some of them do not bond well with baby i left my baby dad when i was 5 months pregnant(we now together after worked out issues)until my son was 2 months and my bond was very strong but maybe because i dont have anybody else my parents are dead so my babies(i have 2 kids now) is the only i have
i really struggled
i felt hard done by-left with a baby and it was all down to me and FOB had it easy while my life had been turned totally upside down
when he would cancel on LO to go out etc it would drive me mad i would feel abit of resentment towards LO like it was all a burdon
it took me ages to bond with him-LO is a year old almost and i think now i finally feel that true rush of love the full on emotion etc to the full extent
when LO was born i couldn't say i loved him-IMO how can you love someone you have just met it kinda felt like
but now i love him so so much
i finally feel like a proper mum and i find it so much more rewarding now and feel we have a close bond
sometimes the fact that fob left and what fob does can shine a negative light on being a mum cause your too busy still being angry i think its only natural in that case to not be able to bond properly
I have been to the docs more times then i care to think about over the past 3 years seen 4 differant councillors? on the waiting list to see a 5th ( you only get so many sessions hence the amount of councillors) Nothing has been successful in changing my way of thinking.
Its got to a point where i dont even tell the people closest to me how im feeling because they tell me i should be ok by now as its been a long time.
What im told i should be feeling i dont, I wanted my child to have a mum and a dad, but because fob left i feel im a failure 'cause i cant give her the family unit i wanted too.
Awww sweetie there's never a time limit on how long it takes to feel better and I'm sorry when you've tried to talk people tell you that you should be ok
My ex broke up with me when I was 4 weeks pregnant and has no contact with me or my son. I don't feel like I had any bonding issues but I did develop postpartum depression.
At times on bad days I do feel like I'm a failure so I understand those feelings but you're really not. You are from far a failure because even when your ex walked out you were there for your little one. You're stonger than you think.
The first thing you HAVE to know is that you CANNOT control your feelings. Feelings are not good or bad, they just are. It is how you address them and deal with your situation which determine whether it's healthy or unhealthy. The fact that you have been actively seeking help instead of pushing those feelings aside is the hardest step and you are awesome for pursuing this. You know that you are caring for your child's needs and the fact that you are concerned about your bond with your child shows tha you are a mom and not just a mother already. Don't hold it in! Keep talking about it and making memories with your child. You never know when a breakthrough can happen and even the smallest events can make a difference!
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