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Old Dec 8th, 2014, 12:07 PM   1
Hangin_On_AGS
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knock knock, I'm moving in cause he moved out.


My husband moved out Thursday night after emptying our bank account at the strip club and telling me he never wanted to marry me but asked and did it anyway. We have a 20 month old and I'm almost 19 weeks pregnant with our son. I never thought I would be here how many have said the same thing. This is my second divorce I feel like I'm doing something but all I've done is chosen wrong men. He is very busy he when he lived with us was rarely around our daughter has no real bond with him. He's agreed to give me whatever I need for child support to cover the kids. It doesn't seem like it's going to be a messy divorce just that he wants to be single and free again.

I've had trouble with depression and anxiety and PTSD and needless to say none of this is helping. I had been getting bad for awhile and he kept spending the money I was going to use to go to therapy. I'm very happy to say I start going in a week and a half I'm hoping that will make this process much easier.

If you guys have any tips for me please let me know. Thanks!!



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Old Dec 8th, 2014, 15:42 PM   2
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Oh Hun, I'm so sorry.

First of all, pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself on being rid of this waste of space. I'm not a man-hater, but omg what a tosser. He didn't deserve you and now that you are free again, you can breathe and start a new, better life. Well done for getting help and starting therapy, it's a step in the right direction. Have you any family support around?

Don't let bad times get to you. Xx



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Old Dec 8th, 2014, 22:19 PM   3
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I have incredible friend and family support I'm very blessed!!! I just want to start moving forward. I don't care what people think or say I just kinda want to go on dates have fun enjoy my kids my friends my family and my life. If he can throw me away like garbage that fast. I can start moving on. I have no intention of seriously trying to date until after my son is born and I've had time to resolve my feelings. But I'm not gonna sit at home and cry over something I can't change.



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Old Dec 8th, 2014, 22:42 PM   4
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Honestly, until I met my current other half, and even really to this day, my daughter and I go on dates! We get dressed up, and I do her hair and nails, and we go to her favourite restaurant, and play her favourite games, and then come home and watch her favourite movie!

My ex was kind of like, probably the most psychopathic person I have met myself. He's now looking at about 7 years in jail for everything he's done, and when I first found out what was going on, it was hell. I have PTSD and generalized anxiety and social phobia, my girls from BnB literally were the only friends I had for a while, one even offered to drive me across the province to get back home when he kicked me out when I was pregnant. Basically, I know what it's like. It's scary, and it sucks, and you feel horrible. Then, you just pick yourself back up, one day at a time. I'm now on anxiety medication, two years into a criminology degree with an upcoming scholarship to law school if I keep my grades up, live with my girlfriend now, and my daughter and her half sisters are having christmas together.



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Old Dec 11th, 2014, 13:23 PM   5
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Aw Hun I keep coming on this part of the forum and get sad at how many people I've spoken to across the last couple of years have ended up on here too, and usually for the same reason as me, coz their men turned out to be loser wastes of space!!! I felt a lot like you at first with my split. My ex is now drinking all the time, dating an 18 year old (I'm 31!!) and doing what he pleases when he please. I have a similar age gap with my kiddies and I think basically these tossers find the family life all too much and just bail when it gets a bit hard. I wasn't married to the father of my kids but that was because he spent all our money on gambling do we couldn't afford to get married and I was also married before to an abusive cheat who has since been arrested for domestic violence with his latest wife. It does make me think I am bad at picking men but then I think that's not the case, it's just that I am so trusting and always want to see the best in people. There's nothing wrong with us hunni it's them that's the problem not us!
And I get what you mean about dating, my split was 6 weeks ago and I'm already on dating sites lol! Chatting to a couple of nice guys and it's fun. I'm not ready to proper date just yet but after the terrible year I've had with my ex and how unloved he has made me feel (dumped for an 18 year old when you have a saggy mummy tummy and stretch marks from having HIS kids is such a kick for the confidence!) but I think getting back out there is the boost I need, that and focusing on making sure my kids are happy and healthy, despite the fact their father is too busy living the single life to see them more than a few hours a week!!!

Big hugs Hun, you are a strong woman and you WILL get through this. And in a year or so time you will be the one better off and he will be the one looking back thinking "what have I done?" But you will be so much happier you won't care what he thinks any more xxxx



 
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