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mylittlebubs · Feb 13th, 2010, 22:24 PM

sorry if this might upset anyone on here but i think this is the right place to ask

why did you break up with your partner ? was it because of him or his family ?

............... if this upset you , please ignore it

i'm asking this because i feel like my relationship with my husband is at the breaking point atm, all of this because of his mom

he knows it and we talked about it all the time but he never done anything coz he doesn't want to upset her....

i already posted on GS forum about the situation i'm in

i just don't feel like i can go on any more

suzanne108 · Feb 14th, 2010, 02:59 AM

Me and fob split up mainly because of his mum...obviously I cant blame her completely. She's a control freak...when I got pregnant she basically decided for him that his career was more important and a baby would ruin his life. He agreed with her tho!! Xx

bloodbinds · Feb 14th, 2010, 03:27 AM

*Big Hugs!*

I don't think you should break up because of his mum. I know how awful they can be (As my FOB mum is currently in prision for dealing drugs...) but i think two people should never break up because of anyone else, but only because of each other.

Me and FOB broke up because he decided he didn't want us to be a family, and he didn't love me anymore. So i didn't get much choice in the matter.

but if you love each other, try and work it out.

What kind of problems are you having with the MIL?

mylittlebubs · Feb 14th, 2010, 03:31 AM

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Originally Posted by suzanne108

Me and fob split up mainly because of his mum...obviously I cant blame her completely. She's a control freak...when I got pregnant she basically decided for him that his career was more important and a baby would ruin his life. He agreed with her tho!! Xx

OMG
mine is very controlling too in every single thing in everyone's life basically .it;s just so stressful for everybody, me ,oh, and even lo
lo is very clingy with me when she's here and seems to be grumpy all the time too. But when my family is here lo is very happy and plays with everyone and not clingy to me at all, he seems like a different boy
my friend (the only one i have atm, she never comes round if she's here )

teal · Feb 14th, 2010, 04:26 AM

Sending you hugs

My ex broke up with me because I refused to have a termination.

xx

sweetlullaby · Feb 14th, 2010, 05:00 AM

Long and complicated...trying to sum it up lol

Me and FOB were v.good friends sort of started a relationship but didnt really iykwim.
Got pregnant.
Tried to work something out, wasnt happening he was completly unrealistic, getting pissed all the time etc didnt come to appointments with me. Had been sleeping with another girl and was "in love" with her..but she wasnt interested in him already had a bf and just wanted the company while her partner was working. Left me to it type thing so basically it didnt work out even from the start. lol

Thats the really rough summed up crappy version.

AppleBlossom · Feb 14th, 2010, 05:01 AM

Mines an easy one.

He left me because he was gay and had been cheating on me with men.

You have to laugh though lol

lou_w34 · Feb 14th, 2010, 05:08 AM

Ummmm i found out i was pregnant, he wanted me to have a termination, i refused, so he just refused to talk about the subject for two weeks, then i found out he was cheating on me with like 5 different girls, so i packed his stuff for him and sent him on his way

best decision ive ever made! lol

I always said he could see lo though, he just chooses not too.

xxx

suzanne108 · Feb 14th, 2010, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by mylittlebubs

Quote:

Originally Posted by suzanne108

Me and fob split up mainly because of his mum...obviously I cant blame her completely. She's a control freak...when I got pregnant she basically decided for him that his career was more important and a baby would ruin his life. He agreed with her tho!! Xx

OMG
mine is very controlling too in every single thing in everyone's life basically .it;s just so stressful for everybody, me ,oh, and even lo
lo is very clingy with me when she's here and seems to be grumpy all the time too. But when my family is here lo is very happy and plays with everyone and not clingy to me at all, he seems like a different boy
my friend (the only one i have atm, she never comes round if she's here )

in what way is she controlling? I found out a couple of weeks ago that none of the family like her - only person who can't see it is fob!!! She wrote me letters and everything saying he wasn't ready for a baby and basically said I had trapped him. I did find out after we split up that he'd been messaging other girls via facebook saying that he was gutted nothin happened between them and he was sending pics of his body to a diff girl. And he put pressure on me to have an abortion - even at 13 weeks pregnant after the scan.

I agree with bloodbinds in that people shouldnt split up because of someone else but sometimes it happens. What has fob said about it? My fob wasnt interetsed when i told his mum needed to butt out...there was no hope. I had to decide whether I could cope with that for the rest of my life and I couldnt. If you're unhappy and there is no chance of things changing....whats the point?

Linz88 · Feb 14th, 2010, 06:02 AM

Me and fob broke up because he cheated and got another girl pregnant. I think you should talk to the mom and tell her to butt out if he's to scared to upset her

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mylittlebubs Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Phuket,Thailand Posts: 2,492	sensitive question (warning ***) sorry if this might upset anyone on here but i think this is the right place to ask why did you break up with your partner ? was it because of him or his family ? ............... if this upset you , please ignore it i'm asking this because i feel like my relationship with my husband is at the breaking point atm, all of this because of his mom he knows it and we talked about it all the time but he never done anything coz he doesn't want to upset her.... i already posted on GS forum about the situation i'm in i just don't feel like i can go on any more

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suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,847	Me and fob split up mainly because of his mum...obviously I cant blame her completely. She's a control freak...when I got pregnant she basically decided for him that his career was more important and a baby would ruin his life. He agreed with her tho!! Xx

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Feb 14th, 2010, 03:27 AM	#3
bloodbinds Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 6,632	Big Hugs! I don't think you should break up because of his mum. I know how awful they can be (As my FOB mum is currently in prision for dealing drugs...) but i think two people should never break up because of anyone else, but only because of each other. Me and FOB broke up because he decided he didn't want us to be a family, and he didn't love me anymore. So i didn't get much choice in the matter. but if you love each other, try and work it out. What kind of problems are you having with the MIL?

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teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 12,868	Sending you hugs My ex broke up with me because I refused to have a termination. xx

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sweetlullaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 8,820	Long and complicated...trying to sum it up lol Me and FOB were v.good friends sort of started a relationship but didnt really iykwim. Got pregnant. Tried to work something out, wasnt happening he was completly unrealistic, getting pissed all the time etc didnt come to appointments with me. Had been sleeping with another girl and was "in love" with her..but she wasnt interested in him already had a bf and just wanted the company while her partner was working. Left me to it type thing so basically it didnt work out even from the start. lol Thats the really rough summed up crappy version.

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AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Mines an easy one. He left me because he was gay and had been cheating on me with men. You have to laugh though lol

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lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,994	Ummmm i found out i was pregnant, he wanted me to have a termination, i refused, so he just refused to talk about the subject for two weeks, then i found out he was cheating on me with like 5 different girls, so i packed his stuff for him and sent him on his way best decision ive ever made! lol I always said he could see lo though, he just chooses not too. xxx

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Linz88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Birmingham, England, UK Posts: 1,979	Me and fob broke up because he cheated and got another girl pregnant. I think you should talk to the mom and tell her to butt out if he's to scared to upset her

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