Single mums to be - Page 2

bumphenders · Jan 30th, 2012, 14:42 PM

I haven't seen FOB since before I told him I was pregnant...
We have had a lot of issues and now I don't speak to him.
Haven't since the beginning of Jan (I think) And I don't plan on running after him anymore (Done it 4/5times)
He knows when my son is due to be born, he has my number and he knows where I live.
I contacted his brother through facebook, the family apparently didn't know I was pregnant, then the last time we argued I deleted his brother and haven't heard from any of them since.

My son doesn't need anything from him! And he won't be at the birth or going on the birth certificate either.
It saddens me that my son won't have his biological dad around, but he has more then one father figures in his life so I know he has 10 times more then what his real dad would give him!

BadassMom · Jan 30th, 2012, 14:54 PM

I'd like to revise my earlier answer. I'm not putting FOB on the birth certificate, and the baby will have my last name. I'm not sure if I even want him at the birth, but I'm sure as hell not contacting him. He knows when I'm due.

bumphenders · Jan 30th, 2012, 15:09 PM

Oh and LO will have my last name

Dezireey · Jan 30th, 2012, 19:51 PM

My LO will have my name and as far as registering the birth, well I can't do it without FOB present anyway so if he refuses to do it, he refuses.

I have tried lots of different ways to make him understand/see sense like going down the nice route and also going ballistic on him. Nothing works, he just either ignores me (when I have gone crazy on him) or responds that he misses me but does nothing about it. It really feels like he is denying to himself that this is all happening.

I will tell him when the baby is born and that is it, the rest is up to him. People are different I guess. If I were a man, it would just drive me plum crazy knowing I had a kid in this world and I hadn't at least seen them or got involved in some way. But I reckon some men just have little or no emotion about these things and just don't give a hoot.

BadassMom · Jan 31st, 2012, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezireey

If I were a man, it would just drive me plum crazy knowing I had a kid in this world and I hadn't at least seen them or got involved in some way. But I reckon some men just have little or no emotion about these things and just don't give a hoot.

My best friend (who is also a single mom with a deadbeat FOB) talk about this all the time. How can men have a child and not do anything to support or care for the LO, and still sleep at night???

bumphenders · Jan 31st, 2012, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by BadassMom

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Originally Posted by Dezireey

If I were a man, it would just drive me plum crazy knowing I had a kid in this world and I hadn't at least seen them or got involved in some way. But I reckon some men just have little or no emotion about these things and just don't give a hoot.

My best friend (who is also a single mom with a deadbeat FOB) talk about this all the time. How can men have a child and not do anything to support or care for the LO, and still sleep at night???

Ikwym! I couldn't imagine not being involved with my LO, it frustrates me how men can just walk away and be so heartless about it all!

louloubelle76 · Feb 4th, 2012, 05:24 AM

Hi ladies

sorry havent replyed but from my ticker you can tell little madam come 6 weeks early, havent contacted FOB either.

What im going to do is wait until my orginal due date (4th march) ironic really as this is the day when I register her without him and his name, i will then send a shitty text saying thanks for your concern about your daughter thoughout my pregnancy if you did bother to contact me you would have known I had her back in January.

I dont know why these men dont have anything to do with their children, my dad left when i was young but we still saw him every weekend until 1 weekend he didnt turn up so my mum wasnt happy we was all ready waiting for him and he didnt show, i dont want that for my little girl either.

bumphenders · Feb 4th, 2012, 05:38 AM

Awww congratulations! I hope you are both well!

FOB is the one missing out

..katie.. · Feb 4th, 2012, 18:52 PM

I will let him know. I still very much am good with his family. I will also put his name on her bc because he is her father. Whether or not he chooses to be a dad is his choice.

..katie.. · Feb 4th, 2012, 18:53 PM

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Originally Posted by louloubelle76

Hi ladies

sorry havent replyed but from my ticker you can tell little madam come 6 weeks early, havent contacted FOB either.

What im going to do is wait until my orginal due date (4th march) ironic really as this is the day when I register her without him and his name, i will then send a shitty text saying thanks for your concern about your daughter thoughout my pregnancy if you did bother to contact me you would have known I had her back in January.

I dont know why these men dont have anything to do with their children, my dad left when i was young but we still saw him every weekend until 1 weekend he didnt turn up so my mum wasnt happy we was all ready waiting for him and he didnt show, i dont want that for my little girl either.

Congrats

Jan 30th, 2012, 14:42 PM	#11
bumphenders Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Sunderland, Tyne and Wear Posts: 1,571	I haven't seen FOB since before I told him I was pregnant... We have had a lot of issues and now I don't speak to him. Haven't since the beginning of Jan (I think) And I don't plan on running after him anymore (Done it 4/5times) He knows when my son is due to be born, he has my number and he knows where I live. I contacted his brother through facebook, the family apparently didn't know I was pregnant, then the last time we argued I deleted his brother and haven't heard from any of them since. My son doesn't need anything from him! And he won't be at the birth or going on the birth certificate either. It saddens me that my son won't have his biological dad around, but he has more then one father figures in his life so I know he has 10 times more then what his real dad would give him!

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Jan 30th, 2012, 14:54 PM	#12
BadassMom Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Michigan, USA Posts: 1,235	I'd like to revise my earlier answer. I'm not putting FOB on the birth certificate, and the baby will have my last name. I'm not sure if I even want him at the birth, but I'm sure as hell not contacting him. He knows when I'm due.

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Jan 30th, 2012, 15:09 PM	#13
bumphenders Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Sunderland, Tyne and Wear Posts: 1,571	Oh and LO will have my last name

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Jan 30th, 2012, 19:51 PM	#14
Dezireey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 953	My LO will have my name and as far as registering the birth, well I can't do it without FOB present anyway so if he refuses to do it, he refuses. I have tried lots of different ways to make him understand/see sense like going down the nice route and also going ballistic on him. Nothing works, he just either ignores me (when I have gone crazy on him) or responds that he misses me but does nothing about it. It really feels like he is denying to himself that this is all happening. I will tell him when the baby is born and that is it, the rest is up to him. People are different I guess. If I were a man, it would just drive me plum crazy knowing I had a kid in this world and I hadn't at least seen them or got involved in some way. But I reckon some men just have little or no emotion about these things and just don't give a hoot.

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Feb 4th, 2012, 05:24 AM	#17
louloubelle76 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: London Posts: 682	Hi ladies sorry havent replyed but from my ticker you can tell little madam come 6 weeks early, havent contacted FOB either. What im going to do is wait until my orginal due date (4th march) ironic really as this is the day when I register her without him and his name, i will then send a shitty text saying thanks for your concern about your daughter thoughout my pregnancy if you did bother to contact me you would have known I had her back in January. I dont know why these men dont have anything to do with their children, my dad left when i was young but we still saw him every weekend until 1 weekend he didnt turn up so my mum wasnt happy we was all ready waiting for him and he didnt show, i dont want that for my little girl either.

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Feb 4th, 2012, 05:38 AM	#18
bumphenders Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Sunderland, Tyne and Wear Posts: 1,571	Awww congratulations! I hope you are both well! FOB is the one missing out

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Feb 4th, 2012, 18:52 PM	#19
..katie.. Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: SW wy Posts: 3,341	I will let him know. I still very much am good with his family. I will also put his name on her bc because he is her father. Whether or not he chooses to be a dad is his choice.

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