Advice Please!...

Pandasnax · Apr 15th, 2012, 14:06 PM

Just looking for some advice on behalf of a friend,

her and her boyfriend are having a baby but things didn't go to plan and now they have broken up, her ex is now discussing what happens when baby arrives and he is adamant the she can have full week alone with baby the he gets baby for 3 and a half days then baby goes back to mum for 3 and a half days and it will be 3 and a half days back and forth forever that's the agreement he wants to happen.

I was just wondering what peoples opinions are on this and whether its the right thing to do or not and why you think it.

would be allot of help btw she is 19 weeks pregnant xx

Dezireey · Apr 15th, 2012, 14:43 PM

Cant speak from experience but I do know that at the very least when this baby is born ( absolutely definitely if she breastfeeds) this will not be granted by a court. I believe when babies are just born, majority, if 99% of the time, they stay with Mummy with perhaps visitation rights for FOB. I then think things can change later on as baby gets older but not sure?

He wont be successful demanding this, especially if the mother does not agree. Sheesh, some men have no clue do they? Anyone would think they can magically produce their own breast milk or something?

jemmie1994 · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:59 PM

will do their baby no good being passed around like that they need one stable home and then arrange contact with father but majority of time i believe babies need their mother especially when they are so young they just have that bond you know? the guy sounds like he's being abit unreasonable and one letting her have one week alone with her baby?! he needs to get real yes he has rights to see his child but he has to understand boundaries making unreasonable demands will get him nowhere

MommaAlexis · Apr 15th, 2012, 16:33 PM

No not at that age. I can understand if they lived close by when their baby is 1-2 but not even slightly before that!!

Jinty · Apr 15th, 2012, 16:54 PM

I don't like the sound of that at all... That would be too upsetting for the baby and i don't think LO would ever get into a routine. Personally i think best is for FOB to visit while mum is there until LO is A LOT older.

Apr 15th, 2012, 14:06 PM	#1
Pandasnax Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Leeds Posts: 265	Advice Please!... Just looking for some advice on behalf of a friend, her and her boyfriend are having a baby but things didn't go to plan and now they have broken up, her ex is now discussing what happens when baby arrives and he is adamant the she can have full week alone with baby the he gets baby for 3 and a half days then baby goes back to mum for 3 and a half days and it will be 3 and a half days back and forth forever that's the agreement he wants to happen. I was just wondering what peoples opinions are on this and whether its the right thing to do or not and why you think it. would be allot of help btw she is 19 weeks pregnant xx

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Apr 15th, 2012, 14:43 PM	#2
Dezireey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 990	Cant speak from experience but I do know that at the very least when this baby is born ( absolutely definitely if she breastfeeds) this will not be granted by a court. I believe when babies are just born, majority, if 99% of the time, they stay with Mummy with perhaps visitation rights for FOB. I then think things can change later on as baby gets older but not sure? He wont be successful demanding this, especially if the mother does not agree. Sheesh, some men have no clue do they? Anyone would think they can magically produce their own breast milk or something?

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Apr 15th, 2012, 15:59 PM	#3
jemmie1994 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,681	will do their baby no good being passed around like that they need one stable home and then arrange contact with father but majority of time i believe babies need their mother especially when they are so young they just have that bond you know? the guy sounds like he's being abit unreasonable and one letting her have one week alone with her baby?! he needs to get real yes he has rights to see his child but he has to understand boundaries making unreasonable demands will get him nowhere

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Apr 15th, 2012, 16:33 PM	#4
MommaAlexis Other BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: North Bay, Ontario Posts: 3,679	No not at that age. I can understand if they lived close by when their baby is 1-2 but not even slightly before that!!

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Apr 15th, 2012, 16:54 PM	#5
Jinty Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: UK Posts: 445	I don't like the sound of that at all... That would be too upsetting for the baby and i don't think LO would ever get into a routine. Personally i think best is for FOB to visit while mum is there until LO is A LOT older.

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