me and fob split up yesterday, it's not the first time (we split up a couple weeks ago and also when i was about 4 month pregnant) anyway we kept falling out and after the last fall out he kept going out to his friends or if he stayed in he'd be on facebook/his phone or asking if it was alright to go out. he works full time and i am with lo everyday, i kept tryin to explain to him that i wanted him to spend time with lo when he came home from work/was off and he just said he went out because atleast at his friends there was nobody to moan/argue/critisise him! he would come home from work give lo her bottle sit with her for half an hour and then go out. we also had an argument the other night bcoz i told him that i didnt feel like he was interested in me and that i wanted to feel like he loved and cared about me, he told me that i was being selfish, that lo comes first (yes i know, i look after her all day!) all i wanted was for him to give me a cuddle and kiss now and again and to tell me he loved me and that i meen something to him, was that to much to ask for? was i being selfish :S? i was with his mum yesterday morning and she knows everything, she already wasn't happy with him going out and now theyv fell out, he came down last night with the rest of my stuff and i was under the impression that he was going out tonight so i made plans, anyway i asked him and he said no so i asked him if he wanted to take lo or if he wanted to ask his gran, he said he would have her (he's off tomorow) then as he was leaving he said he wasnt stayin at his mums anymore but when i asked him where he was staying he wouldnt tell me, so i phoned his mum and she said he's staying with his brother. she said on the phone how dissapointed in him she is and that she always wants to be part of mine and lo's life and that if he dosn't start giving me money towards lo she'll back me 100% to go through csa as she dosnt want me going throught what she did with fob and his 2 brothers.
i've had pnd (fob use to say it wasn't fair on lo, me crying all the time) and i know that i've been moody to him but i don't know if i was that unreasonable?
the thing is he now hates me but i really love and want to be with him, both my mum and his have said he's not worth it, but i really want him back and i don't know what to do
if you've read all this then thanks just had to let it all out
when it gets to the stage that his mum is angry at him that when you know for sure he's out of line, it does get easier as time goes on and you do get on with you life promise its not over for you he really doesn't sound worth it especially if he's keeping things from you when he's got LO it will take time but move on and forget being with him obviously he always gonna be a part of yours and LO's life but dont let him control it
thanks its just so hard, being near him knowing he dosn't want to be with him, we'v worked it out an are gonna try and be friends for lo's sake, think it may be making it a little harder for me though lol
thanks for your reply's xx
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