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Old Jul 2nd, 2016, 11:53 AM   1
Thurinius
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school report has depressed me


My son is 5 and asd.
I've been very happy by the way he's settled into school. Even making friends which is something I thought he'd never do

His written report is very positive about his great progression during the year
However in the early learning goals he didn't achieve a single one.
This has so upset me. I was hoping he'd get at least one. Theyve been telling me at parents evening that he was advanced in maths yet he didn't hit the numbers goal either.


Feel utterly despondent and hopeless and foolish.



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Old Jul 2nd, 2016, 12:48 PM   2
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its taken me a long time to realise I need to just look at his progress and not compare him to what others are doing or what they "should" be doing. Be gentle on yourself xx



 
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Old Jul 2nd, 2016, 14:46 PM   3
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Yes I agree with pp, my dd has learning disabilities and global development delay and possibly autistic. And just because some kids are reaching goals doesn't mean you son should, he'll do it in his own time, my daughter starts specialist school in September and I'd be over the moon if she settled in well and made friends and good progress over the year. It wouldn't bother me if she didn't reach a learning goal cause she'll learn them in her own time, you son may not have reached a goal this time but he could reach loads next time. Everyone learns in their own time. And don't be so hard on your self, why feel foolish despondent and hopelessly?, you just want what's best for your son and there's nothing wrong with that. Your boy sounds like he's doing amazing. He sounds like my daughter, she will do things in her own time when she's ready not when she's told to just because everyone else does it by a certain age.



 
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im always saying this but i completely and utterly despise reports. my daughter has language problems. they arent as serious as they used to be and she communicates well shes at the stage of needing to look a bit closer to things discover hidden meanings etc. shes just finished her first year at school P1. Her report really was good she flew through all the academics but every single time what should have been an excellent report feels so tarnished with these "unclear whether she understood the question" and " look at how others are feeling" these language problems are affecting her social skills i just hate it because shes a very sociable little girl . everytime i read a report i feel the same way you feel when i thought everything was going great. hoping this feeling will pass soon and just know your not alone and it wont always be like this xx



 
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Old Jul 3rd, 2016, 01:58 AM   5
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im always saying this but i completely and utterly despise reports. my daughter has language problems. they arent as serious as they used to be and she communicates well shes at the stage of needing to look a bit closer to things discover hidden meanings etc. shes just finished her first year at school P1. Her report really was good she flew through all the academics but every single time what should have been an excellent report feels so tarnished with these "unclear whether she understood the question" and " look at how others are feeling" these language problems are affecting her social skills i just hate it because shes a very sociable little girl . everytime i read a report i feel the same way you feel when i thought everything was going great. hoping this feeling will pass soon and just know your not alone and it wont always be like this xx
I'd been to several parents evenings and his teachers stressed how brilliantly he was doing. I asked if he was keeping up academically and they told me his reading was ok and his maths advanced.
so it came as a shock that he didn't make the standard anywhere. But then standards are very narrow. So maybe he can't halve and double numbers but he knows all his times tables.
I just feel like if he's never going to make the standards why tell me. All it does is depress me. I'd much prefer just the written report



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Old Jul 3rd, 2016, 04:09 AM   6
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What are these goals? On our written report it didn't have goals on I wonder if because we're in scotland



 
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Old Jul 3rd, 2016, 05:56 AM   7
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What are these goals? On our written report it didn't have goals on I wonder if because we're in scotland
Maybe. They are called Early Learning Goals and you get 1-3 for each goal.
1 means emerging, ie you didn't meet the goal. My son got 1 on everything.
His speech therapist was surprised too. He'd assessed him to have age appropriate understanding.

I think I'm going to go and chat to his teacher about it.



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Old Jul 3rd, 2016, 06:44 AM   8
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That sounds like a good idea I'm going to look at our report again cause I saw early learning on it. I paid more attention to the writing



 
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I checked our report and it stated the level was early but no score/point system



 
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Old Jul 6th, 2016, 11:53 AM   10
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I hate those reports too. My son is in pre-school but he gets progress reports relating to his annual goals. It was depressing to see that he had not achieved most of them



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