i'm 38 weeks pregnant with my daughter and i have been split from her father since i was 14 weeks .

he's always been on and off about being there taking responsibility i asked him for money and swore i wasnt going to put him on child support and in the whole 9 months i've been pregnant now he's only given me 200 dollars. . . you guys know how far that goes when it comes to babies , that wouldnt even buy my carseat / stroller .


anyways , my case is involved in CAS(Childrens Aid Society) because when iw as 15 i was in Temporary Care cus i was a little shit disturber and liked to get high and run away from home ,

now im 17 I already lived on my own for a year i just moved back for a bit til Cianna is 3 or 4 months old and then i will be moving out with my boyfriend ..

- ANNNYYYYYWAYS , i told CAS that theres a chance that he might not be the father and i have no interest in doing a DNA test to see if he is or not because i dont want him in any part of our lives and even if he were to be proven the father it would make no difference .


Am i doing the right thing by saying theres the chance he didnt father her? i mean hes unstable , he lives in a shelter now because he didnt pay his rent , he sells drugs - and smokes weed every day ... i just dont want him around her!


What do you think ?


EDIT: HE IS THE FATHER THERES NO CHANCE HE IS NOT - but Im so sick of putting myself on the line for him and going out of my way to make things easy even my boyfriend said that girls normally first go after money when theyre pregnant and i dont want that i just want my daughter to have a father ... and im not going to put my feelings on the line OR hers for a half- assed commitment!

in your edit, you say all you want is for your daughter to have a father, yet in the original post you say you dont want him in your lives? is the boyfriend you mention a new boyfriend?

Well, as shit as $200 sounds... that is way more than I have ever got from FOB which is one giant fat 0! But I think in your edit when you say you want your baby to have a father you mean a good role model type dad not a waste of space loser?

I think it's a tricky one as you don't say whether he has actually said how much, or if any, responsibility or visitation he wants. I understand he sounds like a dead beat, he hasn't got a home of his own and sells drugs... no court in the world would let him have unsupervised access at all. To be honest, if he is that much of a waster, would he try and even take you to court?

Are you worried he is going to seek contact after the baby is born? Am a tiny bit confused at the moment.

i want her to have her father but i dont want her to be around HIM because hes not willing to go in 100 percent hes just around when its beneficial to him and he can make the time and she deserves more than that .

exactly , a good role model type dad , not a waste of space LOSER .
i doubt he would even bother to take me to court he doesnt care and he doesnt want the responsibility of a parent he is too busy sending money to his family and friends cus "they have kids" im pretty sure he has one on the way too ,

and i am kind of worried he is going trying to get in contact after a couple years... i just want him out of her life and i dont want to seem selfish for making that decision cus i do want her to have her father but at the same time i dont feel he deserves to be around her ... i dont know what to do ..

From what you have said he seems pretty unstable and it sounds like he should be looking into improving his own life for his LO before he can take on any sort of responsibility. What I would say is if he contacts you explain in a calm, mature manner that you think he should look into getting clean, getting a solid job and therefore a solid income. Therefore he could look into renting and make a better life from himself... and then start to think about including him securely in your LO life.

If that made any sense.