Widowed Father advice on moving on? - Page 2

MrsKippling · Oct 6th, 2011, 04:18 AM

I have nothing to add but just wanted to say sorry for your loss, put you and your daughter first and do what is best for the 2 of you xx

amotherslove · Oct 14th, 2011, 02:15 AM

move on when you're ready. love will find YOU if you're ready for it. and the sisters will have to learn to cope... you said nothing would every replace her, have you tried explaining this to them? how much she means to you still? you have a right to be happy again.. but don't get yourself wound up thinking your daughter NEEDS a mother. i'm sure you're doing a great job.. and she's very lucky to have a father

Laura2919 · Oct 14th, 2011, 04:37 AM

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Originally Posted by amotherslove

move on when you're ready. love will find YOU if you're ready for it. and the sisters will have to learn to cope... you said nothing would every replace her, have you tried explaining this to them? how much she means to you still? you have a right to be happy again.. but don't get yourself wound up thinking your daughter NEEDS a mother. i'm sure you're doing a great job.. and she's very lucky to have a father

I think this says it all

You do it when its right for you.

6lilpigs · Oct 14th, 2011, 04:43 AM

When you meet the right person you will find the strength to face your wifes family. We lost out mum at 39 leaving 5 children, my dad remarried about 3 years later and some of her family, sisters were angry about this, but we loved our step mum. I know if I was to go then I would want my DH to find someone else to love and look after him and the children, I would even send them down a suprise bundle or two as nothing heals more than new life, best of luck xx

ShanandBoc · Oct 15th, 2011, 06:44 AM

I just wanted to pop in and say so sorry for all those who have lost a partner / spouse. You are all an inspiration and your children are very blessed to have such a dedicated, loving parent xo

anna matronic · Oct 17th, 2011, 08:33 AM

I can understand the feelings of your late wifes family. I lost my sister in August, leaving my bro in law and their 3 children (4 and 7 month old twins) Me and my mum have talked about how one day he may well meet someone else and we would be happy for him and the girls to have a loving female role back in their lives. But it is still awfully sad to think about because it should be their mum

He is still VERY early and not even something that has gone through his mind. but as and when we will be totally supportive of his life. My sister also wouldn't want him to stay on his own forever and would want him to be happy again.

So you do need to do what YOU want, what is RIGHT for you and your daughter and at the RIGHT time. It is nothing to do with anyone else. As has been said, you are not replacing your wife, but you have every right to find another person to be with. Tell them straight how you want to live your life. If they don't like it then it is their problem and loss x x

Rachael4776 · Apr 1st, 2012, 16:52 PM

First I want to say I am sorry for your loss. I know all to well what it is like to lose a spouse as I lost my husband almost 3 years ago, June 22. I understand your family wanting you to move on because they love you and want you to be happy, but I also understand your late wife's family feeling insecure about that type of move as they are afraid they may lose contact with your daughter. You ultimatly have to do what you feel is right for you. You can't be a people pleaser in this situation...you have to follow your heart and do what is best for you. If you ever need to talk, you can email me anytime.

Rachael

Cazamatazaaa · Apr 2nd, 2012, 03:56 AM

I just want to say your guys are absolutely inspirational and true amazing people. what amazing fathers you are, and to the mummies that have lost there partners too... its something ending a relationshiop but losing your other halfs.. your inspirational.

Only you know whats best, never ever listen to anyone else, always listen to your self, you are your own best friend and only you know what is right, nobody has been in your shoes, nobody has lived your life, you are YOU, thats the only advice I can give sweet xxxxxx

Oct 6th, 2011, 04:18 AM	#11
MrsKippling Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,187	I have nothing to add but just wanted to say sorry for your loss, put you and your daughter first and do what is best for the 2 of you xx

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Oct 14th, 2011, 02:15 AM	#12
amotherslove Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: NB, Canada Posts: 1,311	move on when you're ready. love will find YOU if you're ready for it. and the sisters will have to learn to cope... you said nothing would every replace her, have you tried explaining this to them? how much she means to you still? you have a right to be happy again.. but don't get yourself wound up thinking your daughter NEEDS a mother. i'm sure you're doing a great job.. and she's very lucky to have a father

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6lilpigs Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,888	When you meet the right person you will find the strength to face your wifes family. We lost out mum at 39 leaving 5 children, my dad remarried about 3 years later and some of her family, sisters were angry about this, but we loved our step mum. I know if I was to go then I would want my DH to find someone else to love and look after him and the children, I would even send them down a suprise bundle or two as nothing heals more than new life, best of luck xx

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Oct 15th, 2011, 06:44 AM	#15
ShanandBoc Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Australia Posts: 5,893	I just wanted to pop in and say so sorry for all those who have lost a partner / spouse. You are all an inspiration and your children are very blessed to have such a dedicated, loving parent xo

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Oct 17th, 2011, 08:33 AM	#16
anna matronic Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: East Sussex Posts: 6,774	I can understand the feelings of your late wifes family. I lost my sister in August, leaving my bro in law and their 3 children (4 and 7 month old twins) Me and my mum have talked about how one day he may well meet someone else and we would be happy for him and the girls to have a loving female role back in their lives. But it is still awfully sad to think about because it should be their mum He is still VERY early and not even something that has gone through his mind. but as and when we will be totally supportive of his life. My sister also wouldn't want him to stay on his own forever and would want him to be happy again. So you do need to do what YOU want, what is RIGHT for you and your daughter and at the RIGHT time. It is nothing to do with anyone else. As has been said, you are not replacing your wife, but you have every right to find another person to be with. Tell them straight how you want to live your life. If they don't like it then it is their problem and loss x x

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Apr 1st, 2012, 16:52 PM	#17
Rachael4776 Mum (Mom) New BnB member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Southern Ca. Posts: 1	First I want to say I am sorry for your loss. I know all to well what it is like to lose a spouse as I lost my husband almost 3 years ago, June 22. I understand your family wanting you to move on because they love you and want you to be happy, but I also understand your late wife's family feeling insecure about that type of move as they are afraid they may lose contact with your daughter. You ultimatly have to do what you feel is right for you. You can't be a people pleaser in this situation...you have to follow your heart and do what is best for you. If you ever need to talk, you can email me anytime. Rachael

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 03:56 AM	#18
Cazamatazaaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nottingham,UK Posts: 894	I just want to say your guys are absolutely inspirational and true amazing people. what amazing fathers you are, and to the mummies that have lost there partners too... its something ending a relationshiop but losing your other halfs.. your inspirational. Only you know whats best, never ever listen to anyone else, always listen to your self, you are your own best friend and only you know what is right, nobody has been in your shoes, nobody has lived your life, you are YOU, thats the only advice I can give sweet xxxxxx

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