Do guys date single mom?

Terukki · Apr 17th, 2012, 21:33 PM

I'm wondering if guys are turn off by a women with a child.

angelpkj · Apr 18th, 2012, 02:44 AM

some are i guess
i've met one lad who wernt "keen" about the idea but i've met plenty who don't care
iv asked if it doesnt bother them and they say nowadays everyone in their 20s has a kid with someone else so its more not normal to find someone who doesnt have any kids yet hahaha!

i think it takes a real man to take on someone elses baby
shows you what perhaps they could be like when/if you have your own kids one day

Laura2919 · Apr 18th, 2012, 02:54 AM

Well I always start my conversation with I have kids

weeds out the ones who aren't interested before anything even gets started lol.
Most of them don't want the responsibility of another mans children but most of them don't mind, remember some of them are single dads so they already have children.
You'll find someone who your on a level with and they will be understanding to the fact you have children and if they aren't they clearly aren't right for you..

teal · Apr 18th, 2012, 03:27 AM

As Laura said I always mention I have a son. If they are not interested because you have a child (or children) then they don't deserve you xx

faun · Apr 18th, 2012, 03:29 AM

I met my now husband when i was a 21 year old single mum of a toddler and it didn't put him off he was 24 with no kids. I went on several dates before i met him and most of the men had no problem with me having a child already and the few that did i just didn't date again.

Dezireey · Apr 18th, 2012, 03:52 AM

Funnily enough I used to be the type of woman that wouldnt date a man that had kids but i've changed my tune now lol. At my age (38) I am more worried about finding an available man in the future, rather than one who wont date a single mum. Most men my age have kids anyway or are old enough to usually not be bothered at all about dating a single mum. I hold out hope he is out there somewhere in my future!

Terukki · Apr 18th, 2012, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezireey

Funnily enough I used to be the type of woman that wouldnt date a man that had kids but i've changed my tune now lol. At my age (38) I am more worried about finding an available man in the future, rather than one who wont date a single mum. Most men my age have kids anyway or are old enough to usually not be bothered at all about dating a single mum. I hold out hope he is out there somewhere in my future!

Thank you for your input I know I'm pretty young with a child on the way. I'm not even ready for a relationship yet but I feel I will be ready some day and I was wondering how the dating scene goes for single moms.

Terukki · Apr 18th, 2012, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by teal

As Laura said I always mention I have a son. If they are not interested because you have a child (or children) then they don't deserve you xx

That is a very good point and I don't want to keep my child not notice because they will be the most important thing in my life when it comes.

Terukki · Apr 18th, 2012, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by angelpkj

some are i guess
i've met one lad who wernt "keen" about the idea but i've met plenty who don't care
iv asked if it doesnt bother them and they say nowadays everyone in their 20s has a kid with someone else so its more not normal to find someone who doesnt have any kids yet hahaha!

i think it takes a real man to take on someone elses baby
shows you what perhaps they could be like when/if you have your own kids one day

That's such a good way to look at it. I know one day I will start want to date or see other people and I'm scared me being a single mother and so young will scare guys off but I'm feeling way better about it. Thank you!

mischaa · Apr 18th, 2012, 12:26 PM

Yes they do Hun I never had trouble with finding men the trouble I had was finding one that wasn't just after u no what I dated 6 but only took it further than dates with my hubby

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angelpkj Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 363	some are i guess i've met one lad who wernt "keen" about the idea but i've met plenty who don't care iv asked if it doesnt bother them and they say nowadays everyone in their 20s has a kid with someone else so its more not normal to find someone who doesnt have any kids yet hahaha! i think it takes a real man to take on someone elses baby shows you what perhaps they could be like when/if you have your own kids one day

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Apr 18th, 2012, 02:54 AM	#3
Laura2919 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 15,770	Well I always start my conversation with I have kids weeds out the ones who aren't interested before anything even gets started lol. Most of them don't want the responsibility of another mans children but most of them don't mind, remember some of them are single dads so they already have children. You'll find someone who your on a level with and they will be understanding to the fact you have children and if they aren't they clearly aren't right for you..

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teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 12,868	As Laura said I always mention I have a son. If they are not interested because you have a child (or children) then they don't deserve you xx

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faun Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Norwich, Norfolk Posts: 2,841	I met my now husband when i was a 21 year old single mum of a toddler and it didn't put him off he was 24 with no kids. I went on several dates before i met him and most of the men had no problem with me having a child already and the few that did i just didn't date again.

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Dezireey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 953	Funnily enough I used to be the type of woman that wouldnt date a man that had kids but i've changed my tune now lol. At my age (38) I am more worried about finding an available man in the future, rather than one who wont date a single mum. Most men my age have kids anyway or are old enough to usually not be bothered at all about dating a single mum. I hold out hope he is out there somewhere in my future!

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mischaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: West midlands, uk Posts: 251	Yes they do Hun I never had trouble with finding men the trouble I had was finding one that wasn't just after u no what I dated 6 but only took it further than dates with my hubby

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