Originally Posted by teal

I'm sorry you're hurting so much. It honestly does get better. My ex broke up with me when I found out I was pregnant (June 2009) and I haven't seen him since. He cut all contact and doesn't have any involvement at all. xx

Originally Posted by lemontree12

does he pay child support for your son?
how where u when he was born, i have a fear, that when my daughter comes i will reject her because of the pain he has caused. i know it sound so horrible, and i work with children, so i do have a maternal side, im just honestly afriad that she will look like him and i just see all the pain he has caused.

i pray i dont have any of these feelings

Originally Posted by Shezza84uk

Believe me it gets better with time my story is probably the most deveststing and although I still feel hurt deep inside I've overcome and still recovering more and more everyday. I was with fob for 7 yrs we were best friends for 5 yrs before we got together, I met him at 16 we became close and he joined the army we stayed together while he continued doing what he loves... I got pregnant with my DD he decided distance was a big issue and left he came back saying he was sorry when she was born fast forward to 2010. I realised he was being distant and wanted to control me so I decided I needed to end it he literally bombarded me with I love you's and asked for a chance to prove himself I said ok! he then proposed and set a date for our wedding in 2011 we went ahead and planned everything 3weeks before the wedding he came home from duty to meet the vicar and sort out the registry etc he left to see his mum and called me to say he didn't love me and wanted nothing to do with me so I need to cancel the wedding!

I did and had to pay all the bits for late cancellation I never saw him again for 2 weeks to move his stuff out no explanation given at all 20 mins later he had on his FB status I'm free single and available to all the ladies! As you can imagine I was distraught! I mean how could someone do that and think its ok to destroy his family... After all that I had no contact until September he just turned up at my home I was welcoming as always somehow I already forgave him and my DD was so excited to see him he spent 2 weeks with us and almost slot back into a routine he went away again with work and I saw him again at Christmas end up falling for it again end up getting together but I realised he was happy to keep using me so I told him it was time to make some decisions he confessed he cheated the entire time as he was searching for true love but preferred if he was around to stop me moving on the wedding was all future faking to distract me from leaving I decided it was time to talk to him he said he was happy the way things were I said its time to end it as we were going in constant circles thats befor i knew I was pregnant now here I am pregnant with number 2 and alone again! Hes always supported our daughter but the most communication ive had with him was a mothers day card nothing else not even a phone call to ask how his daughter is!

The thing for me is I believe that life takes us on uphill struggles but you will eventually find your inner peace I had to start from the bottom by accepting the things I've been through allow myself to mourn and reflect cry when I needed and only then I found the peace to start the healing process.

I'm sure there is someone more deserving for all of us allow yourself to feel the pain go through the steps and follow through to your emotional, physical and mental healing process xxx