hi girls.

a bit of background.. me and fob broke up when I was 35 weeks pregnant as I found him cheating. we argued throughout the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy over babys name, if he was going to be at the birth etc... I recieved nothing but grief off him!! I gave birth to alfie and rang him up straight after to tell him and I got a load of abuse off him cause I didn't let him know when I was in labour (my mum text him saying I was having problems, things were moving VERY quickly - but he slept through this text). he cane to the hospital straight away to see alfie, he came to my house the following 2 days and then after that he made excuses. the next time we saw him, alfie was 4 weeks old and it was when we got him registered. we haven't seen or heard from him since.

I phoned the CSA yesterday as I think it's every fathers right to financially support their child, but I'm beginning to think it was the wrong thing to do.

I don't want to see fob, and I have spoken to a solicitor when alfie was first born for general advise - she said that if he ever want access to do it through a children center as supervised visits only as he cannot be trusted alone.

also I dont know what he is like financially at the moment!!!

should I carry on with the claim or cancel it. I'm so happy being a single parent, but I don't want alfie to grow up without a dad.

any advise is hugely appreciated. I'm in such a mess at the moment

xxx

carry on with the claim.
dads should provide for their children.
not only is it the law... its morally the right thing to do.

I would carry on with it

Is there a reason why he can't be trusted & would need supervised access? xx

Carry on hun.

He should pay for his child no matter if he is seeing him or not. It's the right thing to do, and every little helps when you're a single mum x

the reason he can't be trusted is that he has anger problems and has made many threats to me whilst I was pregnant and soon after given birth, one threat said that he was going to take alfie off me as I'm a irresponsible mother... and i have no idea how he thought that one up because alfie is my world and i alway put him before anyone and anything - but my solicitor said to keep things supervised until he has built up the trust.

thank you girls xx

You're an irresponsible mother? Um, how does he figure that? He's an irresponsible father, more like!

Sorry for butting in (I'm not a single parent) but I just couldn't believe that one.

Sorry that you're having to go through this, some of the things these men come up with are just amazing!