pain :(

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 12:53 PM

when will this pain go away? i feel so betrayed, i cant believe the man i love and gave 4years to can be so cruel in everyway. how can he already be in a relationship.

im so scared that he wont be in with me while i gave birth. and i will have to do it alone.

do u ever truely get over what these men do to us? i really feel like il never be the same again

Terukki · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:17 PM

Please if you are hurt and need someone to talk to go and talk to a counselor because something as horrible as that needs to be dealt with before you give birth.

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:27 PM

i feel that is something i need to do, in 3months i have went from being in a steady realtionship to being pregnant, made homeless, ditched, him getting into a heppily relationship with a model (looks clearly isnt everything but its a huge dent to the ego) and being told he wants nothing to do with our daughter. i really cant take anymore hurt and pain.

Dezireey · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:15 PM

hey hun, hang in there. i know how you feel and its so, so unfair and unjust as it is much, much harder to get over this than a normal break up. Sometimes my family just say 'forget it, move on, hes a loser' but they didnt make a baby with him did they? A big part of us just wants that loving family unit we always imagined and FOBs have robbed us of that for life. Even finding a great step dad helps in the future but our babbas still wont have their real Daddys because of these utterly selfish morons.

i was going to see a councillor but am so close to birth that i dont want to sit in a chair talking about the sensitive subject in depth bawling my eyes out. Depends if it works for you though, i might visit one after baby is born.

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:28 PM

thank u for your kind words. i really am struggling to deal with all this shit. i dont want to have any more time of work because i have had time off with stress, going to the council to sort of housing and midwife appointments.

i really didnt think life could be so hard at what should be the most amazing time ever.

i dont understand how cruel he is being, but yet his life seems so prefect, hes got a promotion, new girlfriend, there are doing things i wanted to do with him. its all so unfair, while im pregnant and struggling to make it threw the day. how is any of this
fair...

if i knew that he would regret the things he has gone and be so sorry it would be a relief that he has some sort of heart. not that i want him back but just for him to say what he done was wrong, and hurt even alittle bit.

Laura2919 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:43 PM

I'm so sorry hun

I haven't been on for a while so I am not sure whats happened.

It does eventually. I split with FOB in September 2011, about 3 weeks later I found out he was seeing his now girlfriend already and although I knew our split was final it still was like a slap in the face that he moved on so quickly, we was together 7 years but it also made me see that he isn't the right person for me. I've moved on with my life to places he could only dream of because yes he has a girflfriend but what else does he have? Nothing, his children will grow up with another role model in their lives because he wasn't man enough to be there.

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:58 PM

have you got another partner?
is he not around for your girls?
how can men do this it is so horrible.

x

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:02 PM

im ok now, i have these huge freak outs when i realise whats happened, then after a while i calm down. i guess this is all part of healing

Laura2919 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:02 PM

No I don't have a partner I am just doing my day to day thing. I've seen someone else but I wasn't feeling like I wanted a partner so it was fun really.
FOB has the girls every other weekend, he doesn't see them through the weeks so he goes 12 days without seeing them expecting that a 2 minute probing phonecall is important, he never asks to see them, doesn't do anything for them, he pays his maintenance money.
He's a born liar and I've learnt my lesson.

lemontree12 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:22 PM

my fob doesnt want to know my daughter, hasnt been to a scan, asked me not throw her in his face, not to turn up to his house with her, because he dont want to feel guilty for his actions.

i hate what he has done

Apr 8th, 2012, 12:53 PM	#1
lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	pain :( when will this pain go away? i feel so betrayed, i cant believe the man i love and gave 4years to can be so cruel in everyway. how can he already be in a relationship. im so scared that he wont be in with me while i gave birth. and i will have to do it alone. do u ever truely get over what these men do to us? i really feel like il never be the same again

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Terukki Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 104	Please if you are hurt and need someone to talk to go and talk to a counselor because something as horrible as that needs to be dealt with before you give birth.

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lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	i feel that is something i need to do, in 3months i have went from being in a steady realtionship to being pregnant, made homeless, ditched, him getting into a heppily relationship with a model (looks clearly isnt everything but its a huge dent to the ego) and being told he wants nothing to do with our daughter. i really cant take anymore hurt and pain.

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Dezireey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 992	hey hun, hang in there. i know how you feel and its so, so unfair and unjust as it is much, much harder to get over this than a normal break up. Sometimes my family just say 'forget it, move on, hes a loser' but they didnt make a baby with him did they? A big part of us just wants that loving family unit we always imagined and FOBs have robbed us of that for life. Even finding a great step dad helps in the future but our babbas still wont have their real Daddys because of these utterly selfish morons. i was going to see a councillor but am so close to birth that i dont want to sit in a chair talking about the sensitive subject in depth bawling my eyes out. Depends if it works for you though, i might visit one after baby is born.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 14:28 PM	#5
lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	thank u for your kind words. i really am struggling to deal with all this shit. i dont want to have any more time of work because i have had time off with stress, going to the council to sort of housing and midwife appointments. i really didnt think life could be so hard at what should be the most amazing time ever. i dont understand how cruel he is being, but yet his life seems so prefect, hes got a promotion, new girlfriend, there are doing things i wanted to do with him. its all so unfair, while im pregnant and struggling to make it threw the day. how is any of this fair... if i knew that he would regret the things he has gone and be so sorry it would be a relief that he has some sort of heart. not that i want him back but just for him to say what he done was wrong, and hurt even alittle bit.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 14:43 PM	#6
Laura2919 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 15,770	I'm so sorry hun I haven't been on for a while so I am not sure whats happened. It does eventually. I split with FOB in September 2011, about 3 weeks later I found out he was seeing his now girlfriend already and although I knew our split was final it still was like a slap in the face that he moved on so quickly, we was together 7 years but it also made me see that he isn't the right person for me. I've moved on with my life to places he could only dream of because yes he has a girflfriend but what else does he have? Nothing, his children will grow up with another role model in their lives because he wasn't man enough to be there.

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lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	have you got another partner? is he not around for your girls? how can men do this it is so horrible. x

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lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	im ok now, i have these huge freak outs when i realise whats happened, then after a while i calm down. i guess this is all part of healing

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lemontree12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 758	my fob doesnt want to know my daughter, hasnt been to a scan, asked me not throw her in his face, not to turn up to his house with her, because he dont want to feel guilty for his actions. i hate what he has done

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