm officially single again. I had to kick my boyfriend of 2 year out of the house . He was becoming abusive and I felt I was in danger . Doesn't make it hurt less tho. He's trying to hurt me financially he got my power cut off and trying to take away my dog and other things that I came into the relationship with . It really sucks . I'm so use to the family life and being a single mom again sucks right now. I know we'll get through but need some moms to talk to as I don't have a lot of friends left here __________________
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ravenmel Active BnB Member Mother of 2 Join Date: Mar 2010 Country: Posts: 371 Thanked others: 141 Thanked 189 times in 112 posts Currently Feeling:	Well done you for getting him out. I know it's hard, but you did the right thing and I wish more women had the courage to know when to leave an abusive relationship. You've done the hard bit. He's just trying to get to you now coz you've taken his power away and just being a baby throwing his toys out of the pram. If he gets too nasty tho do report him to the police and note his silly behavior. hugs mama
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Mar 4th, 2013, 19:10 PM	#4
Dream.dream Chat Happy BnB Member Mommy- Expecting #2 Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Country: Posts: 1,351 Thanked others: 18 Thanked 430 times in 370 posts	thanks , im actualy proud of myself to, its taken me time to get my self esteem back and this is a huge step for me because i did somehting that was good for me without feeling bad. i love the analogy with the throwing the toys lol so true
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Apr 10th, 2013, 05:27 AM	#5
bee1724 Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Az Country: Posts: 66 Thanked others: 110 Thanked 11 times in 11 posts Currently Feeling:	same situation 3 year relation 6 month old baby father was becoming abusive and i left him i feel soo lonely him not next to me feel like i wish i had someone to talk to who understands i miss him soo much cooking caring for him laughing cuddling and seeing him with our lo so many memories now hes not around at all i dont know wht to do i cry alot now
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Dezireey Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Country: Posts: 954 Thanked others: 446 Thanked 757 times in 413 posts Currently Feeling:	It is hard when your other half leaves and/ or the relationship breaks down when there are kids involved. Family life always seems untouchable and strong, like nothing can touch it but sadly even if you are married, a relationship is not for life and can easily break down and then... its just gone. If two people are meant to be together they will be but if one person is unkind, selfish or abusive etc, there is no hope, it just wont work. Better to be on your own hun with your LO than be in a bad relationship. It affects kids, they sense everything and know when Mum and Dad don't get on. So best for your baby in the long run. If he continues to be spiteful, send him a threat that you will call the police. If that doesn't stop him, then actually call them and say that you are being harrassed and threatened by your ex. __________________
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Apr 10th, 2013, 16:24 PM	#7
Dream.dream Chat Happy BnB Member Mommy- Expecting #2 Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Country: Posts: 1,351 Thanked others: 18 Thanked 430 times in 370 posts	thanks I actualy found out i was expecting number 2 shortly after. Were doing counselling because regardless of what happens with us we have to be parents together.
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Apr 14th, 2013, 15:09 PM	#9
ellebelle Active BnB Member Mommy to Milena & Hannah Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Country: Posts: 239 Thanked others: 110 Thanked 87 times in 65 posts	Good for you! You should feel proud of yourself for doing a brave thing. I know it sucks to feel lonely, but you're worth so much more. Stay strong My ex is emotionally abusive and I'm hoping to do counselling with him because I want us to parent well together. I second finding some women's aid or getting in touch with a shelter for some support. We have a shelter for abused women here and getting in contact with them was the best thing I ever did. Get empowered girl, don't let your ex knock you down. __________________
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