Anyone else feel like this?

brownhairedmom · Jul 7th, 2008, 18:05 PM

Does anyone else just get overwhelmed with the feeling that you're going to be alone for the rest of your life? I'm having a particularly bad day where I just feel like a freakin' whale and I'm literally having a hard time imagining that there would ever be someone out there who would accept me with a baby. I know I'm only 20 years old but my body is already *ruined* so I'm never going to look like all those other girls my age and I've already got so much more responsibility than any guy my own age is going to want to take on at this point

welshcakes79 · Jul 7th, 2008, 18:16 PM

hun, i think the guy who has you in his life will be lucky,
all the feeling you have at the min of whale-ness and "ruined" body are natural,
i feel like that and im in a relationship and nearly 30...
i have friends who were single mums who have met men and formed a family unit for their LO's.. some men are great with kids..
and it takes a special man to be a daddy, so when you find a man who loves penelope then you know he is a gud 'un

~ Vicky ~ · Jul 7th, 2008, 18:17 PM

Yes. Most days if i'm entirely honest.

As far as I can see, guys my age just want to go out, have a good time and not worry about responsibilities. Unfortunately I have responsibilities so we wouldn't match. I don't see many older guys wanting to take on me and a baby either.

All my friends keep telling me i'll find someone but i'm not really convinced. I'm also afraid i'll find someone I like and push him away because of how I feel about myself.

Younglutonmum · Jul 7th, 2008, 19:35 PM

I felt like this at first. I was absolutley convinced i'd be on my own forever but now see that's rubbish!!

Yeh there will be blokes who won't want our so called baggage but why would we want jerks like them anyway!!

I've been on a few dates as a prego lady & he was totally fine about the whole baby thing. I'm sure there's pleanty of men like him out there!!

As for the whole body issue thing - I look at my age as a blessing here. Im young & was in good shape before my pregnancy so I reckon it won't be hard to get back to how I was. Yeah i'll have a few stretch marks & may not be as firm as I once was but will your TRUE love care?? Nope

nikky0907 · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:13 AM

I think everyone pretty much feels this way in our situation.

But,come on,lets play rational here....we are young,we are beautiful and smart.(Look at me all smug here :LOL

And soon we are going to have these beautiful little bundles in our lives...

Yeah,life will change....love will change.

But thinking you are going to be single for the rest of your life? pfft
Any guy should be so lucky to be with you...and your body won't be ruined,I too worry about how will I look in a bikini but there's plenty of time to get back into shape.

You're gonna do great...and any guy that doesn't see that,doesn't deserve you or Penelope.
As Kelly said,anyone that dodges that responsibility deserves a toss on the street...

I truly,truly belive that there is true love for every person out there (that theory of mine does't really work in my practice

) and you,missy,didn't get your piece yet!

Moulder86 · Jul 8th, 2008, 07:55 AM

As the others have said we all feel like that at some point. I wasn't happy with myself before I got pregnant and now I'm even more paranoid about what my body will be like afterwards. What guy is going to want to be with an over weight, extremely self concious mother!! But there's someone out there for us all it's just going to take time, don't go looking for it because you won't find it but it will turn up!! xxx

alio · Jul 9th, 2008, 10:47 AM

Oh believe me, there are still plenty of good men out there who will see it as an honour and a priveledge to be with women as strong as you guys have and will become. See it as an asset and view it positively. You girls have grit, determination and are steely women. I bloody salute you. Those kids are going to be very lucky... and so are the men!!!! Hurrah!

blondie_ · Jul 9th, 2008, 12:23 PM

Im not a mum/pregnant at the moment or anything but i can think its only natrual to feel like this. I know you may not believe it at the moment but there are men out there who would love to date you and dont mind that you come with a child. Your body isnt ruined you have just been blessed with having a child. One of my friends had a baby a few years back and she soon got her figure she looks great! You have got what the other girls havent a child. Good Luck.

brownhairedmom · Jul 9th, 2008, 15:24 PM

Blahh its just so difficult. I keep seeing stretch marks showing up and my belly just growing, and I know its supposed to be wonderful and a beautiful thing but I can't stop obsessing about how I'm going to look after

I wish that person would just show up NOW. But then again, as Oprah says "Mr. Right is coming. But he's in Africa. And he's walking."

xJG30 · Jul 9th, 2008, 17:31 PM

I feel like that sometimes especially atm.. It's weird as i'm kinda getting to know 19 y/o who's a hell of alot more mature / happy with bump than bump's dad was =/

Jul 7th, 2008, 18:05 PM	#1
brownhairedmom Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 6,444	Anyone else feel like this? Does anyone else just get overwhelmed with the feeling that you're going to be alone for the rest of your life? I'm having a particularly bad day where I just feel like a freakin' whale and I'm literally having a hard time imagining that there would ever be someone out there who would accept me with a baby. I know I'm only 20 years old but my body is already ruined so I'm never going to look like all those other girls my age and I've already got so much more responsibility than any guy my own age is going to want to take on at this point

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welshcakes79 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 2,854	hun, i think the guy who has you in his life will be lucky, all the feeling you have at the min of whale-ness and "ruined" body are natural, i feel like that and im in a relationship and nearly 30... i have friends who were single mums who have met men and formed a family unit for their LO's.. some men are great with kids.. and it takes a special man to be a daddy, so when you find a man who loves penelope then you know he is a gud 'un

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Jul 7th, 2008, 18:17 PM	#3
~ Vicky ~ Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 1,270	Yes. Most days if i'm entirely honest. As far as I can see, guys my age just want to go out, have a good time and not worry about responsibilities. Unfortunately I have responsibilities so we wouldn't match. I don't see many older guys wanting to take on me and a baby either. All my friends keep telling me i'll find someone but i'm not really convinced. I'm also afraid i'll find someone I like and push him away because of how I feel about myself.

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Jul 7th, 2008, 19:35 PM	#4
Younglutonmum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Luton Posts: 3,157	I felt like this at first. I was absolutley convinced i'd be on my own forever but now see that's rubbish!! Yeh there will be blokes who won't want our so called baggage but why would we want jerks like them anyway!! I've been on a few dates as a prego lady & he was totally fine about the whole baby thing. I'm sure there's pleanty of men like him out there!! As for the whole body issue thing - I look at my age as a blessing here. Im young & was in good shape before my pregnancy so I reckon it won't be hard to get back to how I was. Yeah i'll have a few stretch marks & may not be as firm as I once was but will your TRUE love care?? Nope

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Jul 8th, 2008, 01:13 AM	#5
nikky0907 Mum (Mom) Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: New England, USA Posts: 11,326	I think everyone pretty much feels this way in our situation. But,come on,lets play rational here....we are young,we are beautiful and smart.(Look at me all smug here :LOL And soon we are going to have these beautiful little bundles in our lives... Yeah,life will change....love will change. But thinking you are going to be single for the rest of your life? pfft Any guy should be so lucky to be with you...and your body won't be ruined,I too worry about how will I look in a bikini but there's plenty of time to get back into shape. You're gonna do great...and any guy that doesn't see that,doesn't deserve you or Penelope. As Kelly said,anyone that dodges that responsibility deserves a toss on the street... I truly,truly belive that there is true love for every person out there (that theory of mine does't really work in my practice ) and you,missy,didn't get your piece yet!

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Jul 8th, 2008, 07:55 AM	#6
Moulder86 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Billericay Essex Posts: 602	As the others have said we all feel like that at some point. I wasn't happy with myself before I got pregnant and now I'm even more paranoid about what my body will be like afterwards. What guy is going to want to be with an over weight, extremely self concious mother!! But there's someone out there for us all it's just going to take time, don't go looking for it because you won't find it but it will turn up!! xxx

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Jul 9th, 2008, 10:47 AM	#7
alio Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2,942	Oh believe me, there are still plenty of good men out there who will see it as an honour and a priveledge to be with women as strong as you guys have and will become. See it as an asset and view it positively. You girls have grit, determination and are steely women. I bloody salute you. Those kids are going to be very lucky... and so are the men!!!! Hurrah!

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Jul 9th, 2008, 12:23 PM	#8
blondie_ Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NorthWest Posts: 261	Im not a mum/pregnant at the moment or anything but i can think its only natrual to feel like this. I know you may not believe it at the moment but there are men out there who would love to date you and dont mind that you come with a child. Your body isnt ruined you have just been blessed with having a child. One of my friends had a baby a few years back and she soon got her figure she looks great! You have got what the other girls havent a child. Good Luck.

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Jul 9th, 2008, 15:24 PM	#9
brownhairedmom Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 6,444	Blahh its just so difficult. I keep seeing stretch marks showing up and my belly just growing, and I know its supposed to be wonderful and a beautiful thing but I can't stop obsessing about how I'm going to look after I wish that person would just show up NOW. But then again, as Oprah says "Mr. Right is coming. But he's in Africa. And he's walking."

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Jul 9th, 2008, 17:31 PM	#10
xJG30 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Nottingham Posts: 22,643	I feel like that sometimes especially atm.. It's weird as i'm kinda getting to know 19 y/o who's a hell of alot more mature / happy with bump than bump's dad was =/

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