So few days ago LO's nan asked me if they could have LO tomorrow for a family BBQ. So i said yes assuming it was at LO's great nan's. 2 days later she turns up at my door saying its going to be at FOB's GF's house. Told me to think about it before i replied. So i felt a bit deceived like they waited for me to say yes before they told me where it was and felt pressured to say yes.

I told my mum and she said she wanted LO as its bank holiday and she doesn't have to work (Works 6 days a weeks, about 8-9 hours a day). So i told LO's nan that my mum would want her. Nan then tells FOB and has a hissy fit texting me abuse! Keeping in mind that this so called 'dad' has LO 3 hours a week turning to 2 hours next week, calling me childish and i do nothing so i don't understand!

Hes in the army and im full time mum and uni student. Saying uni is fu*k all compared to army. Saying hes going to get legal action because im saying he can't see her. I've never said once hes not allowed to see her, never said it about his GF either. Theres so much SH*T he has got anyway with and this one time i go against what he wants he fights. Don't see him fighting for more time with her on weekends but when i say no to this BBQ he goes ape shit. Saying i use his parents for when i wanna go out!

In the end after he started about an hour of arguing over text i say to him if you wanna sort this out meet me rather than over text. He says no because he can't be bothered. Pathetic excuse for a man! Starting at me and not finishing it! Really?! Can there really be people out there THAT stupid!

P.S For effect, this boy decided that leaving his step dad to babysit downstairs is acceptable while hes upstairs with his gf...

After all that adrenaline in my system im feeling pretty good! Weren't at the time though! Just a little rant...

I would just cut ties with him. He is not taking care of the kid at all. He doesn't even watch him when he should be. Does he even pay for the kid at all?

Well in future they shouldn't lie.. Lies are always found out and the more people do it the more you lose your faith in them.

I'd have done the same thing. I've already said I do not wish for my girls to go to FOB's girlfriends house for anything even just a 10 minute visit, if FOB's girlfriend wants to see MY children she can do so at FOB's mums house or not at all.

And 2/3 hours a week is a disgrace FOB has the girls every other weekend and I think thats a small amount too.

thats unbelievable! they should have been honest with you from the start...i wouldnt let Evie go to any girlfriends house thats so disrespectful to you

Terukki - I could never do that because to me i don't have any right to. He has the same rights as me. Only way i would is if he hurt LO or he said he didn't want contact. He pays £100 a month for LO but only because his mum mentioned it. He would never of if she didn't. I weren't too bothered about it i don't want anything from him. It was his mum that said he should arrange when to have LO and even then its going to be 2 hours a week after Easter.

Laura - Hes a compulsive liar. Even when i was with him i stopped believing him not long after getting together. I really don't mind LO seeing his gf or going to her house. Its just they tried to be sneaky about it. That i didn't like and before i found out where it was i already said yes and felt pressured. So i snapped and said no. One time he fights for her is when he wants her round his gfs house but then 2 hours a week is good enough just for him? Eurgh! < what hes under on my phone. Haha!

Jemmie - I really don't mind LO seeing gf im not keen on it but shes still his daughter. Like if i was to meet someone he would have no right to throw a hissy fit about LO meeting him.

The amount of stuff he has done to LO is crazy and he can get away with it. I really don't understand if hes a d*ck on purpose or just PLAIN STUPID!

I'm the kind of person who does not like to give people a second chance. At least he want some time with his child I just don't know how anyone who could lie about something small. You seem like the person to have said yes if he told where it was going to be at in the first place. He should be watching his kid not anyone else!

This is entirely unproductive but it made me feel better this week. I found a ring tone that said "Jack ass is calling! Ignore this call!" and set it as "F"ob's ringer. He doesn't have the same phone number, but now seeing his name in my contact list doesn't irritate me, it makes me laugh immaturely.

Terukki - I don't like to give second chances either but because hes LO's dad. He has every right i do. I just don't want to give him any ammo if it does go to court. I think he only pretends to want to spend time with her to cover himself. He didn't arrange a time until his mum mentioned it. Or pay money for LO. He only fought to have LO for this BBQ because it was at his GF's house.

Yeah i probably would have. I don't like the idea of LO seeing or going to his GF's house but she is still his daughter end of the day.

MommaAlexis - I may have to get that ringtone! Although he never calls just texts cause hes too much of a coward to confront me even like that!

I hope things go well for you! Wishing you the best of luck!