Hi all, i have finally made the step to split from the fob. i am devasted but it needs to be done as we have had problems for a long time - last night i feared for my life as he was so angry - i was scared to go to sleep and i cannot live like that. i live in his house and he wants me and our son out by next weekend, otherwise if i dont pay something towards gas, elec, water etc he has said he will come home and turn everything off (he is working away at the moment). I am stuck as i have no family nearby (they are 3 hours away) and he has also said he will take the car next weekend too. i do not have a deposit for a rented property and he wont help me with that, plus im not even sure i could afford a rented house on my own anyway! he has also said that i am not allowed to take any furniture, although most of it is mine such as the bed, but he sold his bed so we could have mine so he is now saying it is my fault he sold his bed so he can keep mine. so i will literally be left with nothing at all, he is being so difficult and i just dont know where to turn. please help xxxx
Don't fear! Well done for making a step in the right direction...
No furniture is worth it. When I moved I let FOB take whatever he wanted as at the end of the day all I wanted was Harvey, and that is who I have.
Get yourself to your local council. Pack your clothes, pack your babys things and say to them you fear for your safety. They will get you into some emergency accomodation, if you can get to your families home, even if it's 3 hours away... If you can get there, then get there because you will be safe.
Good luck hun, just remember there are lots of companies to help fleeing mothers from violent partners. And violent doesn't have to be physical, verbal threats they take very seriously too. Xx
I agree with Steffy. In this situation your best to go to council. They will give you what you need asap because with LO thats what you need something quick. I went through council and its the best thing i've ever done. I got myself a lovely flat. Now that you've split with FOB, best thing for you may be with your family You need as much support as you can get. x
I fled my property when I left it and although I moved in with my mum my local council were wonderful and offered me and Harvey accomodation if we needed it. Not to sound ungreatful but I felt far more comfortable with my mum then I did anywhere else, but they have been wonderful.
FOB has since left my home and my brother has moved into it as it is mortgaged and I don't want to sell it just yet. I don't feel safe there so I am staying with my mummy.
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